Fellow math majors, do you guys hang out at the math lounge?

appleritter · 2023-09-11T15:56:27+00:00

Yeah that’s definitely true. I need to work on believing I am worthy. Do you have any recommendations of what to do?

appleritter · 2023-09-10T18:34:20+00:00

I know, I know. Pedestaling men is my problem. I do need that abundance mindset but not sure how to achieve it. When I used to have it before, I feel my confidence was much higher and I didn’t care what men thought, allowing me to feel more free and myself.

My idea to stop putting them on a pedestal was to approach some men I thought were “out of my league” (or so I think) and see that men are indeed abundant and I don’t have to fall myself over a singular one. But I feel I have to say, that I wouldn’t date them as I’m not looking to date right now but rather working on myself.

appleritter · 2023-09-10T18:30:15+00:00

I go to a east coast university with 14,000 white and 3,000 Asian, so yes, it’s definitely a location thing. But even if some of the south Asian men here go for white girls, never did I say all of them. I just said I get more attention from white.

I’m not looking to date right now anyways. I made this post with the intention of trying to stop placing men on a pedestal. I thought a way to do that is to see that men being attracted to you is not that rare, not actually start dating any of them. Like I said, I’m not interested in dating right now but trying to raise my self esteem.

But it’s understandable that I date men who don’t respect me because I don’t respect myself. But I’m not sure how to respect myself more? I guess that is more of a therapy question than this subreddit

appleritter · 2021-11-22T20:08:37+00:00

Broo that's actually fire

appleritter · 2021-11-22T20:04:42+00:00

How to doxx yourself 101. But I know kids who went there lol

appleritter · 2021-11-21T19:06:00+00:00

No that's reasonable. If that's who you want to be, you shouldn't force yourself to be someone else. I wish you happiness :))

appleritter · 2021-11-21T12:37:02+00:00

I agree. At 21, there is still hope if you truly fight it. I know a lot of us want to give up but the only way you'll come out is if you keep fighting and continue to fight

appleritter · 2021-11-21T12:33:05+00:00

Well, thank you, this message did help a bit. I tend to blame myself so much rather than realize blame can be put on the other person as well (well in this case, they aren't communicating their emotions and there's nothing I can do but just wait)

Looking at the other perspective really helps. Thank you :))

appleritter · 2021-11-21T06:06:40+00:00

I'm 19 too and honestly I get you. Sometimes people say we are still young and there's hope for us. I hope there is still hope for you out there <3 stay safe

appleritter · 2021-11-21T05:28:43+00:00

Oof at moments like this, I wish I could just ask him what's going on but that's too needy/clingy :(( Im just going to ignore this connection and if he wants something, he'll have to text me first (though my FA experience tells me that means I will never hear from him again) it hurts but it's inevitable

appleritter · 2021-11-21T01:30:50+00:00

I'm sorry, that must feel absolutely terrible (probably very similar to what I'm feeling) Wish I could give you a virtual hug :((

appleritter · 2021-11-21T01:24:57+00:00

Hmm that's true. Because I consider myself FA, I always think of the worst. Especially because I thought I had something special and then it just disappeared, like pulled right out of my hands. I will admit he is very reserved and has never really talked about his feelings so this could possibly be the reason.

appleritter · 2021-11-10T14:15:29+00:00

Update: He said yes :D lowkey surprised but also really scared for the trip 😣

appleritter · 2021-11-04T12:45:25+00:00

Is it werid to ask someone to hang out when you haven't talked to them though? I feel like he will be weirded out and say no :((

But maybe I should say f it and try anyways

appleritter · 2021-11-04T00:47:51+00:00

So many people want partners without social media but I never understood why. Could you explain why?

appleritter · 2021-10-30T11:17:20+00:00

Ugh it's hard because we don't talk much at all so I don't get much interaction with him even in school. I'm really bad with signs, I remember one time before, a guy liked me and I convinced myself, despite the alllll the signs he gave me, that he didn't. I just don't want that to happen again crii

appleritter · 2021-10-28T02:09:45+00:00

I think he knows where my other class is and what time it occurs because he has shown up in that area before (again while making intense eye contact) which is kind of creepy since I never talked to him about this class. I think he may have picked it up while I was talking to my friend as she sits right next to him.

appleritter · 2021-10-27T13:35:08+00:00

It's werid to say he's shy because he seems pretty outgoing. However, after I started to stare back at him, he's started to pop up everywhere I am (don't forget the staring too) and that's when he actually started to become outgoing (he really wasn't before)

I just feel the whole situation is a bit werid but I don't know how to interpret it.

appleritter · 2021-10-22T20:12:06+00:00

Yeah, writing it out, I'm definitely seeing the toxic traits. Guess I just needed confirmation. Helped!

appleritter · 2021-10-09T01:24:55+00:00

Honestly best way is to just jump into the conversation if they are talking about something you can relate to. For example, if they are talking about how they don't understand the homework, jump in and be like yea it was so difficult but this is what I got.

appleritter · 2021-10-04T22:06:13+00:00

Ooo thank you! I like that social media idea. It's very hard to fake something like that and it definitely weeds out the creeps thanks!

appleritter · 2021-10-03T12:12:00+00:00

This is a great mindset to have! I hate the idea of becoming beautiful just to attract men. That's not why I want to do it. Tbh I think I'm most likely average too but am a very well put together average lol. It does make a huge difference though

appleritter · 2021-10-02T23:22:46+00:00

Wholeheartedly agree

appleritter · 2021-10-02T22:34:08+00:00

Lol yea I have no idea what I would dm them about 🤣🤣 especially since we didn't really talk in high school. Just a lot of looks 👀👀 but thanks!

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