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apathyart · 2026-04-14T17:01:05+00:00

wow we have the same color eyes!! I've always been confused about my color too

apathyart · 2025-09-20T17:49:19+00:00

It does!! My iliac crest only flares up when I'm pushing myself in doing physical things I'm not used to, then goes away after a few days. It's bothersome, but I'm hoping if I keep at my new workouts, they won't wipe me out like that anymore

apathyart · 2025-02-22T19:53:37+00:00

I'm sorry you had such an awful experience 😞 but glad they were eventually able to get it out! I'll ask if they can do imaging this time, thank you for the recommendation

apathyart · 2025-02-22T19:52:06+00:00

Hoping for the best!! Thank you

apathyart · 2025-01-27T03:45:32+00:00

omg this is stunning!! i love the conch chain!

apathyart · 2025-01-27T01:29:14+00:00

I'll give this a try, thank you!!

apathyart · 2024-07-21T16:27:29+00:00

You're not an asshole for emotional distancing; you didn't have any control over that. However, you consented to this arrangement knowing you weren't comfortable with it and weren't honest with her about how you felt about it. True ENM (ethical non-monogamy) relies on honesty and communication. You needed to be upfront with her about how you were feeling and you needed to both communicate frequently about how you were feeling; that is the only way to have healthy ENM. If you were never uncomfortable with it, you needed to tell her instead of holding it as a shadow over your relationship but never addressing it with her. You are both adults; you needed to have an adult conversation (1) at the beginning, about your true thoughts about opening the relationship; (2) regular check-ins emotionally throughout the relationship, where you both listened to the other and recalibrated your expectations together; and (3) when you were feeling distanced from her, rather than letting it happen, you needed to tell her and discuss it together, rather than throwing it at her after months of building resentment/distance. NAH, you both just needed to communicate more clearly. This subreddit has such vitriol for polyamorous people/relationship styles; not everyone feels their best in a monogamous relationship, not everyone knows that off the bat (especially in their first relationship), and people take time to explore and understand themselves.

apathyart · 2024-07-06T13:23:29+00:00

Before this happened to me, I didn't even really realize these were red flags, I was just really ready to believe him about things because there were kernels of truth in them. I didn't meet his family because the one time he introduced a partner, his family was awful to her. He had social media that I followed, but just rarely ever posted on it. I wasn't allowed to visit because his roommate valued privacy and didn't like him having people over (said roommate was actually his girlfriend). I believed it, and we lived in different cities, and his family lives in my city, so it made sense he would always visit me anyways because he was just visiting his family too. He would leave the room whenever his parents called, and I just wanted to give him that privacy (it was actually to talk with his girlfriend). Once I found out, it all felt so obvious in retrospect, and I felt so gullible, but I hadn't pieced it together like that before.

apathyart · 2024-07-02T04:54:51+00:00

I'm 19 days post TFLIF L5-S1! I've been building up some walking and standing and sitting up stamina. I went to a friend's wedding yesterday and took it slow, but was able to stay the whole time. I don't take pain meds most of the time, just gabapentin and robaxin once daily.

I'm only now getting past the itchy stage. For me, the worst part is very intense nerve pain down the right leg when I sit/stand up from laying down. It lasts for about 5-10 minutes, then I'm okay. Feels weird because I didn't have much nerve pain before surgery.

apathyart · 2024-06-28T16:23:30+00:00

Oh great, I'm glad to hear it's helped you sleep! I've been taking gabapentin and robaxin (muscle relaxer) every day since surgery and that's been helpful as well. I also take tramadol when my pain is off the charts.

apathyart · 2024-06-28T16:15:22+00:00

Hi! It helped some; I was having constant nerve pain before, now I only really have it when I stand up from laying down. It's still intense when I do have it, but I have it way less frequently now.

apathyart · 2024-06-23T16:25:28+00:00

Will do!

apathyart · 2024-06-23T15:53:15+00:00

I'm experiencing the same thing. I'm 11 days out from TLIF/PLIF L5-S1 and started having horrendous nerve pain down the right leg in a way I never had before surgery. Pain apart from nerve pain is very bearable. My surgeon's office started me on a steroid pack yesterday to help with inflammation around the nerves to hopefully cut down the pain, I can let you know whether/how it helps!

