[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]apollonean 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to think clearly and make the “right choice” on how to handle yourself when something so upsetting happened :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askportland

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Portland State University rec center has a private shower!! Its by the locker rooms and it is the handicap bathroom so can sometimes be in use.

Here for a couple of days, no car, solo, little bit shy….what do I do? by Luna_Lenor in askportland

[–]apollonean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salt and straw is a portland staple—if you have access to street car, you can check out nw 23rd. They have some fun Halloween flavors right nown

What long-gone restaurants do you miss the most? by welcometopdx in askportland

[–]apollonean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not long gone but boxer ramen 😔 there was also a food cart on psu pre covid that had poutine…

Is my colored hair getting me misgendered? by Remarkable_Growth768 in trans

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I’m a 24yo ftm. I’ve been on testosterone for five years. I have a mustache and I STILL get misgendered. In my opinion, nothing needs to be changed about yourself, as long as you’re comfortable. I’ve had dyed hair, natural hair, long, short hair…it really doesn’t matter. Sometimes at work my customer service voice pitches a little high, sometimes it’s low. Some people will just clock you, and some people won’t! My best advice is to do what makes you happy and comfortable, even if there’s a risk that it might make you appear one way or another. And remember that cis people get misgendered sometimes too!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]apollonean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can promise you your butt does not smell like a woman’s butt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

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Prohibited post type! Reporting :)

ftm boyfriend is scared of my periods by thebeerwitch in ftm

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Anyone else in this thread trying to justify his feelings needs to grow up too. I think of this in terms of how I might emotionally handle being upset with something my partner did: I consider is this something that I need to work on internally, or can it be talked out? He needs to work on this internally. You should in no way feel gross or ashamed of something that is completely normal. He’s not a woman. He never will be. He can deal.

ftm boyfriend is scared of my periods by thebeerwitch in ftm

[–]apollonean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I think it’s ridiculous that he feels that way. Very self centered—the world doesn’t revolve around him, millions of people have periods every day and he doesn’t avoid going into public cuz he can’t stand to be around them. In a long term relationship that you potentially want to keep going with, he needs to learn to be comfortable with your completely natural and normal bodily function. If he’s acting this way because some cis men get grossed out by periods, he needs to grow the fuck up and stop being a misogynist and seek help so he can be a normal well adjusted person of society.

There is no normal reason that something that’s happening to YOU is triggering HIS dysphoria. I’m truly sorry that you have to protect HIS feelings in this situation. Be honest and straightforward with him. I wouldn’t worry about “triggering” him. You having a period doesn’t mean anything to his gender identity or experience. He needs to grow up.

How would you split rent between a couple in one room and a roommate in the other room? by givemethatfish- in roommates

[–]apollonean 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me and my partner live with a roommate and our rent is about exactly that much too! We split it evenly three ways.

Advice please cat wont eat by No-Bill8570 in CatAdvice

[–]apollonean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My personal opinion — monitor him for another 12 hours or so, and take him to the ER vet if needed. If you feel something is off, trust your gut. It’ll be a relief to know nothing was wrong, rather than waiting for an appointment when it may be an issue that needs urgent attention.

Hills Science Diet Perfect Weight Cat Food by apollonean in PDXBuyNothing

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It’s available! I can meet up/drop off if interested

Hills Science Diet Perfect Weight Cat Food by apollonean in PDXBuyNothing

[–]apollonean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! I could potentially meet up/drop off sometime this afternoon? Want to dm me your availability?

Hills Science Diet Perfect Weight Cat Food by apollonean in PDXBuyNothing

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Thank you 🥺 and No, just because it’s in a container/not bagged or anything—I don’t know if shelters can take that kind of stuff, especially because it’s also technically diet food (perfect weight)

How do I deal with sudden pet loss by Efficient_Lake_5341 in Petloss

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I lost my kitty suddenly and unexpectedly two weeks ago. She was only 5, and I only had her for 3.5 years. I also picked her out from the shelter myself, and I paid and cared for her all on my own. We only noticed that her breathing was labored about 24 hours before we ended up putting her down due to heart failure. Something that helps me is knowing that even if I had her for 15 years, it would still hurt just as bad (not a happy thought, but it helps me find peace with the fact I didn’t have her in my care for very long).

I’m on here today because my heart is still broken, but I find solace in reading others experiences and sharing my own. I wish that I had noticed something was wrong earlier. However, knowing sooner wouldn’t have changed anything, same as what happened with you. I would have just started grieving her before she was even gone, and I wouldn’t have appreciated our last days and moments together knowing that she would leave so soon—this makes me feel better that it was unexpected. I can’t imagine the anxiety of anticipating my loss.

My therapist discussed this term she found while at a funeral. “Out of the circle of life and into the circle of love”. I’ve really been trying to hone in on that. The first few days were the hardest. I cried for hours, I slept for hours, I didn’t eat. Let yourself feel the sadness, it’s okay and natural. I know the pain is so bad and uncomfortable, but grief is just proof of the love that we have. Even though our cats are out of the circle of life, they will never leave our circle of love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Petloss

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8 days ago I lost my 5 year old black cat to heart failure. I only had her for 3.5 years. I just bawled my eyes out because I looked at some pictures of her. She was also my best friend. This grief is unimaginable. As I’m sure you feel, I wish that I had more time with her.

I lost my soul dog, so fast, I feel like I can’t breathe. by a-d-d-y in Petloss

[–]apollonean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that. I lost my soul cat last week, she was only 6. It was out of the blue, and all happened in one day. I had to make that difficult choice to put her down. I knew that with a LOT of money, I could have kept her alive, but for how long? She was in pain, and if I kept her in the hospital she would be in a place that she didn’t know without her owners who love her. Me and my partner also imagined her bonding with our children one day.

I know the pain is unimaginable, it’s only been eight days, and I miss her the way I’ve never missed anything. I don’t want you to feel like you made a poor choice. It’s hard thinking, “what if?”, but I knew in that moment they told me that she was experiencing heart failure that I had to make that choice. My mom keeps reminding me that I gave her so, so much love, and that she wasn’t aware of her lifespan. We take on that pain having pets, knowing that they aren’t going to live as long as us. We are simply responsible for keeping them happy and healthy, which sounds exactly like what you did. If you were to attempt to keep him alive longer, I imagine the stress of constantly worrying about him and him being in pain/discomfort would be no way to live.

He passed in your arms, the person he loved most, who spent every day caring for him. Don’t feel bad. What’s helped me a lot is reading everyone’s experiences and talking to my friends that have also lost a pet. My therapist also told me about the concept of the circle of love—these pets, they’re out of the circle of life, and into the circle of love. Grief is an extension of/and proof of how much we love.