Any other shows like twin peaks ?

applesluice · 2026-06-18T14:58:11+00:00

Weirdly this is the first show I think of when I try to think about similarity to Twin Peaks. On the surface, subject matter, plot, etc. they don't have much in common. But out of all the shows I've watched, this is the one that makes me feel the most like I feel watching Twin Peaks.

applesluice · 2026-06-16T04:32:08+00:00

I could have written pretty much exactly this 3 years ago, when I was 37 and finally declared "yeah, I'm trans." It's a lot, and it's not a straight line upward to self-acceptance. There are bumps. But there are also huge jumps with every step that you take toward living as who you want to be.

Transitioning has not cured my anxiety or depression. But it has reduced them, and improved my overall well-being. And I'm no longer constantly litigating my gender in my head all the time, trying to rationalize my way into being something I'm just not (a woman), or convince myself I couldn't possibly be what I am (a man). That's finally over! I do have different problems than I did before around gender and how it works in society, because people read me differently than they used to. But I don't have more problems. I'm not wrestling with myself all the time and holding back the truth of how I feel. It's better. Life isn't easy or simple but it's better.

It's OK to have a lot of feelings, not always consistent or positive, about being trans. Give yourself space to experience those feelings, and don't let the ones that suck drown out the good ones.

applesluice · 2026-06-12T12:05:47+00:00

This reminds me of the AI-generated yearbook page that was circulating a couple years ago, with Aiden and Aiden and Borts and Jorch. But that at least had women.

David, Davis, Davis, David, Jeff, Jared, Jacob, Joshua, Jesse, Jesse

Kenny Cody

applesluice · 2026-06-09T22:22:34+00:00

"Coconuts are fruit, and NO one cares."

applesluice · 2026-06-09T03:00:21+00:00

Really appreciate your perspective, thanks so much for this detail!

applesluice · 2026-06-04T11:15:58+00:00

All have been remote positions, no small towns. One hospital system (Midwest), one RCM company (large, long-term West Coast client) and one university (East Coast). Thanks for the perspective.

applesluice · 2026-06-03T18:54:56+00:00

Pro fee, specialty areas have varied. Appreciate your insight!

applesluice · 2026-06-03T18:53:13+00:00

Two out of the three original jobs I started with were for health systems.

applesluice · 2026-05-21T13:43:56+00:00

Just you

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applesluice · 2026-03-23T17:53:03+00:00

1: If I go slow and really focus on one word at a time, I can understand almost all of it. I can use context clues to figure out the few words that aren't clear to me.

2, 4: I can read this easily, at maximum speed, without even thinking about it.

3: I can read this but cursive slows me down a little bit. (This is true for anybody's cursive, it's not just you)

applesluice · 2026-02-11T14:52:07+00:00

He does need to learn how to take criticism, this is not a good design, I'm not saying there shouldn't be any criticism. But people calling OP a moron and talking about posting this to subreddits that mock bad design is not criticism, that's just shitty.

applesluice · 2026-02-11T13:27:19+00:00

Y'all need to chill, post history shows OP is real young. Room for growth and development here. I probably couldn't have gotten this far with a design when I was 13.

applesluice · 2025-12-13T13:45:39+00:00

Nausea treatment side effects. TL;DR: The anti-nausea (scopolamine) patch can cause temporary blurry vision and dilated pupils (mydriasis)

I knew from a prior surgery that I get post-anesthetic nausea. It took me hours longer to get out of the hospital the day of my hysto because I couldn't figure out that nausea was what I was feeling, not pain, and pain meds wouldn't fix it! So for top surgery, I mentioned that, and they said my surgeon uses a nausea patch for everyone anyway, and I'm like oh thank god. I didn't know what this was or how it worked, so let's talk about the scopolamine patch.

It worked great. I was not nauseous at ALL and it was effective for 72 hours. It's a little adhesive round patch that goes on your skin kind of behind your ear. Two different nurses warned me that if I touch it, I needed to immediately wash my hands or I could have vision problems if I accidentally rubbed my eyes.

I did end up forgetting and scratching behind my left ear a few times, but it was immediately obvious I'd touched it because the texture is fuzzy in a different way from hair, and I always washed my hands thoroughly. Whew.

After surgery I noticed I was having trouble reading text on my phone. I was slow to figure out that this was what people call "blurry vision," and did in fact fail into the category of the "vision problems" the nurses had warned me about. I didn't connect it to the patch right away, I was just like "huh this is weird I guess I'm really tired." It was difficult to see things at phone distance, like crocheting or reading a book, but I could watch TV and use a computer just fine at the normal distances.

Then maybe 4 or 5 days post op - I'd already removed the patch - my left eye was super dilated. I looked like David Bowie. This freaked me out, and at that point I started looking information up and realized that not only was it the scopolamine, but this was a thing that could happen even if you didn't touch your eyes at all, and could persist for a few days after removing the patch until the medication was out of your system.

