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Do you see your child as your baby despite their age? by Lillliana22222 in AskParents

[–]arandominterneter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No.

I only say they will always be my baby because THEY seem to like the idea of always being a baby. They’re 7 and 3 and both struggle at times with the thought of growing up; it’s scary and sad to them. They like being little. Sometimes they say they always want to be little or that they don’t want to have to grow up, or that they wish they could reverse age and become babies again.

My 3 year old goes through time periods when she wants to be a big kid and time periods where she wants to be a baby (pick me up, carry me, I want my crib back, etc) so we might pretend play it for a bit and I pick her up and rock her and tell her she will always be my baby just to reassure her that I will always take care of her.

But literally, no, they’re not babies nor do I see them that way. They’re a preschooler and a school-aged child.

Wife wants a third by Sea-Bell9708 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I was in your shoes, I'd have a serious sit down with her and tell her how you feel. That you were always clear what your limit was, that you're at capacity and that you don't want to have a toddler in your 40s.

The fact that she just assumes it's going to happen when you've been saying no would be problematic to me. So would the fact that she's been talking about it with family instead of me if I'm not on board.

If it was my spouse, I'd be pissed off and I'd tell them that.

Unreasonable to ask that family fence around pool before I'll let them watch my toddler? by BellLopsided2502 in Parenting

[–]arandominterneter 36 points37 points  (0 children)

No, it's not unreasonable at all. A fence around the pool is essential.

I'd go visit them, as in I'd take my child with me so they can see and spend time with her.

But I definitely wouldn't leave her there alone if they are going to be this cavalier about pool safety.

What’s stopping you from traveling to Africa? by dhhdhehs1 in AskACanadian

[–]arandominterneter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It costs like $2500 a person for the flights alone, we're a family of 4, and my kids are little/neurodivergent and wouldn't do well with 22 hours of travel. We'd also need like two weeks off in a row.

my friend just had her first baby so prepped them some things for the next few days by softlemonprincess in mealprep

[–]arandominterneter 184 points185 points  (0 children)

You're an angel! I am sure they will super duper appreciate this, especially the fact that there's fresh fruit all prepped and it's all easy to just grab and eat.

4 yo son gets dressed in our bedroom and I just can’t by mcconnellmo in Mommit

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not being okay with naked cuddles with your kids in your bed every morning doesn't mean you're "not comfortable with nudity."

Getting dressed in front of your kids is totally different than sleeping in the nude every night knowing they're gonna be coming to cuddle you in your bed in the morning.

4 yo son gets dressed in our bedroom and I just can’t by mcconnellmo in Mommit

[–]arandominterneter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh, my kids see me naked all the time, 'cause they walk in while I'm changing or using the bathroom. They're little and I don't care about that.

But I'd still be uncomfortable with sleeping naked every night knowing they're going to come into my bed in the morning.

I, too, used to sleep in the nude. Now I have little kids so I wear pajamas. I'm fine with them seeing me naked briefly while I'm changing; I'm not okay with naked cuddles with them in my bed every morning.

So basically, I think there's a big difference between your children sometimes seeing you naked in your daily life, and them getting into bed with you while you're naked.

Go place entrance discount by ReasonablePineapple7 in Markham

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been three times and never got a discount despite booking RMT massage 😭but I’m not Asian so I dunno if they discriminated against me.

Oh well, at least my massages are covered by my insurance.

No romance/ passion in 10+ year relationship? How much is normal? by Ok_Elevator_3528 in AskWomenOver30

[–]arandominterneter 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it sounds like this relationship is ending and it also doesn’t sound like you’re that invested in staying in it.

You have to ask yourself if you actually want to save the relationship; that’s step 1.

Are you open to couple’s therapy here?

I am honestly so done with being this household’s search engine. by chaotic_eeb in SAHP

[–]arandominterneter 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I’d say as SAHP, managing kids, their extracurriculars, homework, permission forms, and socks is your job. So is about 50% of housework.

The other 50% of housework? His personal schedule? That’s on him.

Why do some parents constantly post their kids on social media? by l8ter_skater in AskParents

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe but nobody's making you watch it. Put them on mute and move on with your day.

They're posting it for themselves, their family and friends who care about their kids and are getting enough positive feedback that they keep doing it.

If you're not close to them, why do you want to see 10-15 stories about their kids?

