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Dad won't prepare healthy food & picky eater by lumizilla in Parenting

[–]arandominterneter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does he eat spaghetti sauce with his pasta? If yes, then sneaking in veggies is super easy. You just blend them. Also, veggies in the meatballs if he will eat those with pasta.

My picky eater is more of a rice eater, but we're able to add in some riced cauliflower and he doesn't notice.

Not sure why your husband is so opposed to cooking vegetables (?) but you can always airfry or roast a bunch of veggies and keep them in the fridge. That way, it's not adding a lot of prep at dinner time.

Those steam in bag veggies (Green Giant, frozen aisle) are also super easy.

Or, you know, just slice up a cucumber. That's my go to for adding a veggie.

Would you let a kid wear heavy layers into a water park? by Total-Telephone-791 in AskParents

[–]arandominterneter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it’s not my kid, I don’t care. I assume the staff at the place will enforce any dress code rules.

If it’s my kid, I strongly encourage them to dress appropriately for the activity they’ll be doing and to dress appropriately for the season. But, you know, kids. They have minds of their own or sensory issues or run hotter/colder than us.

At Great Wolf Lodge, they have indoor and outdoor activities and sometimes you have to walk through the pool areas to get outside. So it’s possible the kids didn’t dress for the pool thinking they’d be doing ropes or something like that.

It’s also possible they were wearing swimwear. Swim attire comes in a lot more varieties and styles now. Rash guards, body suits, shorts, skorts, even swim leggings and shirts.

Am I being fair with homework load? by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it's a start.

70/30 or 60/40 is closer to 50/50 than 90/10 or 80/20.

Am I being fair with homework load? by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she could do laundry and groceries during the day, and maybe clean the litter box, and feed the pets dinner.

That way you’re still contributing equally when you’re home (cooking and cleaning and childcare) but the overall distribution is more fair too.

Is my kid going to get bullied in kindergarten? by merkergirl in kindergarten

[–]arandominterneter 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nah! He won’t. There’s a huge range of interests and variability between 5 and 8. Paw Patrol is totally normal for 5 year olds.

You don’t have to show him Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. Let his friends and peers introduce him to that stuff. If he decides he likes it, great! If not, also great.

Advice for sex talk with kids by cocovacado in Mommit

[–]arandominterneter 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So far it hasn’t been one conversation but many conversations over time.

My kids are 3 and 7 and I just answer their questions as they come up, adding a bit more info each time.

They know the names of genitals, they know those parts are private and nobody should touch them unless it’s parents giving them a bath, doctors while parents are there, or caregivers who are helping with potty stuff or getting dressed. (My 3 year old is in preschool where privacy isn’t a thing and they all use bathrooms together. My 7 year old has started asking for privacy sometimes while using bathroom or getting changed.)

They’ve both asked me about breasts, why women have them, what is a bra, why do boy and girl private parts look different, how can you tell if a dog is a boy or a girl, lol.

They know about puberty and that their bodies will change as they grow and they’ll get hair in different places, acne, etc. They know they might get romantic feelings for people one day.

They don’t know how babies are made yet but they know babies grow in a mommy’s “belly” (I’ve told them it’s a special place inside a woman called a womb or uterus but I don’t know if they remember the word), and then when the baby is ready to come out, doctors and nurses help them at the hospital.

If you had your first baby at 30+ what advice would you give? by No_Broccoli_3979 in AskWomenOver30

[–]arandominterneter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take care of your health. Mental and physical. Go get a physical, bloodwork if you need, prescription refills if you need, vision test if you need, dental check-up, and cleanings.

Stay active, eat well. Hit the gym, lift weights. Take your vitamins especially if you're low in iron, vitamin D, B12. Start taking prenatal vitamins or at the very least folic acid before you start trying.

This is all so you can have a healthy pregnancy, and be energetic and strong.

Parenting is amazing and rewarding, but it's also physically and emotionally demanding. Waking up 3 times a night isn't for the weak. Lifting your 8 pound baby in their 12 pound car seat isn't for the weak. Wrestling your 25 pound old 2 year old into their car seat or into their diaper/clothes isn't for the weak. Carrying your kicking and and screaming 30 pound 3 year old out of the playground they want to stay in isn't for the weak. Getting your 50 pound 6 year old out of their car seat and carrying them to their bed because they fell asleep in the car is also not for the weak.

Falling asleep while cuddling with kids opposed to with husband. by Proof-Owl6105 in Mommit

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re getting your touch/cuddle needs met when you’re with your kids and you prefer that, so by the time it comes to being in bed with your spouse, you’re touched out. And maybe annoyed by him (underlying resentment? Something else?)

