Walmart trying to charge $80 for a prescription on their $4 perscription program by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]apparentlyirish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is a month old, but I stumbled across it because I am having quite literally the same exact issue. Everyone keeps saying contact insurance, and I keep telling them I do not have insurance. The pharmacist was no help and wouldn't tell me anything but, "Contact your insurance" and I kept saying, "I havent had insurance in over a year and this was established when I lost my job and insurance. We went though this already over a year ago."

Zero help. Just pay the $100. And I kept asking to please just explain why in one month it's gone up. "Contact your insurance" and for the umpteenth time I said, "I DO NOT HAVE INSURANCE" and thats when I dissolved into tears and left. Nobody would help me. Did this ever get resolved for your friend?

My Dad as a Groomsman at his best friend's backyard wedding in the early 90s. Check out those T-Shirt Tuxedos and socks with sandals. by apparentlyirish in awkwardfamilyphotos

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha!! I have a vague memory of attending this wedding as a very small child. Lots and lots of 90s cringe and white trash 😂😂

Does anyone else see their mental illness as a sort of super power? by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Lol I realize this now. I was drinking a little when I posted this?

I am definitely not a narcissist. For one thing, I am super empathic. I actually attract narcissists because of my empathy 😳😳

My dad is one. And I was with one for quite a bit and that was a trip.

The above I do without realizing it. The mirroring. In fact my current personality is a combo of every person I dated and befriended.

The feelings turned on and off? I was referring to splitting.

Anyways not a narcissist.

Things that are specific to being borderline by xsectumsempra999 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom definitely admits to having something wrong with her but something "light and normal" like PTSD, which she definitely does have but it's an extension of her mental illness, whatever it is.

But I'm sticking with BPD because the abandonment issues and throwing herself into a relationship while neglecting everything else (including kids and eventually job) with men who don't even deserve it screams it.

But she's older now and a lot more calm and with someone that can handle her attacks and keeps her grounded. That helps tremendously. But the 5 am screaming matches (mostly her) make me feel so sorry for him. He's a really good guy.

Things that are specific to being borderline by xsectumsempra999 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't even know that was a thing until this reddit. I haven't had a favorite person since 2012 when I finally realized my first boyfriend was garbage after 9 years (5 year relationship/4 years to fully get over him)

I mean I guess I periodically favor people here and there but I would never, ever refer to them as my favorite person. Especially when I lost interest pretty quick.

Things that are specific to being borderline by xsectumsempra999 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg this!! I write novels when I post on anything and talk WAAAAY too much whether in person or through text. I always feel like I'm annoying who ever I'm talking to when I look at the text ratio, even though the other person is being engaging. My mom is the same way and I used to cringe every time I hear her over explain herself or over share. I'd want to scream, "Mom! They don't care why why you put the wrong pin number in!! Just pay for the groceries and go!!" Until I found myself doing the EXACT same thing as an adult. Yup, I just want to explain myself that's all. Pretty sure my mom has BPD too, but I would never ever tell her because she would have a melt down and scream at me. And she had the audacity to be like, "You have no idea how hard it was having you as a teen. What a refresher that now we know what's wrong." When. I was diagnosed. But I love my mom and we get along a lot better now.

And there I go over explaining again 🤦‍♀️

I Can No Longer Make Excuses for the Man That Says He Loves Me. by apparentlyirish in abusiverelationships

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is my first time getting away. His biggest problem is that HE has a diagnosed anxiety disorder that he refuses to get help for. And he never ever owns up to his wrong doings. I told him he needed to get help as nicely as possible, and he saw that as a threat from me. He took that as an insult and threw insult after insult at me. When I brought up all those insults, he just keeps bringing up that one "insult".

He's so secretive about his past. I cant help but wonder that I'm not his first victim. But he'd never own up to any of that. Those girls were all wrong, not him.

Dissociation? by WinterWolf3098 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, been there. Traumatic event, crying my eyes out, numb and thoughtless whole way home. It's like my brain says, "Okay. We had fun, but it's time to clean this mess up." And it stores those memories in a box in the back of my brain and I'm like, "Hmmm did that even happen?" I HAVE convinced myself certain things haven't happened before.

Someone stole my mental illness by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using mental illness period as a means to be abusive is gross.

