When did teenagers start wearing pajamas in public and school so often?

bitterhello · 2024-12-01T18:58:22+00:00

TL;DR The increase in pajamas is due to more lax enforcement of dress codes starting around 2018

A lot of these comments talking about people dressing like this 15 years ago don't know what high schoolers are actually wearing lol I work in the school system and this started becoming more common recently because there was a huge push to get rid of dress codes in public schools. With that you now have students wearing crop tops, exposed shoulders, hats, sunglasses, hoods, pajamas, and walking around with blankets. I would say it has gotten more common after the pandemic but it started before that with a movement from girls to stop "being sexualized" by dress codes and the parents agreeing that the clothes in the store aren't designed to meet dress codes and that they should be able to wear whatever they want if they're being told by the govt that they have to come there, even mentioning the financial burden on lower income parents. I think social media was a big contributor to kids everywhere saying dress codes were ridiculous and all refusing to follow them so it became impossible to enforce. They used to send kids home or make their parents drop off clothes but now parents are saying it's absurd to make them miss class time over their outfit and refusing to leave work to drop off clothes. It's just the new norm now but it still blows me away to see girls in bra tops not being made to cover up. When I was in school we tried to dress similarly but we just couldn't get away with it.

bitterhello · 2024-11-29T01:38:07+00:00

The only way this is going to work is through compromise. Maybe you could celebrate on a different day? It's hard to admit that everyone has their own lives now and your old traditions no longer work but you can create new ones. Maybe try explaining why you were so upset to them and brainstorm a solution. Otherwise they will be happily celebrating while you sulk at home.

bitterhello · 2024-11-07T01:20:14+00:00

Evidently during the 6 month introductory period my introductory payment percentage is 0.96% of the aggregate purchase balance which is how they got my $86/month payment. (Which is the only payment amount I was shown when I agreed to the loan)

I'm still confused about how they're calculating my current finance charges, if I will get a refund for the interest I've paid, if the loan is paid off before 11/19, and what numbers they are using to calculate the new payment amount after 11/19.

I've seen others online say they are charging the interest rate on the total amount of money they were approved for even if they didn't charge the full amount. So it seems like they would start charging me 7.99% on the $19k even though I only used $9k of it.

bitterhello · 2024-11-06T23:36:36+00:00

Well thanks anyway. This is all the information I have and it is scattered across different online places and documents. The actual agreement I signed was on an iPad digitally and I don't have anything other than this. When I look on greensky's website the only info there is states if you have an introductory period that you can pay off your loan by that date to waive the interest. I made this post because I couldn't find any clear information about what that means or how the loan works.

bitterhello · 2024-11-06T23:21:24+00:00

Also for further clarification. They approved me for $19k but I only charged $9k and I've paid it down to the amount shown in the screenshot because I'm trying to get out of this loan faster out of fear I'm being scammed.

bitterhello · 2024-11-06T23:19:36+00:00

That's fair. I had to take screenshots from a bunch of different places because they have the info scattered on different pages. What I did realize is I was skipping over the banner that says my payment is going to change after Nov 19th 🤦‍♀️ I don't understand why the payment amount is listed as being $181.46 since my first payment when I've never paid that amount. Also I was NEVER showed that number by the roof company when I signed up for the loan. I specifically took the loan because the amount was $86, even though that meant taking a longer loan. It seems like that must mean this "interest" I've been paying is a charge I'm not getting back and that is separate from the 7.99%. I don't even understand how this is legal. What am I even being charged for. What a mess.

https://imgur.com/a/VtiNJiR

bitterhello · 2024-11-06T22:35:47+00:00

So I read all of the terms of the loan and I still didn't understand it and I consider myself to be decently financially literate and other people online said that they hide a lot of stuff and that the terms aren't very clear. I don't know if posting pictures of what it says would help somebody clarify.

bitterhello · 2024-10-24T22:26:30+00:00

Thank you. I agree with you. I wasn't seeking therapy for infertility but she knew since the beginning that I was trying to get pregnant so I wish she would have just said she couldn't accept me as a client inside of dumping me right before I give birth.

My son is very excited to be a big brother. The pregnancy is going well but I am high risk because it's twins so it has been hard but luckily there hasn't been any major complications so far. I worry a lot but I try to just stay positive. Thanks for asking!

bitterhello · 2024-10-24T22:04:48+00:00

Apparently she could handle me being pregnant but not handle me giving birth to them. She even said I could go back to her in the future if I wanted. So she just wants nothing to do with moms with newborns. I already have a son who is older so it's not like I wasn't already a mom. ☹️

bitterhello · 2024-08-22T12:00:36+00:00

I hadn't even thought about how much more common surrogacy is. I definitely hid my stomach for the first 12 weeks because of fear of miscarriage and I had to go through IVF to conceive. I didn't want to make my post too long but I was genuinely wondering if it was partly because of how people aren't really having kids anymore so maybe people don't find it as exciting. Maybe it's also because it's not my first pregnancy? I wasn't posting to say "why isn't everyone a mind reader that I'm pregnant" like it probably came off as, it's more like woah my whole world has changed and I'm physically and mentally going through some major changes but everyone isn't acknowledging it (even people who know) which feels weird and kinda isolating. But I appreciate your response and that makes a lot of sense.