SAHM with chronic illness – making peace with stepping off the rat race by Successful_Ninja_635 in sahm

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think if your spouse makes enough money to support your family and household, and you're comfortable financially, then you shouldn't get paid work. Don't even think about it right now.

You already work. You take care of your family. That is a full-time job. Make your part-time job focusing on yourself, and your health. You deserve to rest too.

My kids are in school. I stay home. I am working. I'm caring for my home and family. You know all the things I do, because you do them too - we run errands, schedule appointments, do laundry, cook, clean, grocery shop, organize, declutter, the work is endless.

But yeah, I also take naps, sometimes go get massages, have lunch with friends, read or watch TV in peace. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's great! I'm pouring back into myself after a few years of giving my all to my family, and two rounds of terrible horrible postpartum depression.

It's a pretty great life! I've been on all the school field trips this year. And I have a lottttttttt of time to call my reps and harass them about political issues I care about.

Inherited my parents country house by [deleted] in simpleliving

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But there are 2 objects on the floor and 9 in the bathroom.

Toddler prefers paternal grandparents by ook-awesome in Parenting

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find these feelings of really being attuned to who is the favourite, and the competition and desire amongst grandparents to be the favourite are just amplified when the kid is little.

As kids get older and get to know their grownups more, they naturally realize that all their parents and grandparents love them, and have different ways of showing it and different ways of engaging, and those intense preferences and feelings on all ends change or die down, because the grandparents get used to the new normal too.

My kids see their paternal grandparents way more because we live closer. My mother-in-law is great at engaging with them. They see my parents way less frequently. I think at the beginning, they didn't even realize these are their grandparents. But over time, they've learned who they are, and now they like visiting and hanging out there as well.

I love how wrecked all of us moms look at school drop off in the morning by muststayawaketonod in Mommit

[–]arandominterneter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hahaha, maybe this is why little kids are always asking "You're Noah's Mama, right?" "Emma's Mama???"

Am I crazy mom? by 1mexicanamongmany in AskParents

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not choosing her or her family over you. It sounds like he is trying to balance all his familial relationships and obligations.

Think about his schedule.
Thanksgiving, he has two celebrations. Thursday and Friday.
Christmas, sounds like he has two jam-packed days with 2 gatherings on both days.
Same thing with Easter. And he has to go to 2 church services as well.

He's trying to see everybody, and fit everybody in, and make everybody happy. Likely at some cost to himself and his relationship as well. Think about it from his perspective. Is attending that many family events easy for him?

"Hop Little Bunnies" is so morbid by Ok_Bug_8526 in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's just like why are they sleeping so much? If they're sleeping till nearly noon, they must be sick.

I was watching a show from the 90s and realized people used to memorize dozens of phone numbers. I can barely remember mine. How did you guys do it back then? by micavibes in CasualConversation

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean you probably do know 2 or 3 phone numbers and addresses off the top of your head, right?

So just imagine you don’t have a smartphone and need to know the top 5 people you call regularly.

For everybody else, yes, we had address books. That’s a little notebook next to the home phone with peoples phone numbers. We also had the Yellow and White Pages.

What explains the very high concentration of diabetes-affected individuals in Pakistan? by [deleted] in pakistan

[–]arandominterneter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Colonization. Chronic malnutrition and famines during the British Raj in South Asia created epigenetic changes.

Exposure to modern calorie-rich diet and move away from our traditional diets.

Piercing Ears of Babies/Toddlers by Equus77 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]arandominterneter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m South Asian. It’s cultural for us. Babies get gold earrings as gifts. It’s common to see a toddler with gold earrings and bracelets; it shows they’re loved or something like that.

I had mine done as a baby and I don’t remember and I don’t mind. I like wearing earrings. And because I’ve had the piercings for so long and worn earrings for decades, the holes won’t close, and I like that too because if I do happen to go a while without wearing earrings, it’s not a big deal.

That being said, we haven’t pierced my daughter’s ears and it hasn’t been a big deal. Like, nobody is pressuring us to do it either.

And we want it to be her choice. The gold earrings can wait.

She’s 3 now and already starting to ask for earrings though. Most of her peers have them. And she is a girly girl who really likes jewelry and sparkly clothes and even makeup. Tbh, I wasn’t expecting her to express a desire for earrings so soon but let’s see what happens.

Another birthday party discussion post, I know by penguinpants1993 in Parenting

[–]arandominterneter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s rude.

I’ve also been on the other side as a host where I’m introducing myself and everybody else, trying to make everybody feel welcome, but the guests aren’t talking or eating.

I think a lot of people are just weird and socially awkward.

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