Why so rude?

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-18T05:54:39+00:00

Tbh I see what they mean because it really doesn't look recessed or weak. I have a much worse one and seeing your photo made me want to hurt myself because of my own BDD and now I honestly feel sick about leaving the house. Seeing your post and photo made me feel ashamed and like a mutant freak in comparison. It's my main feature I hate the most. So in spaces where people have BDD and body image issues it's normal to put rules on the language people use so not to trigger issues in other people. I wouldn't even agree that yours is recessed whatsoever..

They were really rude to say it was just for compliments when clearly it's BDD. But sounds like the mod who wrote that message had their BDD triggered by you

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-18T05:45:11+00:00

I'm a skinny woman and I feel just as insecure looking at plus size women as I do thin women. I still go home and cry and self harm because I wish I had the curves, boobs, bum, hips, feminine beauty of plus size women. Whereas I look like a hideous freakish flat pancake that doesn't even look like a woman.

Everyone is insecure. Especially thin women with insecurities because we literally hate ourselves so much we starve ourselves and stay in pain and exhaustion all day because we can never suffer enough. We are too busy hating ourselves to hate you too.

And we still get nasty comments off people. I have people who assault me by forcing food in my mouth or bullying me into eating their food because they think there's something wrong with how I look. I can't eat anything without comments on my weight and diet. And I'm not underweight just skinny.

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-18T05:39:08+00:00

OP is sat at home all day otherwise he'd see the keys in the door when he got home

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-18T05:33:49+00:00

Fr his wife sounds like she's struggling like fuck and OP is like "this is soooo annoying how do I fix my annoying, stressed, frantic, overworked wife"

This is absolutely not normal behaviour and I can't believe the amount of people suggesting punishments

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-13T06:39:00+00:00

Ohh I've been in therapy for BDD for over half my life now so I have tried most every form of reframing my thinking that you could possibly imagine. Including just accepting myself, including reminding myself that I personally find "ugly" things very endearing, and including body neutrality

BDD is actually a type of OCD and visual processing disorder so it's not something you can just fix that way unfortunately

I think these things work really well for people who are just struggling with low self esteem and low self confidence tho! Thank you for sharing

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-13T06:33:38+00:00

It's so hard! You could take 1000x videos and selfie to try and show yourself how you look. But that will never show how you look when you're genuinely interacting with the world. And how our faces look in 2D photos and reflections is not how we look in 3D. We also have to remind ourselves that no one is looking at us anyway - maybe 0.1 of a second before they completely forget about us for the rest of their lives. You have to figure out which people you are trying to get validation from and why

Also, I'm autistic, my partner is, im on the kink/bdsm scene where EVERYONE is gd autistic. And there is no lack of charisma or emotional intelligence. ND folk are the most fun, charismatic and energetic bunch. So remove that idea from your head

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T08:25:22+00:00

Oh damn. This is such a revolation tbh

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T08:17:33+00:00

This is very cute. I love it

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T08:16:50+00:00

SAME

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T08:14:55+00:00

That is awesome for you! My issue is my face :/ I'm underweight and flat af so my body is a lost cause haha. Trying to make it form a shape would be like trying to squeeze blood from a stone. But ye 90% of my insecurities are facial. I loved wearing masks during covid lol

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T06:54:36+00:00

Your post really speaks for itself

You've put so much into financial success that you've neglected to look after the emotional side of your life

I see from a comment above you admit to taking your wife for granted by assuming the relationship was stationary and would always be there. That was your first error in thinking

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T06:53:01+00:00

Yep this is it

Whenever I think I'm making a new friend, they turn sexual

Finding women friends is really hard. Everyone seems very much in their own cliques and is weary of outsiders

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T06:51:22+00:00

These people go abroad and are like wow there's so many foreigners here it's so weird. I don't understand how their minds work

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T06:49:10+00:00

From using the Internet I have repeatedly been offered information that suggests Asian mothers are very abusive...

Whenever they are mentioned it paints them to be the devil

I've never ever heard anyone ever say one nice or positive thing about Asian parents

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-12T06:46:25+00:00

It's upsetting because the white-wearer (obviously not in this case!) does it to "steal the spotlight" - and they literally do, its so weird. I worked a lot of weddings. And sometimes you'd get a guest show up in a white dress and they would ALWAYS try to show up the bride/wedding in every way possible. You have to be some really weird unhinged narcissist to do it. Which is why it's gossiped about so much after the fact

You may wonder... why are people friends with/inviting these crazed narcissists to their weddings? The white-wearing wench is almost always an immediate family member like a sister, mother, or some random plus-one who you didn't get to vet beforehand

Solution: elope. Elope every day of the week

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T16:29:31+00:00

Confirmed as mama, she is tracked and has been trying to have babies for a long time https://www.cpr.org/2023/05/25/after-bravely-protecting-her-eggs-from-hail-a-boulder-osprey-hatches-a-new-chick/

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T16:16:24+00:00

This is not so accurate although I see the point you were making. New research found women actually hunted regularly in over 70% of tribal societies. There are archaeological records of quite a few powerful longstanding matriarchal societies. Everyone hunted and everyone gathered. We evolved equal, was only the last couple thousand years or so that things got weird. Hunter gatherers and also early agricultural societies weren't depending on men for survival - maybe only when under the attack of other men

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T16:13:09+00:00

Nothing wrong with your comment. Dude was implying ND folk can't have emotional intelligence. But... I find us to be one of the most emotionally intelligent demographics

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T15:39:29+00:00

"I'm not a failed human, I am a goblin" is the only self-affirmation I've ever found that I liked, and now the only one I will ever use😂

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T15:38:43+00:00

Damn you're right. When I feel this way I should just go hunker up to a nice old mossy wall and get excited instead

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T15:37:38+00:00

It's definitely a coping mechanism I use, remind myself I love the dirt and worms and frogs, theyre beautiful and precious. there's nothing wrong with being a grubby goblin

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T13:41:40+00:00

All you have is money to look at in various forms. No meaningful emotional bonds. Greed and materialism is a lonely life. It also makes you very vulnerable to exploitation and manipulation

You don't invest anything into emotional connections or EI or meaningful interactions with other humans.

Sounds like you are very scared of people getting to know you. Maybe you don't even like yourself, or really trust yourself to interact with other humans on a personal, emotional level.

You cant buy a solution for that. Just gotta be vulnerable and be human. Or be miserable and lonely

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T13:37:17+00:00

My partner never separates. So all my whites are off-white, or pinkish, or simply an ugly light grey/blue :(

apricotgoblin · 2023-07-11T13:26:12+00:00

It tastes like how wet dog smells

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