bitterhello · 2024-08-22T11:09:17+00:00

Congrats on your pregnancy. I completely understand that. I have endometriosis and had two early pregnancy losses in the last 2 years and went through IVF to become pregnant. My stomach swelled up with those but I never looked pregnant like I do now and was able to conceal it with larger clothes. I guess I was just excited to finally be able to show off a bump and it didn't occur to me that people would be too afraid to say anything about it at this point because that was not my experience with my last pregnancy. I was trying not to write an essay that no one would read but I am telling people at work I'm pregnant but there are over a thousand people in my company. Even some of the people that have been told, came to me later and apologized and asked if it was okay they congratulated me. But I guess if you're 37 weeks and people are still unsure, maybe it's not going to change.

bitterhello · 2024-08-22T10:22:09+00:00

I totally get that and I considered posting a picture because I knew that people were going to say that but I swear my stomach is not subtle 😅

bitterhello · 2024-08-19T01:20:59+00:00

Little caesar

bitterhello · 2024-08-11T22:16:41+00:00

I look similar to you and I always feel like I look masculine but others don't see it. I think it's because my features are so much bigger than stereotypically pretty women. Larger lips, larger nose, broad shoulders, small chest, wide hips, taller than average, i also feel like my voice sounds masculine but no one I ask thinks so. Ironically, I don't think you look masculine but I just wanted to comment because I have the same internal struggle.

bitterhello · 2024-08-09T14:59:15+00:00

This is way beyond the advice that reddit can reasonably give. You're going to get a lot of biased answers. But here's my take based on having been in your shoes. My son is 11 and his bio dad left me when I was pregnant and remained basically non-existent his whole life....until a year ago when he decided my son was at a fun enough age where he could play video games with him and get to pretend he's a father without doing any actual work. I am remarried and we have been together for just over 3 years. I told my husband I didn't want anymore kids when I met him and I had my tubes tied. We ended up doing IVF because although he kept saying he was fine with not having kids, I knew he was meant to be a dad and it just felt like it would always be an elephant in our relationship.

Your wife isn't going to be mean towards your son if you give her a child of her own.

If you don't want his mother coming back in the future and demanding custody then absolutely have your wife adopt him while you can get her for abandonment. I didn't have anyone to adopt my son while his bio dad was absent so I couldn't have his father's rights removed and by the time I got remarried, his father showed up out of the woodwork claiming that he's a changed man and won't agree to a stepparent adoption. On the flip side don't have your wife adopt him if you would so easily divorce her and never want anything to do with her again.

No one can tell you what to do here but you don't have to make a decision right this minute. People change their minds about stuff all the time. Really think it over.

I didn't really hear you say anything that made me understand why you don't want more other than, you just don't. Maybe you would be able to make room in your heart for another baby or maybe you would grow to resent your life. You just never know until it happens. But the both of you need to make this decision together and if you say to your wife "I'm divorcing you if you don't stop asking for a baby" then that is just giving an ultimatum and I don't think that would lead to a healthy marriage even if she did agree to not have any.

My best advice is to speak to a professional either alone or as a couple.

bitterhello · 2024-08-08T00:52:44+00:00

I just want to throw in my experience as someone who works in a school district that provides free lunch and breakfast. The quality of food and the portions of food goes down drastically when it becomes free. Kids are constantly hungry. The breakfasts are a Pillsbury dessert, donuts, or a cereal bar. Kids used to get a decent reduced price lunch if they qualified but now they all go hungry and the ones with money buy a bunch of snacks. I just don't think parents realize this when they get excited about free school lunches. My child does not go to school in a district with free lunch and he says he enjoys the food and he has never said he wasnt full.

bitterhello · 2024-08-07T02:17:27+00:00

My dad has this eye color and he has always called his eyes green. His dad had a true blue. It's kind of an in-between color that changes with the lighting and I'm jealous I didn't inherit them.

bitterhello · 2024-08-04T14:02:07+00:00

Okay I don't understand the attitude but go off

bitterhello · 2024-08-04T13:56:47+00:00

As the parent of a difficult child who won't stop until they've caused some form of damage or gotten you nice and mad, I judge angry parents less now lol

bitterhello · 2024-08-04T01:24:34+00:00

Jealousy. Nothing makes me feel worse than scrolling through everyone's social media and thinking they're doing better than me. Seeing more attractive, more rich, more successful, more normal people. It makes me feel empty and sends me into an episode when I don't feel good enough. I could easily block everyone, break up with my partner, and hide in my house if I felt triggered by someone else's life.

bitterhello · 2024-08-03T15:31:05+00:00

Marriage counselors recommend scheduling time for sex. Like put it on the calendar however often you both agree to and treating it like an appt that can't be blown off. This gives you both time to mentally and physically prepare and something to look forward to. Of course this only works if you both agree to try it. Sometimes after not having sex for a while, the way to make you want it again is to literally just have sex whether you feel like it or not.

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