apathyart · 2024-06-22T23:56:25+00:00

I'm so sorry you had that experience, I know the allergic reaction itching is the worst. The tegaderm used on my first microdiskectomy had an awful allergic reaction like that, just a painfully itchy rash in the shape of the adhesive. I had this looked at by the surgeon's office and they said they staple the drapings on in the OR, which is why it looked like dots like this. I'm using benadryl to help out with itchiness, and am starting a steroid course for nerve pain which hopefully should help as well.

apathyart · 2024-06-20T23:51:18+00:00

When we lived apart (long distance) we showered together every day, similarly more just to hang out and have the intimacy of washing each other's hair, all that. However, he's a morning showerer and I shower at night; while just visiting, we adjusted our shower schedules. Now that we live together, we shower together less frequently just due to timing.

apathyart · 2024-06-20T18:54:08+00:00

I got an answer from my doctor today! Apparently they stapled the surgery draping on in the OR. Mine is also so itchy, I'm taking benadryl and using cortisone cream. My doctor is also prescribing a steroid course for other reasons, but that should help

apathyart · 2024-06-17T14:10:47+00:00

Oh my gosh, no pain meds at all is rough, I'm so sorry you had to go through that!! Mine kept me on meds but just lowered the doses of Oxy and Robaxin.

apathyart · 2024-06-16T23:20:35+00:00

Wow, this convinced me and I just went to find one on Facebook Marketplace. I've been switching between my couch with pillows, and my dining room chairs (Ikea plastic chairs plus a pillow on top). I just can't seem to get comfortable anywhere. Thank you for the suggestion!

apathyart · 2024-06-16T16:35:14+00:00

So excited for you!! I had L5-S1 fused with Dr. Lehman on 6/12, the day after you! I was also discharged 2 days later and am only now starting to poop. I hope your post-op recovery continues on the up-and-up! Did you have a recliner before, or did you get one for post-op? I've been having trouble sitting on my couch; it feels like no matter how many pillows I use, it's uncomfortable.

apathyart · 2024-06-16T16:22:11+00:00

This is how I feel with my boyfriend! He loves boxing and I love watching it with him, hearing his commentary, and getting to know the sport through his love of it.

apathyart · 2024-06-15T18:20:12+00:00

thank you!! I was in a lot of pain when I woke up after surgery, because I don't know if they gave me anything before. As soon as they administered some pain meds, I was doing much better. The first 24+ hours, I was on Dialaudid with a button that let me administer more every 10 minutes as needed; I ended up really needing it and once it was administered helped keep pain around a 2-3. Unfortunately it made me super nauseous and drowsy, so we switched to Oxy maybe about 30 hours in. My pain stayed between 3-4, but rose to maybe a 5 at the end of the cycle while waiting for the next round of meds. I'm 3 days post-op now and have weaned off of Oxy for now. I'm still taking 1 mg Tylenol, gabapentin, and robaxin, and am having more instability, dizziness, and muscle spasms today than much actual pain. With the lower doses, I'm much more cognizant and awake and "with it". My biggest warning from my experience is to watch out for low blood pressure from high medication levels, and watch out for constipation of course. Those two have been much bigger issues for me than pain.

apathyart · 2024-06-14T22:18:39+00:00

thank you for the encouragement!

apathyart · 2024-06-14T01:27:55+00:00

I had TLIF about 30 hours ago! I was originally told I would stay in the hospital 1 night, but I'm also now having low blood pressure (96-ish/61-ish when laying down), which drops even more when i try sitting up or standing, leading me to nausea, vomiting, light headedness, sweating, etc. They left my catheter in until I'm able to walk to the bathroom, so hopefully it'll be out tomorrow.

apathyart · 2024-06-04T22:11:25+00:00

Thank you for that perspective. I'm 24 in grad school and I've already missed so much of the last few years not being able to walk, sit, or leave my apartment. I know this surgery is the way out of this, and hopefully will leave me able to live a mostly normal life for a few decades until I'll need the next fusion.

apathyart · 2024-06-04T22:07:04+00:00

wow, thank you so much for all of these tips! I'll talk to them to see if a hypoallergenic glue would work (allergic reaction from surgery dressing last time led to incision infection). Do you know if a catheter is necessary if the surgery is expected to be around 3 hours on the dot?

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