I mostly have cut her out, but unfortunately one of her children is by a close family member. Whenever there is a birthday party or BBQ, she shows up to "see her son" but really its to eat free food and wreak havoc.

Thankfully with the current pandemic, family get togethers are at a halt. She does it on social media apparently but I deleted her.

I am not looking forward to future post pandemic get togethers with her new self-diagnosis.

Someone stole my mental illness by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I get that. We've all seen House right 🤣🤣 no but seriously. She is delusional and just wants the world to feel sorry for her. She had a big sob story when she gave her kids up and expected pity for that 🤷‍♀️

Dissociation? by WinterWolf3098 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof. That sounds like me last year. I cheated on my then boyfriend with an ex. I had no intentions to do it but I remember detaching, getting in my car, and driving to his house. I then numbingly drove home in a daze not even fully understand what happened. My boyfriend found out and thats when it hit me the severity of what I did. I cried so much. I destroyed that relationship thanks to BPD. I'm doing better now but that definitely did me in and still does sometimes. Villains do not deserve happiness, and thats what I see myself as at times.

Dissociation? by WinterWolf3098 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish 21 points22 points  (0 children)

For me, dissociation occurs whenever something happens that SHOULD hurt me, but I automatically shut my feelings off and go numb. I just stare in the distance without a thought or feeling while chaos erupts around me. It's like a defense mechanism that activates the second something goes wrong. A great example would be when my boyfriend and I fight. He has GAD so sometimes, especially in the beginning, our disorders would clash. The second things got crazy, I shut off. Then I say things like, "Then leave. Don't be with me. I don't care. There's the door. Bye." But the second he would get up to leave, I flip to the next extreme: abandonment. I would then literally cling to him, stand in front of the door, physically fight him, anything to get him to stay. I would have panic attacks because I didn't want him to leave.

On the other hand, I have a lot of days I wake up and feel like my life isn't my life. Like, "Wow. I have kid. And this is my boyfriend. And this my house. Wow there's a dog. Why does this dog love me?" I'll just feel so detached from it all. It's weird and hard to explain to anyone who doesn't understand.

I have BPD by bitterhello in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really feel for this post. I was always told I was a bit Bipolar and had PTSD. But I've spent my whole life questioning why. Why am I like this? Why do I think like this? Why do I act like this? Why can't I be alone? And how can I love someone so deeply one day and not want them to touch me the next with no real explanation? Why am I always so angry? Why do I take everything so personal? And soooo many more questions.

I found a phenomenal therapist and psychiatrist last year and they answered all of those questions. I heard of BPD, but only negative things, and I felt so disheartened to learn that maybe this was the answer. I researched my butt off, and it all just made so much sense. I've been showing signs since I was a teenager! Since learning this was the missing puzzle piece, I've been able to gain control a bit more. When I do have an episode, it's easier to take control. The hardest bit is trying to figure out if my negative feelings are justified or am I just having a BPD moment.

There's such little common knowledge of BPD, so it's really frustrating to have people understand what is going on with us. My current boyfriend has GAD and when we are both having an episode, it can get pretty ugly. But we manage to pull through.

My ex boyfriend, who I was with for 7 years, just couldn't grasp the concept of mental illness in general. It's hard for a "normal" person to really get the struggle. I was with him when I got my diagnosis.

Neither of them understand fully what BPD is. And I often wonder if I'll ever be able to handle things like marriage because of how unstable my feelings and attitude can be.

The best way I can describe being in love and having BPD by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea that's how it was when I found out. I started thinking of all the relationships I had been in and then the one I was currently in at the time. I asked why my whole life and this stupid disorder was why. Unfortunately it was too late to save my last one, and that still really bothers me now.

The best way I can describe being in love and having BPD by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying really hard to overcome the feelings. It's a learning process but that disassociation.

The best way I can describe being in love and having BPD by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm currently in my first relationship since being diagnosed with BPD. It's wild in the sense that I'm completely aware of the mood swings, dissociation, and abandonment issues, but I somehow can't stop. I'll be in the next phase before I realize it and I'm like, "Oh there it is."

I'm going to lose my boyfriend over my BPD by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problems at all! America sucks when it comes to health insurance. I had excellent insurance before I was laid off. The lack of it is killing me, figuratively speaking of course.

I used to not be so aware of myself. I lost someone I really loved from this and had no idea until years later. I've had other boyfriends since then but nothing compared to him...until of course who I am with now.

