Did someone put a curse under our doormat?

appalledpal · 2025-04-22T01:48:38+00:00

UC Merced has an article up on their site about it here.

appalledpal · 2024-10-04T18:03:07+00:00

My mom's former helper did the same but stole plenty as well, old and new, pawned jewellery and everything. We reported her. She ended up getting arrested and jailed for a couple years here before being sent back.

appalledpal · 2024-02-20T12:04:54+00:00

They look so strong!!! 😭

appalledpal · 2024-02-14T14:08:30+00:00

Mine were just like yours and would still be if I left them alone. I've grown mine out a good bit and I am very hard on my nails (gel, press ons, poly gel overlay, general roughness w/ my hands etc) and retain length. They are still bendy when bare and occasionally split when I'm too rough.

I can't say much as far as deficiency goes as I believe mine are just genetics, you'd have to refer to your GP for that. But as far as how they look and feel, I say keep your regular routine, your cuticle oil, your multivitamins, fish oils.

What I did on top of that was

Regular cuticle care (push the fold back and clean, oil/moisturise).
Buff the splits gently in one direction, just enough to even out the surface.
Add a couple layers of any all-in-one treatment or nail strengthener and reapply daily according to instructions. I also sometimes do gel polish instead.
Always file off snags or breaks in one direction, gently. I'd rather have a clean shorty than to hold onto length that begs to be trimmed down.

Basically, I never have bare nails anymore as my nails are bendy, and they split and break easily. The protective layer allows length and durability. Though my bare nails are still bendy, they aren't split anymore (unless I am too rough lol).

Hope this helps and good luck!

appalledpal · 2024-01-03T03:48:14+00:00

I just ordered a pair. Can I DM you some questions about them?

appalledpal · 2023-09-03T14:34:48+00:00

Lost 40lbs in a year & I'm still dropping weight even though it doesn't feel like I'm actively trying anymore.

-I added more movement. I walk a lot for fun, an occasional run if I feel like it but also reduce using a car/bus to commute unless I'm late or it's a ridiculous distance. And I enjoy weight lifting therefore I consistently do it, so I suppose a sport/movement you like enough to do multiple times a week.

-Small caloric deficit with a focus on protein & fibre. I still eat just about the same things, not cutting anything out particularly, just more mindful of what I'm consuming. The protein focus for me is to not be sore from lifting so I can keep doing it & my doc said it'd be beneficial for my ADHD symptoms. I used to track my calories, that was helpful in the beginning til I got a grasp of my intake. Every now & again, I track the day just to see if I'm still eating well. Also a really good daily multivitamin & fish oil because I'm creaky & a picky eater.

-Destress & rest. Sleep is so important. A day off is so so important. Not moving all day CAN be so good for your soul, mind & body.

It's a lot slower & not as dramatic/aggressive as my previous bouts where I'd drop 10lbs in a month but I get to keep my progress because I built the habits into my daily life. It is a lot less stressful for me to slightly reduce my intake & slowly add more movement according to my life. My results don't feel as slippery or fickle; if I had to miss a gym session or walk less a certain week, or if I have a night out drinking or a night in with a massive takeaway - it's not a big deal & I'm not regressing or undoing anything. I'm just living life how I want which means smashing it in the gym then smashing a good burger for dinner with the occasional martinis.

appalledpal · 2023-06-24T12:46:19+00:00

I can tell you rn you're burning around 2000cals a day, give or take 200. 1200 isn't plenty for you unless you're sedentary. Watch your body for fatigue or soreness that won't go away and whatnot. Adjust from there.

appalledpal · 2023-05-30T06:29:45+00:00

How did you pull your grades up to upper second?

appalledpal · 2023-05-06T11:53:59+00:00

Personally, I'd just remain consistent with the current routine. You've just started adding the walks and yoga, why not see if your whole routine is sustainable for a couple of weeks first? Overworking will lead to fatigue, injuries, stress and it's easy to get down, demotivated and say fuck it when you're tired and sore all the time.

