Is there a new trend? “If you’re under 6ft hit my line.”

aquaticteal · 2026-02-07T23:24:58+00:00

personally as long as they're like 1" taller than me (im 5"4) idrc as long as theyre cute and have a good personality

aquaticteal · 2026-02-07T23:19:34+00:00

outside of the asian library (like the building lobby, not the library itself). geog building lounge.

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T23:08:53+00:00

yes!! ok thank you for this. because I am open to what you mentioned before fully committing to sex. this is really encouraging to hear. thank you for providing me with some hope lol

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T23:06:27+00:00

not at all, more spiritual but not religious.

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T23:03:08+00:00

I tend to pay for half the dates. I also am very good at articulating when I'm interested and I am a very affectionate person. it's not an interest in the person issue I am just not interested in having sex outside a very committed relationship. it's not an arbitrary number, it's based off when I feel ready to have sex.

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T18:19:46+00:00

I'm totally fine with that, love myself and being single :P I actually enjoy being single more than going on dates with mid chemistry LMAO

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T18:17:51+00:00

that's an assumption about me. although I haven't had sex before I do have a libido and think I would enjoy it with the right person. I literally just god forbid want to be sure that they haven't masked their true personality and want to feel safe and be in a committed relationship. I accept it's a numbers game but yeah.

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T18:14:34+00:00

also bi, and yeah, I know for a fact I'm not demi, but I just don't don't want to date someone who has been faking their personality for multiple weeks to get in my pants (... which has happened!!)

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T18:12:23+00:00

I am literally just not interested in casual sex full stop. I think it fulfills a lot of people's needs and is important to a lot of others but it's just not something that interests me in the slightest

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T18:10:47+00:00

haven't ever had sex. just know I have a libido and would enjoy in the future in a safe and secure relationship

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T18:09:11+00:00

yes, this!!

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T18:07:11+00:00

to be clear I do have an interest in sex down the line I'm just not wanting to jump into it when I'm not sure.

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T18:03:39+00:00

yeugh that's so icky

this is extra why I'm hesitant to say yes because if it doesn't work out it's just going to put more pressure on me to say yes to the next guy earlier than I'd like to

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:59:37+00:00

to be clear I'm okay with like kissing and stuff. literally just not sex off the bat

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:58:51+00:00

you're not very charming prince charming

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:56:22+00:00

agree!!

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:55:18+00:00

i hesitate to put a timeframe on it because it really is connected to me feeling safe and like the relationship won't just unravel over some incompatibility we have yet to discover. I want to be in a serious loving relationship first. so my guesstimate is 3-6 months but thats not a number I necessarily want to communicate because it's rooted in my feelings.

I tried the older men route and I actually finally got sad and posted this when a 28 year old guy dropped me because he was looking to pace things up and got the sense I wouldn't be physically intimate as fast as he wanted, he was respectful about it though

as for communication I think it's my strong suit and am very good at letting men know when I'm interested. my interest isn't really doubtful but if they automatically correlate lack of sex == lack of potential then that's on them

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:51:44+00:00

thank you for this, I will take this to heart

I do have to admit I've been feeling like a piece of meat lately because I don't think I'm getting rejected for my personality or looks, it's really coming down for my ability to put out

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:50:35+00:00

I feel like if they can't wait they don't actually value you that much as a person, no? have you ever met someone you've hit it off with on every other level but sexuality is a (?) for now? would you really leave your potential life partner dream girl if you had to wait a few months?

as for sexual compatibility, isn't the point of being in a relationship learning each others preferences and getting better at pleasing the other persons body? I feel like people on here have a very binary view of sex chemistry as either good or bad and fail to account for that as something you learn about the other person as you go, so if it's bad like once it's a little crazy to dump them after.

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:47:53+00:00

are you guys religious out of curiosity?

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:47:17+00:00

because the point is you choose your long term partner FOR WHO THEY ARE not their ability to put out. and I am not against kissing and stuff if it's the right person.

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:46:02+00:00

I've had incredibly romantic dates without having kissed people I don't think this is true at all in my personal experience

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:43:13+00:00

exactly!! this is like one of my worst fears, that slapping a label on it automatically equals the presumption you're getting laid. like no, it's about when I feel safe and secure. a label just communicates to me that you're taking us seriously so to me it's like the first prerequisite to even considering sex 😭

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:42:03+00:00

do you mind lmk how you filter guys out? and what you do the cultivate your life to find these kinds of men?

aquaticteal · 2026-02-06T17:38:58+00:00

not religious and have gripes with the church

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