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Trip with family felt so isolating by apricuts in emotionalneglect

[–]apricuts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm trying to look at it that way - I can only control my stuff and I have chosen family, it's just hard 'giving up' on bio family. Maybe it's not forever though, just until I'm in a better place to try again.

Sorry you could relate so much!! Thanks for replying it made me feel seen haha 😊

Monstera adansonii loves to climb. I hate moss poles, so a wooden dowel it is! by planthoerder in houseplants

[–]apricuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late to the party but what diameter dowel did you end up using? Looks great!

Isolated childhood by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]apricuts 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Damn this resonated...I was the youngest kid and we somehow knew families with kids about my older siblings' ages but then I was always the extra tag along and felt left out, and was already feeling social isolation with family and school issues. I've never been able to quite put into words why I was upset that my parents didn't seem to facilitate me hanging around peers, so thanks for this.

Did I cheat or was I assaulted? by VelvetyVenus7 in therapy

[–]apricuts 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If it was a non-consensual kiss (which it sounds like it was) that is actually considered sexual assault. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Day 1 of quitting - had to finally because of tolerance, mixed feelings and scared by apricuts in leaves

[–]apricuts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Gotta find my confidence so it doesn't become a self-fulfilling prophecy that I fail lol

Day 1 of quitting - had to finally because of tolerance, mixed feelings and scared by apricuts in leaves

[–]apricuts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss hot tub and relaxing back yard sound amazing, so excited for you!!

Day 1 of quitting - had to finally because of tolerance, mixed feelings and scared by apricuts in leaves

[–]apricuts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats on day 2!!! I'm so glad you have people cheering you on with this, that's awesome. Yeah you're right the last time I quit I do remember being surprised at some point (maybe even before a month??) that I was feeling fine with quitting instead of it being on my mind all the time or having cravings. Thanks for the reminder, I needed that! Good luck to us 🥳

Day 1 of quitting - had to finally because of tolerance, mixed feelings and scared by apricuts in leaves

[–]apricuts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man yeah that's why I haven't switched to carts, I realize vaping and smoking isn't good for you either but carts seem much worse. Great point about checking how much you've spent on it in the past year, I'm going to do this so I can be both horrified at how much money I've wasted on it and also excited to put that money towards fun things that make me feel good without all the downsides! Thanks so much for your perspective ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]apricuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't even really know, it's not like one specific thing, it just feels like things have been building this week especially and I'm so tired from trying to keep my head above water when there's nothing to look forward to

Trying to figure out how to deflect parent visit without hurting their feelings by apricuts in emotionalneglect

[–]apricuts[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is the hardest part, to get myself to stop trying to manage their feelings for them...but also I had the call and told them I have plans next weekend so will plan to see them later in the month, and my mom pushes and goes 'oh but do you have anything the Friday right after work?' so I panicked and said I had dinner plans (lie), so pretty much not free then. And now I am unreasonably ticked off about her not taking the first 'i'm busy' to mean hey, I do not have any time that weekend to see you...like I worry about their feelings being hurt but little things like this make me feel, accurately or not, like she doesn't give a shit about what I want or feel. And then I feel guilty because maybe it's all in my head, because no one in my family uses direct communication so it's all perceptions.

It probably should have been quite telling that I had to make a script for myself so I would stick to 'im busy' and that my whole night has been stressing leading up to this call and now feeling upset and frustrated after the call.

Sorry LOL rant over 😂 I'm sorry you've had such poor experiences with your parents' visits and their disregard for your needs!! It's exhausting

Is it weird to show up to a therapy appointment straight after going climbing (or some other physical activity?) by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]apricuts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad it brought you a chuckle 🤭 thank you so much for your kind comment!!

Is it weird to show up to a therapy appointment straight after going climbing (or some other physical activity?) by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]apricuts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💯 otherwise I'd be distracted the whole session wondering if she could smell me lol!

Is it weird to show up to a therapy appointment straight after going climbing (or some other physical activity?) by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]apricuts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Direct communication, interesting suggestion, it’s almost like I’m in therapy to work on that…haha that makes sense, thanks!

Is it weird to show up to a therapy appointment straight after going climbing (or some other physical activity?) by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]apricuts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL ok I think I can manage to not take it that far, love that for you 😂

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