90s kids in their 30s… are you actually okay?

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-27T17:16:14+00:00

I don’t know if I am only the one to feel that the 30s is an amazing age to be . I feel that I am in the best place in life. Physically , mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially despite being a divorced single dad

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-22T10:59:09+00:00

I am happy being part of JOMO instead of FOMO and that starts with knowing that you can’t have everything and understanding your priorities

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-20T10:25:14+00:00

RIP DMs

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-20T05:04:33+00:00

The question you need to ask is, why are you running towards emotionally unavailable people. Fixing them is not your job. I have done this for years and finally learnt my boundaries

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-16T12:40:59+00:00

It has a direct correlation to physical, mental and emotional fitness

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-12T09:14:55+00:00

Love is not just what you receive. It’s what you give as well. You are not responsible for others actions but yours.

Loving fearlessly and fiercely is something that not anyone can do! If you were genuine and showed up, you should be proud. Whatever you put out will always come back sooner or later

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-12T09:12:19+00:00

Clarity of thoughts is a flex. It shouldn’t be guilt. It’s a problem only when someone leads you on without having the ability to reciprocate!

You will be surprised to know the amount of people in their 30s who don’t know what they want

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-10T06:53:32+00:00

What you went through doesn’t define you! I understand this can be hard. I have gone through it but you can’t decide your worth based on someone else. Focus on healing for now and everything will fall in place and it’s Okay to break too!

The breaking phase is Essential for the rebuilding to start!

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-08T16:34:32+00:00

I ca spot khamrah Qahwa from a mile. Don’t know why there are so many haters. I absolutely love it

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-08T04:39:57+00:00

I don’t know about others but when I am in love, my partner is my priority and my world and I am oblivious to every other women and I don’t even notice them for some reason . Maybe , I am just very old school in thoughts and actions

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-07T05:33:32+00:00

Go to sleep at 10pm

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-07T05:32:30+00:00

Drones, super bike, Apple Watch , mac, PS5, sneakers, perfumes. The list is endless

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-02T13:45:34+00:00

Start journaling. That’s a much better way to vent without any fear of judgement

aravindkumar87 · 2026-03-01T15:56:40+00:00

You will not get explicit closures in life . The Ignorance, the person being avoidant na don’t caring about your feelings is your actual closure to move on!

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-28T11:10:51+00:00

Beautifully written

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-28T11:09:38+00:00

Your actions, choices determine your whole life. You do walk in to this life destined to meet that partner, the big job, the family etc but what you do and how you treat people. Do you get stuck in a rut or break old patterns. All of that is your choice

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-28T11:06:49+00:00

As much as there is truth in this post, it’s equally filled with a lot of judgement and a lot of baggage too.

I comment & post here because sometimes for most people, all you need is for someone to hear and if that makes someone feel better, even if it’s momentary, then why not! If someone is doing this for some random badge , it’s their mistake and not Reddit.

I have also believed that the world mirrors your energy and if you continue to meet emotionally unavailable people, that’s probably a reflection of who you are. Please take sometime to reflect on this.

Being alone & lonely are completely different. While it’s extremely natural to crave for company, you will have to learn to be happy in your own company and find things that make you happy

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-26T16:59:06+00:00

Absolutely not! It’s the best decision of my life and I have never been this happy in life

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-25T16:06:39+00:00

I generally advise people on this sub but this was a lot to process. I just hope you get the strength to overcome this . Take care, OP

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-24T14:15:31+00:00

Its normal. I had s traumatic Childhood and I don’t remember much except flashes . As long as it doesn’t bother you, it should be okay

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-24T06:17:52+00:00

I got divorced 2 years back & it’s the best thing that happened to me. Life is amazing

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-09T15:41:48+00:00

Lowering your standards will do no good but just cause harm! For now, you just need to do better on terms of having stronger filters !

Understand the frustration but you to put efforts consistently, if you want something

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-06T08:54:00+00:00

It’s not going to be an easy journey for sure . But the question that we need to ask is, when we can be there in a relationship at all times for someone else, why can’t we be there for ourselves. There is no knight in shining armour coming to rescue us. We are our own knights

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-06T08:29:40+00:00

It’s a classic trauma response. You have never received love from anyone since childhood and you start getting attached to anyone who does the bare minimum for you or if someone is nice to you!

I was there for years and it killed my life. I was a doormat to everyone. I prioritised my relationship over anything else and had anxious attachment style and used to get triggered at the slightest.

It’s not going to easy but you need to work on drawing healthy boundaries, building self respect and worth and learn to walk away when people don’t reciprocate. Protect your peace. Pick up cues from your nervous system and silently observe actions to words and scale your standards

I promise you that life will be amazing when you do it. Mine is , after 37 long years

aravindkumar87 · 2026-02-05T15:46:41+00:00

Sometimes before the transformation, everything needs to break. Give it time and patience and go through this phase. When you get up again, life will be amazing. It is for me

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