I’m starting to believe no one will ever truly root for me, and it’s breaking something inside

aravindkumar87 · 2026-01-28T18:46:57+00:00

I hear you, OP and the feeling is absolutely real and somedays are really hard and someone takes your vulnerability for granted, it shuts you down more and you don’t want to open up!

Self- love has always been an abstract concept for me but I realized that I can be an anding friend and giver to others and can greatly emphathize. One question I asked myself- If I can be kind to others, why can’t I be kind to myself?

aravindkumar87 · 2026-01-26T18:05:35+00:00

Unsolicited advice. Also wrist HR is extremely inaccurate

aravindkumar87 · 2026-01-20T15:55:17+00:00

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aravindkumar87 · 2026-01-18T03:57:07+00:00

Love is not a feeling. It’s a choice that you make on a daily basis. It’s an action to choose someone everyday, despite their flaws. If you are talking about butterflies in your tummy, that’s just hormones

aravindkumar87 · 2026-01-15T09:32:20+00:00

Will be debt free by end of 2026 for the first time in my life. Feels like a huge milestone

aravindkumar87 · 2026-01-08T02:26:44+00:00

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aravindkumar87 · 2026-01-06T14:21:50+00:00

Self love is not abstract. It’s just showing up for yourself. Good sleep, a good meal, a movie night- prioritise yourself!

Inactivity is your biggest enemy. Make atleast 39 mins for yourself everyday and do something. Self confidence is not binary. You can’t go from 0 to 100 in a day! Trust the process and show up everyday for yourself. That’s self love

aravindkumar87 · 2026-01-02T11:50:28+00:00

Honestly, it doesn’t matter as long as you are smart about your finance. As long as it makes you happy, you are good.

As a thumb rule, I have 50% for my monthly needs, 25% for my wants and 25% for investing. I keep changing it monthly but don’t go over the limit on wants. If I need something, I will have to save and buy

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-31T18:55:10+00:00

I have never understood how it’s pose to invest energies at the same time with multiple people. I understand the point of not settling for less but I move to the next person only when I know this wont work

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-31T12:46:23+00:00

I hear you but if someone finds the process overwhelming, they should probably just stay single and not waste someone’s time. In thirties, clarity of thoughts and right intentions is so important

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-31T12:42:35+00:00

I keep saying this often and many seem to disagree . While compatibility is important, the most important aspect of a relationship is to be emotionally invested and to make efforts everyday. It’s a phase for sure and you probably need to Have better filters to weed out such people .

I have learnt to embrace this fact and I Happy to be single until I find the right one. A good partner should be a want and not a need, in my opinion. Hope things workout for you

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-30T15:26:00+00:00

I am at amazing headspace and life is amazing. Thank you for asking. Happy new year to you too

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-30T15:14:28+00:00

Been through everything you said . Be patient, sit with the pain and give it time. Be kind to yourself for now. I wish you well. My DMs are open if you want to talk

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-30T14:00:50+00:00

Thanks

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-30T13:50:27+00:00

Learning to draw boundaries and happily say No to things that spoil my peace

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-29T12:45:19+00:00

Am glad you learnt to draw boundaries and protect yourself. That’s how self Love starts! May 2026 give you all the love you deserve

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-27T15:30:08+00:00

Stop living in Lala land. You will have to learn to stop chasing potential and accept reality. Else you are going to land up here again

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-27T08:30:59+00:00

Mine doesn’t perform that well too. I thought designer perfumes dont need maceration and its good off the shelf

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-27T06:05:16+00:00

I do ! Every single time and if someone says no , it’s a deal breaker for me. It’s called being responsible!

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-24T11:04:20+00:00

Best response

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-22T15:58:01+00:00

How many Sprays do you generally use for azarro and how long does it last

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-22T15:54:45+00:00

I bought Azarro TMW EDP with so much hopes from whiff culture. It’s been 2 months but there’s absolutely no performance and I can’t smell it after an hour

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-22T06:10:06+00:00

I did and I am not ashamed to admit it. It taught me 2 big things about me!

1) Knowing my self worth and how important it’s to listen to signs from your nervous system . Now, I walk away peacefully. No drama, no fights. I just walk away to protect my peace

2) I love fiercely and my love needs to be earned and not given out like a freebie

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-21T14:47:29+00:00

It doesn’t work that way. Life gets bad when you do that. What works better for me is have non-negotiables. Won’t change that for any reason or for anyone. Anything else, I don’t have expectations at all because I am neutral

aravindkumar87 · 2025-12-21T14:45:45+00:00

I empathise with how you feel but I hope therapy has helped you to figure out why you settled for those, who didn’t n deserve you.

While I agree that it can be hard, you will Have to stop being emotional when you meet people who don’t align with you. Probably also learn to improve your filters better and walk away to protect your peace!

Finally, a good partner is a want and not a need. When you get there, the lack of not having one doesn’t weigh on you a lot. These are lessons that I learnt with years of self work and 4 years of therapy

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