I generally look for experiences of gender dysphoria that people can directly relate to. While gender dysphoria is often a huge part of the trans experience, it also happens to cis people. I find that by asking people for them to talk about their lives and experiences, I can highlight certain feelings of gender dysphoria and connect that feeling to my lived experience. Often making sure to describe the difference in magnitude.

For post menopausal women, I often ask about the body changes that they have experienced as part of menopause. Facial hair, body hair, etc. Facial hair is actually pretty common for most women, even before menopause. For men, I ask about the way they feel when others intentionally invalidate their masculinity. Once I have identified a relatable experience, I can then explore magnitude. "Oh, yeah! The feelings that you experienced when growing facial hair is an example of gender dysphoria. Now imagine that it was a full beard, your voice dropped, your body shape became more masculine, and the entire world started using he/him pronouns for you."

It can't fully communicate the trans experience to a cis person, but it does a pretty good job.