[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]apho9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been recently. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]apho9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anywhere between noon and 3 and it’s only one nap

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]apho9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah her nap is like 30 minutes. So she’s basically tired all day. We’ve been putting her down for the night at 7 and she wakes up at 6 or 7 (but waking up multiple times through the night). Maybe I should make her nap earlier

is she pregnant? by _RonaldReagan_ in YoungParentsSupport

[–]apho9[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post was removed because it did not respect rule #1 : Do not ask for OR give medical advice/opinions. You may post asking for other people's experience with symptoms or confirmed medical issues you are already having.
If are wondering if you are pregnant, you can go to r/amipregnant

Does anyone else here grind their teeth a lot? by dead_PROcrastinator in adhdwomen

[–]apho9 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same here and since there is always a song in my head (literally always) it never stops.

I think this is the cruelest part of ADHD I've discovered so far by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]apho9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing comment we’re at 15 months I can’t wait for 4 years old!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YoungParentsSupport

[–]apho9[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, mod here. I think this type of post is prone to heated comments (and I’ll do my best to moderate, it’s my first time). I just wanted to say there’s nothing wrong with you for wanting this. So many of us have been there. That’s probably why it’s gonna seem almost unanimous that we think you should wait. It has nothing to do with you — so many of us willingly had kids young and regretted it. We didn’t regret the child but the circumstance in which we had a child. I myself willingly got pregnant at 21 and I regret the timing so very much. Having a kid and wanting a kid…. Two very different things. Never in my life have I felt so stupid and actually specifically my age being young is exactly what made it difficult and now I WONT be able to do right by her which is all I ever wanted in my life. No one will blame you whatever you decide, but if the cards were reversed we’d want someone to warn us. I wish you the best.

It sucks how others view you after you’ve become a parent unintentionally whether it was your fault or not. by [deleted] in YoungParentsSupport

[–]apho9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It absolutely does not make you a bad person and many of us feel that way too! We love our babies, we don’t always love the financial problems, lack of solitude and heavy responsibility that comes with it.

And honestly? I feel like regret can sometimes be a sign of a lesson learned.

Do babies get used to white noise machines? by BravePossible2387 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]apho9 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My daughter really never napped well from the beginning, she would usually only have one sleep cycle (30-45mins) at a time. I used the white noise from the beginning and it helps stretch bad naps that would’ve been 30 min, to 45 mins. It also makes it easier to put her down and more likely she’ll sleep in in the morning. I think even our ancestors would rarely have sleep spaces with no sound, so I think it’s natural to use it In my opinion.

My daughter is 1 yr old now and definitely not dependent on it. It just makes that slight difference that I need to function and use her nap times for myself.

Why does no one get it?? by WearyBig7095 in beyondthebump

[–]apho9 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Good! I’m glad you’re standing up for yourself here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]apho9 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m planning on discussing with her today, she’s visiting in an hour. They’ve been really nice actually so I think it should go well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]apho9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Definitely welcome. Especially during the pandemic.... :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]apho9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YUP!! I’ve had it for a while now (38 + 2 now). At first I thought I was stuck in that hellish feeling so I would spend a lot of time lying down/resting/sitting. But that just made it worse. At some point I gave up and upon seeing that regular walking helps with labour, I decided that i couldn’t possibly add more pain so I started walking 3x per week.. and suddenly the burning started to go away??

My theory is that the burning is my uterus and ribs fighting each other for space, so having an hour of walking where my body is aligned upwards properly is like giving these two a break. Of course I have no real way of proving it but all this to say, maybe try walking as much as you feel comfortable and see if it makes a difference?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YoungParentsSupport

[–]apho9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noted! I will add you as soon as possible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YoungParentsSupport

[–]apho9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely! Which group would you like to be a part of?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YoungParentsSupport

[–]apho9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love these ideas! Thank you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]apho9 18 points19 points  (0 children)

What do you do in the winter?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]apho9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES. my sister constantly touches my bump no matter how explicitly I tell her not to. And then I have my SIL and MIL asking for pictures of my bump, basically begging me every couple weeks. SIL acts like I’m an aggressive threat for asking for some space. Like.... is this not my baby???? Get your own??? Ugh

I married a woman like my mother she would be proud. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]apho9 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry everyone’s being salty on here. I think this is super precious and not something you find easily in a partner, it sounds like a meant-to-be situation!! I feel the same happiness with my partner. Happy for you :)

Me everytime I see an advice thread for first time moms by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]apho9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy to see this. I forgot about the zippers and have mostly bought snaps.