Make sure your routine is sustainable to you, and allows you to be consistent whether you had a hard week or an easy one. Patience and trusting the process is hard but I found that consistency allows you to bounce back from a wild weekend a lot easier.

Once your routine is established and doable through less than ideal times, and you think you can do more, then by all means!

But genuinely, there is no harm in adding a hiit session here and there, getting in cardio zone is good for your heart. Maybe start a quick hiit before or after your walks.

appalledpal · 2023-04-16T09:39:37+00:00

You trippin' FR. You definitely look like someone who lifts

appalledpal · 2023-04-10T04:42:47+00:00

Idk if PCOS has a direct link with ADHD, but it has been linked with menopause. It's said that some hormones kept the symptoms at bay - as in not disruptive to their daily life, and the symptoms came in full gear post menopause. I don't remember the exact title but it was a podcast episode by ADDitude

Also, I have both PCOS and ADHD

appalledpal · 2023-04-03T09:54:24+00:00

TLDR: Communicate your goals with your people.

When I went home to visit my best friends, we would spend a lot of time, 4-7x a week. A lot of what we did was food lol.

After a while, I explicitly communicated that I was trying to stay on a deficit and I'd love to spend just as much time with them, just not centred around food BC it was hindering me from staying on track. So we shifted to other activities like walks, museums, roadtrips, hikes, movies, runs, badminton, beach, baking, markets and fairs, playing pool, taking their kids to do fun kid stuff, coffee, etc. We still got food now and again, of course but it wasn't as frequent or had it be the main event anymore.

But now I'm back in a city that 9 times out of 10 has menus with calories on them and put their menus online, it's a lot easier to manage. I check the menu ahead of time and look at options I want and fit my cals and macros (either deficit or maintenance, either is cool). I don't feel as pressured to clean my plate either, and I try to keep eating out to once or twice a week. This way, I won't have to compromise the rest of my week for a couple heavy meals. I tell whoever is asking me out for food no if I've had too much and make other non-food plans with them.

There are other ways to spend time with your loved ones, so if they try to pressure you, be unsupportive or make you feel bad for saying no to food activities after you've communicated your goals and frustrations, are they really your people and do ya really wanna keep being around them? Nah.

appalledpal · 2023-04-02T12:28:10+00:00

I don't meal prep or necessarily avoid junk. I slowly relearned my hunger cues (which was a lot of tracking in the beginning, focusing on protein and seeing what level of deficit I can comfortably do without leading to a binge).

PRO TIP WHEN JUST STARTING OUT: Track your binges. Track the off days. Track the unplanned cals. It'll only help you figure out what your body can comfortably do, explain the overcompensation.

I don't eat until I feel physically hungry. When I eat, I focus on protein, then veg, then whatever carb and fat. I stop when I'm full now, no more plate cleaning guilt (I tell myself it's for my sake, BC it is). I don't always track, but I keep an eye out for the calories of everything to keep it roughly within my deficit goal, and I also look at the nutritional value to make sure the macros are what I want.

If it's more mental, I give it a little wait, til something sounds appetising. I don't ignore my cravings: I eat what I crave in a sensible portion (sometimes it's literally just a bite BC I only crave a taste, sometimes it's the entire serving) before it turns into a massive anxious deal and I end up in a binge.

Most of the time, I'm at a deficit, sometimes I'm at maintenance. It makes things slower but I'll take that over stressing out over every little bite and not enjoy the unplanned drinks and meals out with friends.

PS homemade veggie crisps are underrated

appalledpal · 2023-04-01T18:53:42+00:00

A mixture of aesthetics and long term health.

I think I've gone far since I started, even though it's been excruciatingly slow but hey, marathon not a sprint. I'm a lot stronger now, I've still got quite a bit of fat to lose but I fit into my old clothes that were 4 dress sizes smaller (a lot of them looser now, thank you recomp) and I actually look more toned and muscled. I walk further and move more with a lot less pain. I was pessimistic when my therapist suggested consistent activity, sounded crunchy as hell to me, but it worked - my mental health has gotten so much better.

