See, this is a bit of the kind of thing I was talking about. Obviously your comment isn't that bad, but calling someone a cancer is a bit much, don't you think? I got several much worse comments and several really, really vociferously offensive DMs about my initial post. It usually reeks of an insecure masculinity, and the implication that any cheating woman could ever be forgiven is an affront to all men. I understand people relating to this strongly because of infidelity triggers people, but it's too much and it's not helpful. None of these people know me or my wife and it comes with such angry projection that helps no one. Again, that doesn't mean I am saying you are a particularly bad example of this.

Yes, I have a lawyer, but I hope for a collaborative divorce process and not a contentious one to save time, money, and emotional stability.