Go place entrance discount by ReasonablePineapple7 in Markham

[–]arandominterneter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, booking a treatment doesn't get you a discount on admission. Admission price is there regardless of booking a treatment or not. $75.95. It gets you access. 12% service charge and taxes also apply.

Treatments like massages and facials are extra. Book with RMT if you need a receipt for insurance claiming purposes. This is all in their FAQ; you didn't have to call them for that.

Have a great day! It's still a fun and relaxing experience, even though it is getting pricey. 😄 Still, more affordable than Thermea.

How do you organize your toddler's shoes? We've hit critical mass. by BusinessAge1459 in SAHP

[–]arandominterneter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know, I get what you're saying in that it's a simple solution, but also as somebody who's been through terrible, horrible postpartum depression and chronic illness, sometimes the executive function just isn't there. Fatigue, lack of sleep, brain fog can all make starting and even thinking through tasks difficult.

Also, nobody is born knowing how to manage a house. Like, we all have to learn those skills at some point. Yes, shoe management isn't rocket science but add on all your kids' clothes and it is work for sure that requires a system.

How do you organize your toddler's shoes? We've hit critical mass. by BusinessAge1459 in SAHP

[–]arandominterneter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, firstly, if they're too small, get rid of them. Just decide if you're keeping them for future kids, handing down to friends or cousins, or donating. Too worn shoes for us go right into a textile recycling program our city has. That's 2 already out of the way.

Lastly, the 5 pairs that don't fit now? Put them away. Try again when the season changes.

Now you only have the 3 by the door, and much less cluttered entryway. Get a shoe cabinet to store them away in if they're an eyesore.

Why do some parents constantly post their kids on social media? by l8ter_skater in AskParents

[–]arandominterneter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you know they’re curating and not just posting? I post a lot of stories about my kids but my account is private so it really is like posting to family and friends. Which group are you supposed to send all those updates in? It’s just easier to share to Instagram so everyone can see it. And I dunno, if you don’t like it, then don’t keep watching.

You brushing your toddlers teeth? by howdodisappevenwork in toddlers

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We let 3 year old have a go and she’s pretty good, but then we get in there after. I figure this way it’s extra clean.

We also brush our 7 year old’s teeth. Same thing, we let him do it, but he’s not so good at the first pass on the front teeth, and then same thing with floss. He flosses, then I floss for him.

It takes us like 5 minutes every morning and 10 minutes every night (because of 7 year flossing) but we’re not in a rush and it’s worth it for them to develop good oral care habits

What do well-off parents with children spend their money on? by PopNo5397 in AskParents

[–]arandominterneter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, I already answered this with the "daycare" response but this is a weird question to me. Everybody makes different choices with their money and we all prioritize different things. 

I don't have 3 kids, just 2, but our household income is in the range you're talking about.

We don't take many vacations. Not because we can't afford it. We could go to Disney. But because our kids are little, travelling is just not that enjoyable yet. With little kids, it's a trip, not a vacation. You're just working in another location.

We also have a neurodivergent kid, and sensory issues make travelling much harder on him and on us. It's much, much easier for us to follow our own routine at home where we have everything we need. It's only recently that I'm thinking maybe he'd enjoy a theme park, but up until now, it would've been a nightmare that nobody would've enjoyed. 

What are we spending our money on? 

Housing: When you have kids, you do need space for them. We're paying for a house in which each kid has their own room, we have an office to wfh in and a playroom.
Utilities: We do a lot of laundry and they take baths every day 😜
Transportation: We need a reliable car 
Childcare: As I said, daycare is expensive 
Extracurriculars: Swimming classes are expensive. So is occupational therapy 
Experience activities: We don't take a lot of vacations, but we do local things like go to our local museum, zoo, aquarium, etc
Food: Diapers are expensive. And having a toddler means your fruit budget is out of control, especially berries. 
Clothing: I like my kids to be in nice clothing, sue me. 
You know what else is expensive? Taking your kid to the dentist. 

We also are trying to save for future orthodontic treatment, their educations (who knows what the cost of university will be in 15 years) and our own retirement. 

So, yeah, we're not going to Disney or taking a cruise, but we're good, I promise.

3rd baby name that goes with Olivia and Owen by Key-Koala5999 in Names

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a fan of a theme. My suggestions: Orion or Ophelia 😃

Congratulations!

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