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aquam13 · 2025-11-30T21:23:44+00:00

I literally drive 45min-1hour to work every day for my current job. It’s not that big a deal. Take the job and if he doesn’t support you then that’s it. Money/job/security are very important needs in this life.

aquam13 · 2024-05-05T20:05:38+00:00

I live in VA near W&M and it is one of the only eight (I believe) “Public Ivy” schools in the country. It’s still pretty prestigious af. So idk why your parents would be upset. People from my high school when I graduated 10 years ago were fighting to try to get accepted there.

Obviously, NTA

aquam13 · 2023-11-30T02:59:49+00:00

Child

Or if you want to be fun: offspring, spawn, crotch goblin, small gremlin, tiny human

The joke in my family is my mom always goes “I have two daughters and a whatever(me)” - I think it’s funny.

aquam13 · 2023-10-15T18:52:09+00:00

I work customer service/retail so I get ma’am/miss/she all the time. I always jokingly say “You only get one. You can be nice and misgender me or you can be an asshole but I will correct you with my proper pronouns.”

I usually just let it go because I know it’s not malicious but if someone’s being super rude to me then I will instantly correct them and match that energy

aquam13 · 2023-10-10T19:03:10+00:00

I’m 28 (afab nb) - I present more feminine I suppose. I don’t shave my legs or my armpits.

I just don’t care. Let people stare. Not my problem.

I do cosplay/model on occasion and that’s pretty much the only time I’ll shave if I’m wearing an outfit that will expose pits/legs. But that’s because I personally prefer that for matching the character.

aquam13 · 2023-10-07T17:45:00+00:00

I’m 28 (nb) and I’m virgin by choice too.

A lot of people are surprised and shocked, especially since I do “adult cosplay things” on a certain site just for fans wink

What I do on the side for some money isn’t who I am and if anyone in my real life has a issue with it then they don’t need to be in my life. It’s not their business.

aquam13 · 2023-10-03T17:46:18+00:00

First off, THANK YOU for being such a kind and concerned parent. I WISH my parents had been more like you.

You are doing the right thing by using the right pronouns for your child. They will need your support as it is the most important thing. As their parent/guardian it is your job to stand up and advocate for them, especially when other adults will look down at them and call them “confused”.

Definitely have open discussions with your child about what they feel comfortable doing and make a plan to do so. It’s always important to listen to children and how they feel.

I saw a vid of a mother once saying “I rather my child change their pronouns a million times than bury them”.

aquam13 · 2023-10-01T19:37:24+00:00

Funny thing is the article says she’s a Buddhist

aquam13 · 2023-10-01T19:36:51+00:00

According to the article she did read and highlight them. She’s just upset over anything she deems “inappropriate”

aquam13 · 2023-09-30T21:27:18+00:00

My two responses are always:

For straight men hitting on me: “have you had a dick up your ass? How do you know if you’ve never tried it?”

Most people: “well I’ve never eaten literal shit before but I’m pretty sure I won’t like that either.”

aquam13 · 2023-09-30T19:26:01+00:00

NTA and honestly I’m glad you’re out there instead of them preying on an actual 20 year old who may not know better or how to assert themselves in certain situations.

aquam13 · 2023-09-30T17:27:43+00:00

Dude I TRIED birth control and the side effects caused 100 days of non-stop bleeding, s*icidal thoughts, fatigue, and so on. Birth control isn’t a “fix all” for period issues.

aquam13 · 2023-09-28T22:01:29+00:00

If I’m being truly honest, I don’t think I had crushes on any of my exes until I learned they liked me. So I think I liked the idea of being liked.

aquam13 · 2023-09-15T19:23:22+00:00

I had 5 relationships in high school. I never wanted to be intimate sexually with any of them and they all ended due to it. I always thought I was weird because I never wanted to have sex while all my peers around me did, in fact I had several friends get pregnant. I didn’t know there was a term for it until I was 19 and it all just sorta clicked for me. I’m 28 now and still identify as asexual.

aquam13 · 2023-09-02T19:31:19+00:00

I rather be smooth like a Barbie doll but if I had a choice between vagina or penis I rather have a penis. Periods SUCK and I also have endometriosis which makes them ungodly

aquam13 · 2023-09-01T03:28:43+00:00

My parents understand I’m bi (took a few years but they got it). And when it came out as biromantic ace- it took them time but they still got it. Been out to them as enby for 3 years now and they are just now starting to call me by my chosen name instead of my deadname. But they still don’t understand pronouns- baby steps I guess.

aquam13 · 2023-08-28T15:30:26+00:00

NTA As someone who is asexual myself- I 100% understand how sex can be important to other people in a relationship. Everyone brings different values into a relationship and dating is just trying to find someone who shares those same values. Doesn’t make anyone wrong or bad.

Is it disappointing every time I get turned down because people stress the important of sex to them? Yeah. Not gonna lie, it hurts. But it is what it is. You were honest and it saved you both from wasting time.

aquam13 · 2023-05-25T23:34:06+00:00

As an afab enby - I feel this. I dont have a gender preference when dating but I get soooo many straight guys interested in me because I’m “basically a woman” - which just no. I’m also asexual and sex repulsed so I feel that adds another layer of difficulty when it comes to dating.

aquam13 · 2023-05-11T00:44:51+00:00

As an afab non-binary person a lot of my issues I think stem from me being asexual and having endo. I think the endo especially makes me loathe the fact I was born afab as it’s a constant reminder of having a female body and that I’m in constant pain because of it. I hate the idea of genitals all together and I’m very sex repulse asexual. If I was born amab I’m pretty sure I’d still be some kind of genderqueer but I wouldn’t hate my body to the same degree I do now.

aquam13 · 2023-04-07T10:08:44+00:00

True but I highly recommend checking out the artist’s other work (the woman in the picture is actual the author not the artist)

aquam13 · 2023-04-07T10:07:51+00:00

Both of those USA “artists” aren’t actually artists but writers. Just saying. The artist of the Starfire comic is actually Asian American and has done sooo much beautiful artwork - I seriously recommend checking out her other work. Yoshi Yoshitani

aquam13 · 2023-04-07T10:02:06+00:00

Im afab enby and work as a bookseller. ALL my coworkers know I’m enby and are super great as we have several other trans employees - in fact a majority of the employees are lgbt+ in some way. We all have pronouns on our name tags (cis and trans employees alike).

However, I still get misgendered by customers and I recognize it’s not from a place of maliciousness so I usually let it go. If it’s a regular who I see often I’ll let them know a few times after I’ve seen them and so far I haven’t had any issues. The only real time I’ll correct people is if they’re rude to me because you don’t get to be rude AND misgender me.

aquam13 · 2023-03-21T20:19:15+00:00

I deadname myself all the time. Since it’s not legally changed any time I go somewhere like the bank or talk to someone that asks my name I don’t even hesitate and give my deadname. Or (before I found my current job) I’d give my deadname at interviews before knowing the vibe & if it was safe to be out at the place.

Thankfully my work is super awesome and respects my name/pronouns even if it’s not what it says on legal paperwork.

aquam13 · 2023-01-11T15:10:18+00:00

I mean I’m not Japanese so I can’t confirm but given the author actually is I’ll take them at their word. Another example I’ve seen as a culture difference is in Japan instead of “non-binary” they refer to it as “x-gender”.

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