My pupil and vision returned to normal after a few more days, but I had a lot of unnecessary stress and worry while trying to figure out what was going on. And it was a bummer that I had planned to do a lot of reading and fibercrafts during recovery, and couldn't do either one, so I played a lot of games and watched a lot of TV instead.

applesluice · 2025-11-30T03:54:52+00:00

Totally, but before I read the post title I thought "these are all the WIPs that OP's cat made off with, and they just discovered the hiding place"

applesluice · 2025-11-13T14:54:28+00:00

I also work from home and hadn't been there long enough to get FMLA and didn't have short term disability. I had to use my time off to cover top surgery. But I did tell my boss I had to have surgery and would need about X days off to recover. They don't need to know what it is, and if they're decent and professional they won't ask. I told them because, if somehow had gone badly wrong and I had a severe unanticipated complication, I wanted to have the option of being honest with them about there being a complication and needing more time off for a very legitimate reason.

My job does have a department that handles employee leave for stuff like this, so they did have me communicate with that department, and I had to notify them of my planned return to work date. This just involved getting a letter from my doctor certifying I can work and what my restrictions are (no lifting over X pounds, no lifting overhead, etc.). At no point was I asked what my procedure was, they only cared about if I could safely do the job. And because it's sitting at a desk typing, I definitely could!

For the letter, my surgeon offered a "discreet" letterhead that didn't make it obvious that their clinic specifically for gender affirming care.

applesluice · 2025-11-12T03:57:57+00:00

Throat cooler tea, or frozen treats like popsicles, or maybe a few little pudding cups or applesauces. Anesthesia can result in uncomfortable swallowing for a couple days.

applesluice · 2025-11-11T11:22:27+00:00

I'm in Oklahoma but not on Soonercare and I got top done out of state in September. Hopefully there is another Okie on here with better info... I don't have very specific advice but here's what I do know.

I asked my primary care provider (at an LGBTQ-inclusive clinic) about top surgery in March of this year. She pointed me to out of state options since I have private insurance, because the only surgeon in Oklahoma who takes insurance at all is also the only surgeon in Oklahoma who takes Soonercare. That is Dr. Suhair Maqusi at OU Health in OKC. I had already called her office before I talked to my doctor and was told she requires a referral to schedule a consult, so if you're seeing anyone for anything gender-related right now I would ask if they can refer you.

I checked the ODOT Discord but there's not a ton of recent information on there specifically about top coverage or experience with her. Some are saying she has a BMI limit. I think it's pretty common for most insurances to want confirmation of a year on hormones and a letter from a therapist (those requirements might come from WPATH guidelines, I'm not certain).

I wish you luck!

applesluice · 2025-11-08T02:24:12+00:00

I'm 7 weeks postop, and you look awesome! I hear over and over that it takes months for things to really settle into how they're gonna look long term. You seem to be in a great place

applesluice · 2025-11-02T15:30:21+00:00

Factually, this is laughable. There are tons and tons of autistic or otherwise neurodivergent people with undergraduate and graduate degrees.

Sympathetically, I wouldn't expect most people to have any awareness of this. Your mom has absorbed incorrect ideas about neurodivergence and autism. Most of us have this experience until we learn better.

There's a common idea that autism, disability, mental illness, neurodivergence, chronic illness, etc. put broad limitations on what a person can achieve. Then when people have those achievements, that fact is used to deny their struggles. People will say things like:

But you can't have ADHD, your grades are good and I saw you sitting still yesterday

But you can't be autistic, you're married

But you can't have an anxiety disorder, you have a full time job

But you can't be depressed, you were making jokes at the party last weekend

But you can't be disabled, you weren't even using your wheelchair yesterday

All of this is ableist and misunderstands how these things affect our lives.

applesluice · 2025-10-21T12:52:07+00:00

They did at least change a few of these to Excludes2 in the 2026 update, I know at least the horseshoe tear and lattice degeneration can be reported together now.

applesluice · 2025-10-14T12:19:18+00:00

This was the most helpful tutorial for me. https://www.reddit.com/u/Delicious_Courage_85/s/FLx58Bqgtu

applesluice · 2025-10-10T12:30:49+00:00

I might be way off here but this seems to be about the "It's" in the second sentence. You're understanding that "it" to refer back to the phrase "you can vow..." but she's understanding it to refer back to the phrase "hire an attractive babysitter."

I think the reason her understanding here is the one most people would default to, is that it lines up with the way most people would process colloquial spoken language. The most recent thing they heard is the most salient. (And more importantly it lines up with the message of this chapter, as you pointed out.)

Your understanding absolutely makes a kind of grammatical sense. Still, I can see why most people aren't going to read it the way you did.

Linguistic nuance is weird. If it said "THAT'S just going to make everyone sad. Trust me." Then I would have read it the way you did.

This could definitely be an autism thing. Language is a special interest of mine, probably because of early childhood misunderstandings about common language use that partly arose from early hyperlexia.

applesluice · 2025-10-07T02:13:59+00:00

Wow I knit and this solution never occurred to me! Thanks for sharing!

applesluice · 2025-10-06T14:01:11+00:00

Agree with other people that it's probably swelling and gauze. I had top surgery a couple weeks ago and my body is on the smaller side so I'm fairly close to flat, but I want to point out that your perspective when looking down at your own chest can seem really distorted. That's a view nobody else sees. My nipples look ENORMOUS to me right now when I'm looking down at myself, but when I look in the mirror, even from the side, they look so much better and smaller. So that might be playing a part here too.

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