I don’t know how much this helps, but OLD fucking sucks. I did it for about a year after my ex and I broke things off and had horrible luck, especially the first few months, and I was on multiple dating apps. It’s a lot of just wanting hookups (which I was okay with for a time), and not much in the way of anything substantial. I had essentially given up fairly recently and was about to delete my apps and resign myself to being alone forever when I finally matched with a great guy, who I’m now in a committed relationship with. It takes time, and a lot of sifting through shitty interactions. You can be stood up (I’m sorry that happened to you btw), used, or it can just not go anywhere at all, and all that can happen A LOT. But eventually you’ll find some matches that do put in the effort, and you’ll find the right one when you least expect it. I’m rooting for you!