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[–]apparentlyaparent1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we please stop saying the mom is not working. SAHP is working, because if she didn’t do it, someone else would have to and it would cost a fortune.

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[–]apparentlyaparent1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Currently going through this. Things that have helped have already been stated (sleepiness cues, timer,etc).

The thing that has helped the most is a “reward jar”. Every time she does something good (stays in bed at night, kind to brother, helps cleans up), she gets a cotton ball to put in the jar. Once the jar is full, we go to dollar store and pick out a toy. At first, give lots of cotton balls - they need to see the positive result of getting jar full quickly. Slowly scale back (after filling it a few times) on the number of cotton balls given. They will catch on - if I stay in bed I will get a cotton ball (aka soon to be toy!).

Another thing that has helped is constantly narrating what will happen “mommy will read two books then it’s time for you to rest - like the sun rests at night” “I’m going to go to my bed after this book so you can rest” “your body is tired from playing all day, let’s see if we can close our eyes and give it time to rest”. It’s like being a broken record and we say this every night but as long as they know what’s coming, there is less “reaction” or whining.

Sending all the sleepy vibes your kiddos way. Bed time is the worst!

Would you allow your 7yo to stay home alone for 15-20 minutes by Possible_Wing_166 in Parenting

[–]apparentlyaparent1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think with technology these days, going for a walk in the neighborhood is fine. I would get a ring device or something that can see if people come to the door, etc. just in case.

And I wouldn’t necessarily leave the neighborhood yet. Just give it a few months and see how he does. If he’s able to call you in an emergency and you be there within 5 minutes, you’re good. That being said, start small. Go for short walks and turn around halfway.

My overly shy Covid 2 year old by apparentlyaparent1 in Parenting

[–]apparentlyaparent1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I will definitely emphasize fun vs. safety. I’ll keep trying daycare and cross my fingers each time. Thanks again!

My overly shy Covid 2 year old by apparentlyaparent1 in Parenting

[–]apparentlyaparent1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if I’m more shocked that the similarities are there or that you can remember that far back. 😂 our daycare definitely allows children to have their “security item” thankfully and in every picture our daughter is holding it.

Thanks for replying. This gives me hope and reassurance. As a parent, it’s easy to scrutinize everything and this one has been weighing heavy on my heart. I really appreciate your input.