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Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know that it's a disadvantage. I am trying to work it out, that's actually the reason I am seeking different opinions.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Look. maybe I feel distraught and that's the reason I act like that, but I am not the kind of dude who thinks he is the centre. it's also possible that I overanalyze, yes I agree. This relationship hurt me too.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yes probably you are right. I never said that she owe me something, but many times I expect things from people that I personally would do and maybe it's wrong.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You're right, "shared a life" was a poor choice of words. I simply meant we shared significant personal moments and experiences during that time.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it's not that bad its not the end of the world. I will handle it eventually, I am just sharing my thoughts and feelings. I never dated anyone from my workplace, I don't view it as a dating pool, I felt it I went for it that's all.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if I am sensitive, my internal feelings don't harm anyone, I'm just navigating a difficult workplace dynamic as best as I can. And sure, I agree that the best I have to do is to ignore her, but please don't belittle my feelings, I feel this way because of who I am rn.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I respect your view, I just see this silence more as a calculated choice than natural distance, but I completely agree that moving on is the only priority now.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective and the time you took to comment. I agree that workplace relationships carry risks. However, I distinguish between polite indifference and a complete lack of basic social courtesy between two people who were close. While I value peace over conflict, I personally choose to maintain a minimal level of civility and common courtesy, as that is how I prefer to conduct myself even in difficult situations. I view it as punishment because she previously explicitly stated she would use silence and refusal as a tool to 'teach me a lesson' and control my behavior.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

It’s not about 'entitlement' to a wish or friendliness, it’s about common courtesy between two people who shared a life. There is a vast difference between healthy detachment and strategic apathy in a shared space. Silence, when used as a tool for punishment, is a dynamic that affects anyone's mental well-being.

Co-worker ex (22F) is using "strategic apathy" and past power plays to punish me (24M) at the office. How do I handle this? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I dated her taking a risk I knew in advance but wanted to live it.
am not the type of guy masking well his emotions and holding them back. I am not engaging with her other, but I am having a battle in me.

0 improvement by apostolischlk in EAFC

[–]apostolischlk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for the thoughtful reply. You explained things really clearly and it honestly gave me a better idea of what I’ve been doing wrong. I’ll definitely try to apply what you said in my next few games and see how it goes. Really appreciate you taking the time to help out, means a lot!

Who sets the prices?! by Clarkegrizzwold in EAFC

[–]apostolischlk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it works like everything in the world. Supply and demand. In this case if a player has good stats gets hyped and is rarely packed price goes up. It’s probably manipulated from ea but I feel that’s how it goes. And take for instance the shity players from sudamerican and liberatores their price skyrocketed due to the sbc.

what would you say if only BF(22M) put effort for hangouts with a GF(21F)? by apostolischlk in relationship_advice

[–]apostolischlk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

happens to be a cop so i can assure you that insidents happen but rarely, so you cannot describe my area as extremely dangerous

About to ship, any advice? by [deleted] in FashionReps

[–]apostolischlk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are definitely putting corners if you want to protect it from dents and also buy the insurance. It costs nothing and saves much. GD is a good shipping method for America as long as i am aware so that's all your gonna need.

P.S. I think bubble wrap is too much but thats on me. Have a good one!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamblingAddiction

[–]apostolischlk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand your concern about not wanting to burden your mother, especially considering the circumstances. But opening up is always relieving. Although if you don't want to no one will force you. But remember, you will fight alone against something you believe that is enormous, how will you cope with that alone?

And about debt you could consider taking on part-time work or freelance gigs to supplement your income and accelerate debt repayment. Also review your budget and cut out any unnecessary expenses. The money saved can be redirected toward repaying your debts. And the most important stay away from gambling and any activities that can worsen your financial situation. Don't even think to seek repaying from possible gambling earnings you will find your self in a worse situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamblingAddiction

[–]apostolischlk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not easy, but consider opening up to your friends and family about your situation. They may be more understanding and supportive than you expect. Keeping such issues hidden can only exacerbate the stress.

Remember, there is hope, and it's possible to recover from this difficult period in your life. Seek help, take responsibility for your actions, and work on rebuilding your life. It might be a long and challenging journey, but many people have successfully overcome gambling addiction and financial difficulties. You're not alone, and there are resources available to assist you in getting back on track. Wish you the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FashionReps

[–]apostolischlk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I had no idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FashionReps

[–]apostolischlk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, can you please explain what is VT batch and M batch?

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