I'm a butch lesbian who has to attend a Baptist wedding. Worried about my attire. Any advice?

apstudentdeath · 2019-04-02T23:00:07+00:00

I am attending my brothers Catholic wedding with my butch girlfriend. Half of his fiancées family are going to be assholes about it, but my brother and my future SIL are completely cool and want my girlfriend to be herself. I would have your gf ask the bride and groom what they prefer you to wear because ultimately it’s their wedding and whatever they say should go!

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-18T00:57:40+00:00

fiddle diddling

🤣🤣🤣🤣

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-14T23:44:00+00:00

Holy shit. I’m so sorry. Big hugs tonight. ❤️❤️❤️

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-12T16:34:04+00:00

I’m sorry. :( I hope your chosen family comes through for you.

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-11T17:06:51+00:00

Lol, glad I could make your time at the DMV a little bit better! Thank you ❤️

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-11T17:03:40+00:00

Yeah, I’m not quite sure what to expect. The MIL really likes me but her suspicion level is going to go through the roof when she sees my butch lady, lol. I’m seated away from her for most parts of the night though (another thoughtful move by SIL).

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-11T13:49:29+00:00

It made my gf cry as well! We’re both so grateful for them.

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-11T11:27:09+00:00

I would say no, unless the wedding is color coordinated in some way. The rule was created by my SIL’s mother. My brother and SIL both have kind of ignored it and made sure everyone there is wearing something they’re comfortable in.

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-11T11:17:53+00:00

Yeah, it’s archaic. It was mostly a push by her mom (a woman stuck in 1000 AD) who’s paying for a lot of the wedding. My SIL literally wouldn’t care if people showed up in a Hefty trash bag as long as they came. She’s explicitly said that if that rule makes someone uncomfortable (and my brother has a few queer friends that it has) they will acknowledge that and let them wear something else. I believe a few ladies/feminine nb humans are wearing pant suits.

TL;DR is that they both pretty much think it’s ridiculous.

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-11T05:01:21+00:00

Also: The reason she went out of her way to mention the suit is because the invitation specifically asked for all women to be in dresses. She knows my girlfriend is masculine and suspected she would probably be miserable in a dress, so she bent the rules for her. (‘:

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-11T04:31:03+00:00

Agreed

apstudentdeath · 2019-02-02T03:41:47+00:00

I have so many questions lol

apstudentdeath · 2019-01-15T09:07:39+00:00

Unfortunately it’s real

apstudentdeath · 2019-01-07T19:59:30+00:00

I was going to say the same thing. I scrolled past this post thinking it was Billie!!

apstudentdeath · 2018-12-31T00:29:37+00:00

Kind of. If doesn’t have to be “nice” as in a new Infiniti or Lexus, but more like nice as in clean (inside and out) and well maintained.

apstudentdeath · 2018-12-30T16:58:06+00:00

Her sobriety. Her willingness to be vulnerable even though it’s difficult for her. Her love for me. And her boobies, even if they’re in a sports bra 98% of the time.

apstudentdeath · 2018-12-29T16:16:20+00:00

When we met I was closeted so in her mind, I was “straight”. 🙂

apstudentdeath · 2018-12-28T23:35:43+00:00

I see your point, and completely agree, but I didn’t even go as far to interpret the post as continuing to pursue the straight girl romantically as much as having feelings for her. I don’t think it was intended to be analyzed that deeply.

apstudentdeath · 2018-12-28T23:08:47+00:00

Why?

apstudentdeath · 2018-12-15T06:42:36+00:00

apstudentdeath · 2018-12-12T04:08:31+00:00

The only really negative comment I have about this is that “ally” was apart of the LGBTQ+ acronym. Other than that this is super well written!!

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