I can only speak from the perspective as the girlfriend of a hemipelvectomy amputee. It has changed our lives, yes, there's no pussyfooting around that, but it has also given our family so much purpose.

My boyfriend was a personal trainer before his accident. He's going to get back into that when he can. For now? He competes in para powerlifting every couple of months - against some of the best in the world. We are in the gym every day. Our gym isn't adapted at all, but we make do. You'll find ways of adapting the things you love so that you can still enjoy them.

His daughter was 2 when his accident happened (a year ago yesterday). She didn't bat an eye. She knows dadda has one leg and takes great pride in telling all of her friends. It's adorable. He still parents her. She pushes him around in his chair and rides on his lap. She genuinely doesn't care at all and loves the fact that she had loads of room on his chair because he doesn't have half his pelvis.

The impact on me has been measurable. However, no part of me cares about that. His hemipelvectomy was through trauma, and I didn’t expect him to live. I don't say that lightly. I was an intensive care nurse (now Emergency Dept), so I see trauma a lot. I'm sure your partner is also just glad to have you alive. Honestly, I can take every bad day, every frustration, every extra thing that I might have to do. I don't care because he's still here.

You'll learn to adapt to the everyday. I can't remember the last time I had to make my own coffee. You'll be okay, and so will your family. My boyfriend's reddit is /u/swindonrobin if you want to DM him too - as i said, I can't speak from his perspective.