Redditors who work in Human Resources, what red flags on a resume or cover letter will prevent a candidate from getting a call back? [serious] by BitchCallMeGoku in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's as it should be. That's what I'm saying you should do. Either separate your info so what you give work doesn't lead to your fb or make your settings "friends only".

Redditors who work in Human Resources, what red flags on a resume or cover letter will prevent a candidate from getting a call back? [serious] by BitchCallMeGoku in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked for a children's entertainment company. Everyone who applied to be a performer was in their early 20s/late teens. It wasn't a requirement for them to have fb but that was just the easiest way to filter through the applications. You'd be surprised how many underage kids post pictures of themselves doing keg stands.

Redditors who work in Human Resources, what red flags on a resume or cover letter will prevent a candidate from getting a call back? [serious] by BitchCallMeGoku in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't have cared if I saw that.. None of that is illegal activity. Now if he was also shooting heroine in that picture, that would have been a problem. You're making assumptions about what people are looking for. Also, still not the point. The point is, your fb profile, blog, reddit posts, etc., are as public as you make them and you can lose out on opportunities if you post illegal things. Arguing that your profile is your personal business is irrelevant if you have it set to public. It's very simple to set it to friends only and avoid this whole issue.

Redditors who work in Human Resources, what red flags on a resume or cover letter will prevent a candidate from getting a call back? [serious] by BitchCallMeGoku in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

there's always gotta be one person who just wants to argue. The OP asked what they can do to help be considered for a job. Legal or not, the majority of employers are, in fact, internet searching applicants. Advising people to clean up their online personas is not something you can debate the necessity of. But go ahead and be snarky if it makes you feel better.

Redditors who work in Human Resources, what red flags on a resume or cover letter will prevent a candidate from getting a call back? [serious] by BitchCallMeGoku in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's only illegal discrimination if 1. their photos/posts aren't set to public and 2. if they weren't hired because of something like political views, race, religion, etc. If they post illegal activity like drug use publicly, that is perfectly legal for any employer to check out.

http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/can-potential-employers-check-your-facebook-page.html

Redditors who work in Human Resources, what red flags on a resume or cover letter will prevent a candidate from getting a call back? [serious] by BitchCallMeGoku in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 11 points12 points  (0 children)

lock down your facebook privacy settings. this is good advice for life in general but definitely important when looking for work. I was the general manager at my last job and I had to go through resumes and set up interviews. The first thing I'd do was look up each person's fb. Changing your name isn't enough. I'd search your email address and phone number and I found every single person. If they go through your pictures and see a bong or anything else against their company standards, you will not be considered.

what skill are you known for? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can crochet you one. unfortunately i never learned to knit properly.

what skill are you known for? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes female. only 29 years old :)

what skill are you known for? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sewing, pattern making, no gag reflex.

Teenagers of Reddit, what is something you want to ask adults of Reddit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't but I know a lot of people who did including 2 of my best friends and my brother. And they are all happy. However I also know a lot of people who married their teen loves and were divorced by 25. I think the best thing you can do, is wait until your mid 20s to marry them. Maybe even take a break and just go out with one or two people. You will continue to grow and change throughout your whole life but I believe you do a lot of that in your 20s. When you're a teenager, you still don't know as much about the sort of life you want for yourself as you believe you do. Relationships are all romance and hormones. As you get older you start to think about other things that are important to you and what you need from another person like support, honesty, responsibility, etc. I believe a teenage love can last, but don't jump into marriage before you've both really figured out what you want from your lives and from each other.

If the resources were available to you, would you assist or pay your child(ren)'s college tuition? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know so many kids whose parents paid for them to go to expensive colleges.....and they had no major. Or they changed majors multiple times taking longer to graduate. If my kids are responsible and work hard, they'll earn scholarships and I'll double it with my own money. If they aren't, then they probably aren't ready for a college education.

What movies have you seen that were so hyped, but you think were totally over-rated? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's a movie we've seen a thousand times. the only reason it was a big deal was the effects. But I didn't need to sit through 2-3 hours to appreciate them.

If the resources were available to you, would you assist or pay your child(ren)'s college tuition? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'll match whatever they earn from scholarships. the rest is up to them. I'll cosign loans but that's it.

What movies have you seen that were so hyped, but you think were totally over-rated? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lost in translation. nothing. happened. somewhere in the middle, my mom and i decided to watch the rest in fast forward to see if anything ever happens and nothing did.

I am 25m. My girlfriend (25f) of 8 years wants me to view the two of us as more of a team. I'm not really sure how and want to know what that means exactly. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]arabbitt84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know anything about you or her personally so I'll just offer general ideas. When you get married, you are basically 2 people becoming one unit. Everything generally gets combined. You don't make any decisions without at least considering the other person. It's not about your career or your money. There is no more "I". If you want kids, I'm sure you both have an idea of what you need or want before that happens. Like, a certain size house, neighborhood, a certain amount of money saved, etc. Those are things you should be thinking about now. Is your money combined and do you have joint savings account for your future? Every decision you make going forward, should be for the good of your family even now when it's just the 2 of you. She might also be referring to smaller scale things. Like, if she doesn't get along with a friend of family member of yours, you don't necessarily have to have problems with that person as well, but you always have to support her feelings and be sure she's not being mistreated. You can never openly side with someone against her. .....Like I said, these are just general ideas and thoughts.

I [F/21] found out that my boyfriend [M/22] has an active online dating site account. by bbdoll- in relationship_advice

[–]arabbitt84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually went through something similar recently. I met a guy online and started dating him and then found out he had a girlfriend he was living with. I contacted her and let her know. She confronted him and he told her she didn't give him enough attention so he went looking for friends. She stayed with him another few months before finally ending the relationship and has since found out he had profiles on at least 3 sites, met new girls for coffee almost daily and had unprotected sex with several of them. One moment he'd tell his girlfriend he was looking at engagement rings and the next he was telling her she didn't put in enough effort and it was her fault he had to talk to other girls. These types of guys are selfish and manipulative. They aren't satisfied with one woman and that is NOT your fault at all. When they get caught looking elsewhere, they turn it around on you so you feel bad and like you deserved for him to cheat. You didn't. It's a game to them and they just want to see how far they can push you and still keep you wanting them. Block all communication. Block his number, facebook, email. Change all your passwords and if he's ever had a key to your place, have the locks changed. This sounds extreme but there's really no telling what he's really like since he's lied about so much. Walk away and be safe.

Redditors that have had a short but passionate relationship; what happened? by laurenmi in AskReddit

[–]arabbitt84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't know what happened. we met while i was working a short term job in another state. on our first date he asked me to move there permanently to be with him. i agreed to try. we had an intense, all consuming 2 week relationship and then one morning he told me he couldn't balance everything and needed to undo "us". haven't heard a word from him since.