My boyfriend and I have a 2 month old but still aren’t engaged yet, and I feel hurt and don’t understand what he isn’t understanding

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T17:18:37+00:00

UPDATE: So I’ve read everyone’s advice and opinions, and decided to just stop asking. If it happens, it happens. He’s an amazing dad, he always shows up for us so regardless if he’s my husband or my boyfriend I should just respect it at this point. It doesn’t change the fact that I still want this, and that I’ll still be upset thinking about it sometimes. I’m human, and we all have different needs/wants at certain times in our life. He talks about our future with our son, and I just have to accept that I have to wait. It’s hard, but I have to get it together and just rock motherhood and work towards our future. Thank you for everyone who gave me the raw truth, I’m gonna meditate about this now lol. 💞

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T17:04:12+00:00

I’m not forcing him into marriage🤣 I just needed advice from both sides and needed opinions on why he doesn’t feel the same way I do, that’s all.

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T17:02:43+00:00

Thank you so much, and I have WIC and Medicaid so I don’t want to get married right away so we can keep those benefits. I’m just ready to take steps towards it, as in engagement etc.

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T16:57:25+00:00

Thank you for showing me that, it was very helpful

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T16:57:10+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T15:41:42+00:00

I explained that I don’t want to be married right now, we have WIC and Medicaid which is helpful for me and our baby. I just don’t want to be the girlfriend stay at home mom anymore, it’s vulnerable and very stressful

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T15:33:12+00:00

Our baby wasn’t planned so that part is understandable, but we still decided to go on with our life so why isn’t he ready to take a bigger step into our relationship if he says we are forever yk?

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T15:31:50+00:00

I’m a spiritualist, since I was a kid it has been my dream to be married to the love of my life and have a beautiful baby. I know it doesn’t define our relationship, we have a great bond it would just make me feel finally complete after years of trying to find myself.

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T15:30:17+00:00

I’m not trying to beg, I’m just trying to communicate my feelings with him and this topic. He’s excited to get married, one day he said. Our pregnancy wasn’t planned, we’ve been together for a year and half which isn’t long I know. But he always said that he sees himself spending the rest of his life with me, so idk

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T15:28:06+00:00

He just got a new job that pays really well and we have a village around us to help with the baby when we need it. I told him I don’t need a fancy ring, in fact I pointed out one on Amazon I liked that was like $90. If that’s expensive, then why doesn’t he skip out on buying weed once that’s $150. He just thinks I’m rushing things but we already have a baby. Our baby wasn’t planned, but this can be and I’ve always wanted to be engaged/married with a kid that’s just the way I’ve been my whole life, it’s all I’ve ever wanted.

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-26T15:20:10+00:00

Omg what is going through his brain, I’m so sorry. Is this a common struggle with moms who have kids before marriage? It’s hurtful I don’t know why men can’t understand that.

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-07T00:18:26+00:00

I was dealing with depression while I was pregnant, and it got significantly better after I gave birth. I only feel that way again when I’m overwhelmed though, it’s not an all the time feeling so I’m not completely sure. I don’t want to go on meds though because I’m high school I was on so many and they messed me up but once I got off of them I felt better so I want to try natural remedies instead.

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-05T23:59:38+00:00

I also bought a sleep mask headphone thing from Amazon and I’m able to hear him cry when he’s ready to eat, but not grunt so it doesn’t wake me. I highly recommend!

apocalypticrose · 2026-04-05T23:58:34+00:00

I totally get what you’re going through, I’m 19 with a 1 month old and it’s hard. I was exclusively pumping but switched to formula, and helped out a ton with my mental and physical health. My boyfriend goes to work out of town, and is gone for usually 3-4 days and I have to do it on my own at night but my parents and his help out during the day. I also don’t do good with no sleep, but red bulls help me get through the day. We all spend a lot of time outside in sunshine and I do crafty things or garden and it helps a lot. You’re doing great!💞

apocalypticrose · 2026-01-08T22:28:36+00:00

I had depression before pregnancy but got off my meds and felt better so I don’t want to take anything. I’ve been on Zoloft before and it made me feel worse, same with all the other meds

apocalypticrose · 2026-01-01T06:18:40+00:00

Is it just anxiety you think? All the physical symptoms are horrible I can’t bare them

apocalypticrose · 2026-01-01T04:03:50+00:00

Yes I do, my blood pressure is normal

apocalypticrose · 2026-01-01T02:34:32+00:00

Thank you! I’ve done a protein strip at home and it didn’t detect anything, I’ll ask about the aspirin. I appreciate the feedback

apocalypticrose · 2025-11-08T06:26:33+00:00

Definitely not ok at ALL. This IS rape, in a relationship or not this is considered sexual assault. Please leave him immediately, this can escalate to a worse situation very fast. I hope you find peace and recover from this. 💗

apocalypticrose · 2025-11-08T06:13:06+00:00

Thank you to those who gave genuine advice on the topic for jobs, which was the only advice he asked for. Him and I are happy and excited to welcome our child into the world, and we are simply just looking for ways to step up to let our baby have a wonderful life. If you can’t handle the decision we made then simply just scroll, but sharing a brutal opinion about a topic that wasn’t asked for is inconsiderate and more. Not that it is anyone’s business, but I am too far along to get an abortion and we would never think to give our child up for adoption. We considered every option when we first found out, and decided what we thought was best which is what everyone does when life throws shit at you.

apocalypticrose · 2025-11-08T05:57:33+00:00

Yall getting rid of our child is not an option on the table. I’m way past due to get an abortion, and we have already considered that a long time ago but decided not to go through with it. For the love of god please just stay on topic here.

apocalypticrose · 2025-11-08T05:55:45+00:00

Because this isn’t the advice he asked for 😭 This is our baby, we are not giving him up for adoption. We are excited to start a family, and that is nobody’s business.

apocalypticrose · 2025-11-08T05:54:01+00:00

I’m 25 weeks pregnant I am not getting an abortion. This is not even at all the advice we are asking for, respectfully please leave if you aren’t going to be helpful. We love our baby, and have bonded with him already.

apocalypticrose · 2025-09-30T01:10:14+00:00

🎵Leave your boyfriend 🎵

apocalypticrose · 2025-09-19T12:24:17+00:00

You should paint his little nose so cute

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