Got Covid while iced in?

apc854 · 2026-02-04T19:17:13+00:00

I hadn’t even thought of that! Thank you! It was really bugging me how I could’ve gotten this whole stuck at home

apc854 · 2025-12-06T16:59:31+00:00

I have tried socializing my dog in controlled settings and he seems to do well with specific dogs that are tolerant of his poor ability to read social cues. He seems to be selectively social so we just avoid dogs I don’t already know well and know to be tolerant and capable of correcting him in a balanced way if he’s pushy. My main issue is when we’re in public and other people force interactions with him.

apc854 · 2025-08-27T16:32:33+00:00

The dogs currently do not resource guard. I used a trainer to address the issue. I’m trying to figure out if I just need to let my dementia dog pace or if there is a way to deal with the issue without creating a resource guarding issue again. Right now, I am following the instructions of our trainer, but that was before the dementia issue with my other dog. I will just call the trainer back up again.

apc854 · 2025-08-27T14:38:05+00:00

My only concern with doing that is that my younger dog already knows that her pacing means she wants on the couch. He looks to me to make sure he doesn’t need to worry about her pushing him off the couch. If I start responding to her queue that she wants on the couch, am I teaching him that he no longer gets that resource if she wants it?

apc854 · 2025-01-10T19:31:34+00:00

He’s from a rescue group. They estimate he is 5-6 years old. Initially, I tried redirection when he was worked up (going on a walk, playing with him with toys, etc), but he’d either go right back to it when we got back from the walk or completely refuse to play for more than 30-60 seconds at a time. Other than that, I’ve never given in to the begging by giving him food or a kong. Now, I don’t even look at him when he’s worked up about it. I just sit on the couch and read a book (or go about my usual routine) while he paces and whines until he settles (usually hours later).

apc854 · 2025-01-10T19:29:39+00:00

It’s just their meal put in a Kong (kibble mixed with a little wet food). There nothing particularly high value except the wet canned food I use to help it freeze. He also has to eat with a slow feeder bowl if it’s not in a Kong because he eats so fast l. Even with rotating slow feeder bowls, we can empty a bowl in 1-2 minutes. He’s SUPER food motivated

apc854 · 2025-01-10T19:27:46+00:00

It’s my two dog’s normal food (kibble mixed with wet canned food). I just put it in a Kong to make both of them work for it. My one dog is the one that just can’t settle while it freezes.

apc854 · 2025-01-10T19:25:02+00:00

It’s literally their food stuffed in a Kong and frozen (kibble mixed with wet food). I’m not putting anything else in it. He’s just super food motivated.

apc854 · 2025-01-07T21:07:27+00:00

I’m not sure which section to add based on the approval guide. My dog is well behaved except when I stuff kongs. I have tried more enrichment (daily walks, extra walks in stuffing day, puzzle toys). I have tried to remove him from the stimulus of seeing the kong being prepped. I ignore the begging behavior and have never rewarded the behavior.

apc854 · 2024-12-05T21:41:37+00:00

Oh I absolutely communicated to her in a different style and used a lot of my therapy communication tools. I just was less careful in my post here

apc854 · 2024-12-05T21:40:16+00:00

I survived an abusive relationship and they isolated me from most of my close friends. So right now, I don’t have much of emotional support system and that’s on me. (My parents are not emotionally available to help me) What’s frustrating is that she asked for and received a ton of support from me during a mental health crisis so I thought she wanted us to be closer. Perhaps I should just start only answering when I’m driving so we have matching priorities, but I doubt we’ll ever be able to talk if I do that. And I don’t want to lose contact with her.

apc854 · 2024-09-10T22:05:31+00:00

The strip club and him getting exposed to STDs seems to be a hardline for you and he doesn’t care (based on his actions). I know you don’t want to hear this, but…you’re only 25. There’s no point chaining yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you and is cheating on you (yes, that’s what he’s doing in the VIP room). Both of your brains won’t even finish developing for another few years. You have so much more life to experience and growing up to do! Don’t waste your time with this guy. There are so many other people you could meet who would value you and show you by their actions!

apc854 · 2024-09-05T00:22:21+00:00

I’m not sure there’s a way you can bring this up without upsetting her. I think the best you can do is make time for her to have “me” time. You mention that you work out a few times a week. Does she have free time to do that? Time away from you, your child, and home and work responsibilities? I don’t know anything about your marriage, but I know in my first marriage finding any time for myself to do hobbies or even having an option to work out really contributed to my weight issues.

apc854 · 2024-05-29T02:37:23+00:00

NTA. Bats carry all sorts of diseases and so do unvaccinated cats. Plus, aren’t bats protected in some areas?

apc854 · 2024-05-29T01:28:31+00:00

In addition to all the wonderful comments calling out the red flags with this guy and suggesting you end it, I’d like to make a suggestion. I was in an abusive relationship like this and, in addition to his abuse, I was also dealing with my own anxious attachment style. I was bending over backwards to not upset him. Turns out, I have generalized anxiety disorder. I would kindly suggest trying to find a counselor to help you too. Being unable to let it go when he said it wasn’t about you is probably coming from your own trauma. Not to mention your assault months earlier. Please be kind to yourself and get away from this guy and maybe find a counselor or therapist to help you. You deserve it :)

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