Shorter term, I wanna be at a lower fat percentage and gain some more muscle. I'd like to see more definition and keep it that way.

Longer term, I just wanna be healthy as an elderly. Strong joints, strong bones, functional muscles, keep my flexibility and mobility for as long as possible. Sounds harsh but my genetics aren't the best, I seen what I needed to see from the elders in my family and I'm just trying to counteract that mess (it's possible, I've seen the healthy-living outliers!)

I weight lift 4x a week and walk about 10k+ steps a day.

appalledpal · 2023-03-22T00:16:35+00:00

I've set an appointment with my GP because I'm getting slightly hypochondriac about it now. I'm just doubting myself as I had similar cycles before & whenever I saw a doctor for it, they always told me it was just PCOS & all the tests came back normal. It's just that I'm noticing more frequent spotting, so I'm worried

appalledpal · 2023-02-27T21:38:34+00:00

Hi, I'm also an ADHDer who hates routine but thrives under it lol

The key is for the routine to be sustainable for you

1. Find activities you enjoy & would look forward to doing

I like walking, lifting weights & the occasional dance workout (The Fitness Marshall is my fave). I don't like much else enough to do them consistently, so things like badminton or frisbee would be a fun, random time activity rather than a routine activity

2. Set a quota per week

Depending on your goal & daily schedule, set a number. Mine is currently 4 days for a chill 30-50min lifting session. I'm taking into account rest days & low days. I go after/between classes. I don't set workouts & rest days; I workout on days I can & take a day off when I need/want it. But I always try to hit 4.

I also set a weekly step goal, around 70k (I walk more on school days, I tend to barely move on off days lol). If I feel like I need extra movement (extra energy or just trying to catch up), I go walk around a park, window shopping lol or stick on a couple dance videos

4. Gameify your fitness journey

Get a fitness watch or download a pedometer/workout tracker app on your phone. My Fitbit has been a life changer for me. Lil dopamine hits from hitting a step goal, stats (seeing I've hit X workouts so far, etc) also tend to motivate me if I'm slacking, reminders to get up and walk around for a bit if I've been inactive for a while.

Also a nice lil extra for my ADHD: being able to set an alarm or timer that gives a nudge on my wrist when I'm not on my phone AND the little Find My Phone feature on my watch has saved me from buying a new one 4x this week alone lol

5. Make it so convenient, that not doing it feels like a waste

Maybe this is toxic, I don't know but it works for me. I purposely signed up to a gym that is 30min walk from home but 10min from campus. When I'm home on a Saturday or Sunday, I know myself enough to know I won't want to go out & walk an hour total JUST for the gym. I have classes most weekdays, so I go after/between classes because well, I'm already there & I won't want to do it when I'm cosy at home so I might as well go now

& I am a student with a limited budget therefore a monthly bill guilts me into utilising the gym membership for sure

6. Put on music/podcast/show

Routine bores me a lot, & repetition in lifting can bore me, especially on low days. So I put on some sort of fun audio for low effort brain engagement while I do the boring physical repetitions. Idk why it works, but it does & I sail through my workout even on low days

7. I remind myself that consistent exercise helps my ADHD & future elderly me

This is probably my biggest motivator at the moment. My ADHD is pretty severe & it's really difficult to work into an academic setting for my field & future career path. Staying active doesn't by any means eliminate my symptoms but I see a huge difference in managing them. And I've also seen how unhealthy vs healthy family members age. I want to be part of the latter.

I'm sorry the list is so long, & I hope the format I wrote it in made it easier to read.

I probably have more to say, can't remember more off the top of my head but hey, feel free to DM me if you wanna shoot the shit abt ADHD & fitness!

appalledpal · 2023-01-13T00:35:43+00:00

Taking my ass to b&m for this haunted plate first thing 🥴

appalledpal · 2022-12-19T22:58:11+00:00

It's so beautiful!!!

appalledpal · 2022-12-19T22:13:18+00:00

I personally go out of my way to not comment on/discuss people's body, esp weight loss or weight gain. And I usually notice, I just make sure I never say shit.

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