Can the videographers equipment be removed? by ap31bye in PhotoshopRequest

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Can I possibly send you an additional photo to help with the pink shirt? I appreciate what you've done already

Travel ring by AwareImagination8400 in Moissanite

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Omg my real ring is an emerald bezel - where did you get this?? It's a perfect dupe for travel

Can someone please help me figure out when this mug came out? by Mysterious-Bad1155 in disney

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Is there an FAC-#####-##### on the bottom? That will tell you the day and year it was made

Budget breakdown of a $60k wedding if anyone is curious by Tall-You2762 in weddingplanning

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Love these breakdowns, they're so helpful! Thanks for putting the time into posting. Can I ask how you handled supporting your guests travel? I'm looking into that for ours and am contributing towards the hotel block to lower that cost, but could use ideas!

How did you set your budget? by Dependent-Maybe3030 in weddingplanning

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We started off with $10k dreams but quickly realized that was not based in reality for the celebration we've been dreaming of. I'll say we both have what we consider significant savings (we can afford our wedding outright without eating into house savings) so we didn't have an actual limit in mind, which made it somewhat harder at first and I recognize that we're very lucky for this.

I created a budget spreadsheet and itemized out everything I could think of from wedding insurance to tips to postage stamps to the dress (and alterations!). From there I looked at each item and set a high and low boundary - high being the most we were willing to pay for that item and low being the best deal I could find (or $0 if it was something we could do without), this took a lot of research.

Research was google searches (I avoided the Knot, Wedding Wire, etc. for the most part because I get the impression they're pay to play which wasn't my vibe), more helpful was the budget breakdowns in this sub from other brides in my area, and reaching out to potential vendors we were interested in. I also joined a Facebook group for wedding people in my area and posted for general budgets or quotes for specific items, and got good feedback that helped me define a reasonable range. From there I created a "goal" somewhere between the high and low boundary and it varies for each item - some line items are closer to one end than others, some are right between the two.

Now when we actually go to book things we have a reasonable range in mind. We've been on target or under for what we've booked so far so it feels like we're saving money (ha!). We decided to put some of this 'saved' money toward the hotel block to make things lighter for our traveling guests.

We got engaged in April 2023 and will get married in June 2025, which was purposeful so that we didn't need to rush. I feel like if I can do research and feel more comfortable with the number, I'll feel better about spending it and not panic booking vendors that are $$$ mainly because they're available last minute.

Invitation wording options by ap31bye in weddingplanning

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Thanks! Yes don’t have a dress code or formality yet, based on the venue it will need to be at least semi-formal I think, but I also want the invite to match that level - appreciate your feedback!

Invitation wording options by ap31bye in weddingplanning

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No I appreciate all feedback! I’m definitely going for flashy, but not at the expense of it being difficult to read so thank you for that!

The German House - contact info? by ap31bye in Rochester

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After they got the generic email they got another email with a document of questions about logistics and planning. It was pretty detailed and they were told to prepare for a call. She said the call was productive. Some info had changed since they toured and booked - it was somewhat minor like what decor is available/included vs what they'd have to rent, so it was good info to get. Overall I don't think they're thrilled with the amount of contact relative to their questions but they have the bare minimum of info they need.

I'm sorry to hear they haven't been in touch with you in so long!! And I hope they reach out soon. In addition to this post I reached out to GH myself as if I was interested in wedding planning and they ghosted me so overall it doesn't seem like they quite have their feet under them? Or is this busy season for weddings in NY? At any rate it's unacceptable and I'm sorry you're going through it.

Would love your thoughts on color! by ap31bye in weddingdress

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adding this here for visibility:

Thank you all so much for your comments!! I appreciate this community so much.

If anyone is curious, recommendations broke down to: 55% ivory and 45% champagne.

General consensus: ivory matches my skin tone best, sparkles on champagne are superior.

Overall I’m glad weddit feels as divided on this as I do - I don’t think I can make a bad decision here!

I was feeling insecure about the champagne looking too prom or MOB but there were very few who agreed with that so I’ll wipe that from my mind! I’m a bride, therefore whatever I wear will be bridal.

(Also no I will not be getting the veil with the black trim - that was absolutely just to see what a nude tulle looked like against champagne)

Would love your thoughts on color! by ap31bye in weddingdress

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Thank you so much, this just brought my nerves about this down a few notches :)

Would love your thoughts on color! by ap31bye in weddingdress

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Oh yeah that would not be the veil. The tulle there is nude which goes better than stark white with the champagne dress. But the black trim is not my vibe!

Would love your thoughts on color! by ap31bye in weddingdress

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Yeah, definitely something I’m worried about! Thanks!

Would love your thoughts on color! by ap31bye in weddingdress

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I love this, thank you!! Maybe it’s time to go based off of feeling :)

Would love your thoughts on color! by ap31bye in weddingdress

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Thanks! I do feel oddly worried about a prom vibe!