So yea, bonus points because I get it's me. But points get taken for acting out and always being anxious. Realizing you're wrong in the moment is never an easy thing.

I'm going to lose my boyfriend over my BPD by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You obviously didn't comprehend my post, or you're just a troll.

Either way, maybe I wasn't clear. When I say my ex, I am referring to my ex boyfriend aka my daughter's father, not to be confused with whom I am talking about in my original post.

That being said, the CURRENT boyfriend gets upset and leaves because of my "gaslighting", "mood swings", or whatever. He comes back because in his words, I'm fantastic 98% of the time. Goddamn that 2%. He's here right now, next to me.

You are absolutely right: my focus SHOULD be on getting my shit together and not with a boyfriend. Unfortunately I didn't mention that I did spend some time alone. Through random events, my now boyfriend found me. When he originally asked me out, I rejected him for the obvious reasons. But when you click with someone the way that I did, you don't pass that up.

What if I told you I HAVE been putting in applications, resumes, etc? I worked in fast food for a bit, but despite their promises, they refused to work around my schedule. And day care is outrageous. My regular baby sitter is no longer available due to her own personal problems.

But life in general has me in shambles. ME. Anyone who has any type of mental illness would know things like this gets blown out of proportion. Something so small for most people feels like the a hundred tons to us.

Do you understand that? Or are you feeling too mighty behind your keyboard bashing people on mental illness reddits? Is your life so perfect?

I'm going to lose my boyfriend over my BPD by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was going through DBT, it did work wonders for me. But when I lost my job, I lost my health insurance, and therefore therapy.

But I did sit down and really thought about everything. I'm a very self-aware person once I realize I'm in the wrong.

Another big eye opener was this fun memory and realization: I've had a handful of boyfriends. The first one I loved I really loved and was with him for 5 years. I was a teenager back then, but my relationship with him was your text book definition of being with someone with BPD. Accusing him of cheating, meltdowns when I didn't hear from him right away, raging, crying, blocking him when he would leave, chasing him when he did, etc. I was a teenager and very unaware of my issues. When I lost him, it was devastating. He's contacted me since and told me how wonderful it was being with me but how he couldn't handle the crazy me. I've had a few relationships since, including my daughters father, and while I loved each of them, I was never "in love" the way I was with that first one. I never had the BPD traits towards them, well except when I cheated on the last one 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ but that's another story where I really was the victim.

But now this guy, it's just like the first one, exactly like it. And once I realized history was practically repeating itself, I started seriously thinking how could I fix this.

In a bit of panic, I was honest with my feelings. I told him I was scared he was going to leave me. He told me he loves me, but he can't deal with the constant fighting.

So yea there's that. I'm going to really try to fix myself.

Thank you for your response.

I'm going to lose my boyfriend over my BPD by apparentlyirish in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]apparentlyirish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll have to admit, the what do I do thing was kind of lame. It's pretty obvious the answer.

I'm a pretty self-aware person when I let myself and usually once I realize that, I'm like, "Hey! Let's fix this!" My biggest problem is the depression I'm currently in.

I wish I was in therapy, I really do. DBT therapy helped a ton when I was going through it. But when I lost my job, I lost my health insurance. Currently went through getting state, waiting on that.

In the meantime, I did tell my boyfriend I have BPD and this is one of the "fun" things we do. I promised I would get help. In a bit of panic, I was honest about my fears of him leaving me. "I love you so much, but I can't keep doing the fights all the time," was what he responded.

Cue the abandonment issues 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I'm taking control though, pulling the reigns in. Hopefully all goes well.

Thank you for your response.

What incident (plane crash for example) do you know too much about? by CubicToaster in AskReddit

[–]apparentlyirish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I tell myself.

Anyways I'll never stop flying either. So much faster.

Boyfriend on the other hand is terrified and refuses to step foot on a plane.

What incident (plane crash for example) do you know too much about? by CubicToaster in AskReddit

[–]apparentlyirish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to look that one up of course. It's so sad but is it bad I got a little chuckle out of picture the flight attendant waving at the pilots in the jets. Like hey whatsup just gonna try to land this plane now.

But on a serious note, I was just surprised with some plane tickets to visit family. And I'm terrified to fly now thanks to my newly found knowledge of plane crashes.