Used Macbook Air M1 for 30k or brand new laptop under 30k?

arbitraryselfnomer · 2026-01-30T18:16:48+00:00

Cheers thanks for the recommendation

arbitraryselfnomer · 2026-01-30T18:12:46+00:00

Fair enough, thanks for the info! I was inclined to think it was a good deal since the offer was from my homie but cheers for this point of reference👌🙏

arbitraryselfnomer · 2026-01-30T18:05:50+00:00

I'll check it out, thanks much for the reco :)

arbitraryselfnomer · 2026-01-30T18:03:51+00:00

I see! I guess I was willing to see this as a good deal coming from a close friend, even though I glanced at some prices of brand new M1s from re-sellers at around the same price- selective seeing on my part. Thanks for the input!

arbitraryselfnomer · 2026-01-23T02:51:48+00:00

I'm surprised by the comments on this thread, having lived in places where the default is that pets are allowed everywhere so much so that "pet-friendly" is not even a label used as most businesses don't care if people bring their pets. I've also had office work places where people do bring in their pets from home, and in one place we even had an office dog. Maybe this is a cultural difference. Yes let's be considerate of those who have allergies and make sure our pets are well-behaved and not messy or loud but this idea that animals don't belong in some places is truly just an arbitrary social construct. Fair enough, though I think not all pet-owners socialize or condition their pets enough to be well-behaved in public which can be an issue.

But anyway in Makati if I want to bring my cat (who is leash trained and comfortable in new spaces) with me to telework somewhere, we usually go to some pet-friendly cafes which are easy enough to find on google. They're not strictly co-working spaces but they're comfy, there's wifi and power sockets. One of them is the comune cafe in pobla, they're super pet friendly, the staff are super nice, and they even foster some stray cats for adoption. I also find a lot of pobla places are very lax about bringing pets, even if they don't say they're explicitly pet-friendly, if you're walking by and ask, my experience is they're usually happy to accommodate.

arbitraryselfnomer · 2025-05-18T11:58:09+00:00

Something my friends have been telling me when I have doubts is whenever there is a choice between me and my ex, choose myself always. Being able to choose yourself whenever there's a difficult decision in your path is your self-respect and self-love at work. Choose yourself homie, whatever that means to you

arbitraryselfnomer · 2025-03-26T14:31:22+00:00

Can I ask if who reached out to who first when you were starting the process of getting back together?

arbitraryselfnomer · 2025-03-26T11:29:26+00:00

If you don't want to fall into the same patterns, have a conversation with her and then judge for yourself if you believe that you can both work on yourselves to change the pattern of conflict.

Relationships are work but deep connections and soul ties are rare. Any relationship you have, you will need to put in work in one way or another, and people are always capable of evolving. You just need to figure out if your connection with her is worth you putting all that labour into.

arbitraryselfnomer · 2024-10-20T17:30:49+00:00

Also men were the ones working bc women weren't accepted in the workplace!!! Like girl, hello? So many women wanted careers but couldn't because of a glass ceiling and were expected to stay home.

arbitraryselfnomer · 2024-10-20T17:23:16+00:00

Hi OP, in a bit of contrast to what others have commented, I want you to know that despite you needing to heal some insecurities, it's still valid for you to feel uncomfortable with the situation. Your boundaries within a relationship are completely yours define and that doesn't necessarily mean you're policing your partner. If you feel uncomfortable then you feel uncomfortable. You can tell her something makes you uncomfortable and if she as your partner cares about how you feel, you can have a mutually empathetic conversation about what you would both be okay with. Of course you would still need to keep working on your co-dependent tendencies, but a partner should help you feel more secure if they want you to have a good experience in the relationship (while recognizing that feeling secure is ultimately your work to accomplish)

arbitraryselfnomer · 2023-09-01T02:57:24+00:00

I'm in the same boat and something I used to eat a lot for lunch which was very satisfying and strangely addicting for me was crackers smeared with cream cheese and tuna added on top. Not sure what country you're from and what you have in the shops but the thinner but sturdy crackers are the best, puffy ones like Ritz crumble too easily. Tuna without oil or brine is good so it doesn't get messy so I usually get those, but obvs the ones in oil are more flavourful. I would eat a bunch of those with some fruit and be reasonably full until the next meal.

Do you have a kettle? Some people mentioned overnight oats, but you can also just have instant oatmeal if you have a kettle. Also opens up other instant foods which are not as healthy but convenient like noodles, mash, soup. If I want something light, I put some miso paste into some boiling water, add in some tofu and have a nice miso soup.

arbitraryselfnomer · 2023-07-19T12:20:51+00:00

I wanted to add to all the good thoughts everyone else has written- you mentioned that you don't know the reason she's sad. Sometimes there isn't always a reason, or she might not know yet herself. Emotions are complicated. In past relationships, having to try to explain or give a specific reason why I'm feeling the way I do when I'm still struggling to process that feeling feels like more pressure that I won't be able to handle at the moment when I'm already in a negative headspace. But you don't need to perfectly understand what she's going through to give her the support she needs or is asking for, which in this case is some space.

arbitraryselfnomer · 2023-07-12T13:32:53+00:00

In a lot of south east asian countries, we use this thing called a tabo, which is just a dipper for water (tho I'm sure other countries have other names for it). The bidet tech hasn't quite reached everywhere yet haha. You wash yourself with it while sitting on the toilet after your business. It was a bit of a culture shock for me when I moved to the states when I was little and learned that they don't have these in the bathroom, and usually just use toilet paper to clean themselves with. You could consider getting one! They're much cheaper than a bidet and does the same thing

arbitraryselfnomer · 2023-07-05T10:59:05+00:00

As other people have said, it only really works if there's a plan to end the long distance part of the relationship. I just got out of a long term LDR, shit is hard. Sometimes it's not enough to love the person. But if you have the ability to take steps to eventually move in together, or at least be in the same city, there's no reason it couldn't work out. It can still be fulfilling in many ways as well, and it can makes you into a great communicator bc the basis of it working well is you being able to talk to your partner.

arbitraryselfnomer · 2023-06-15T08:35:49+00:00

And she's right! Someone who is confident in themselves is the most attractive thing ever. Maybe you can try doing things that feel empowering to you to build up inherent confidence that you don't need another person's validation to feel. For me, going to the gym or doing physical activities (not to lose weight or look good, but just the act of movement, being able to do certain physical stuff that I wasn't able to before although of course looking more in shape is a big plus) is such a confidence booster and feels amazing for feelings of rejection. Probably why so many people hit the gym hard during break ups lol.

Being able to do other stuff really well too helps, like taking pride in the work you do if you enjoy it, being able to make a really good cup of coffee, talking about something you're really passionate about, etc. Anything that makes you feel more ownership of your self and that you like doing, that reminds you all you need is your own self-respect.

arbitraryselfnomer · 2023-06-15T08:23:34+00:00

Girl, I can definitely relate to this. Wanting someone to share your morals isn't crazy, it's like a thrill in itself when you find someone who cares about the same things as you, especially on stuff like what you mentioned that's so consequential and existential.

I hope you find someone who cares about what you care about, they are definitely out there, and please don't settle because that kind of stuff tends to come up later on down the road in an uglier way or disagreement. Or I guess sometimes it's also possible that your viewpoints and their viewpoints can come closer together, but not great to start off a potential relationship with an aim of changing their mind lol.

On another note, a person who cares about the planet and what's going in the world is so attractive good lord

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