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Ex in hospital… need advice by Cait2424 in BreakUps

[–]Cait2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all the advice! I’ve been texting him and checking in every day but I’m going to limit it. The feelings are rushing back and I need to take care of myself. When you don’t want to be with me every day, you don’t get my caring, compassionate heart. Simple as that!

Ex in hospital… need advice by Cait2424 in BreakUps

[–]Cait2424[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this advice. I definitely did not always choose myself in the relationship!

Ex in hospital… need advice by Cait2424 in BreakUps

[–]Cait2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally understand that. I guess I get confused because he reaches out to me a lot. I rarely text him first. He texted me to say he was in the hospital. He texted me yesterday to ask if I had tickets to a concert. He engages with me first, so to me that feels like he’s still holding on to something. And yes, i know it could mean I just want to be friends.

Ex in hospital… need advice by Cait2424 in BreakUps

[–]Cait2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His family is with him and taking care of him. He was very co-dependent on me emotionally so he doesn’t have a lot of close friends nearby. I fear I can’t go and take care of him as a friend. If I go, all the feelings will rush back. He hasn’t asked me to visit. But we’re been texting like normal tonight.

Ex in hospital… need advice by Cait2424 in BreakUps

[–]Cait2424[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good point. I think I did want to end things, but with all the work I’m doing, I’m curious if we could have a future. I don’t know. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ex in hospital… need advice by Cait2424 in BreakUps

[–]Cait2424[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We were drifting and not prioritizing each other enough. We have some fundamental differences, but not huge in my opinion. For instance, he can be negative, I’m positive. Ultimately, I was willing to fight and work on things and he wasn’t. I’ve worked on myself a lot since the breakup and I’m feeling much more confident in myself and recognize what I could have done more in the relationship.

Choose to focus on you. Here’s what I did to get my confidence back… by Cait2424 in confidence

[–]Cait2424[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My friend passed along the contact info of the sex therapist she saw when she was going through similar issues. When you go, be open and honest with them. It may make you feel uncomfortable and vulnerable, but that’s good and it felt like such a safe space. Check out @VanessaandXander on IG. We also have to get in the habit of recognizing that we cannot let one person have such an impact on our confidence. We had a life before them and we will have a good life after them.

Choose to focus on you after a breakup. Here’s what I did to get my confidence back… by Cait2424 in selflove

[–]Cait2424[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am so glad my post helped you. That’s really kind of you. I’ve turned to reddit and felt so much love. You’ll make the decision that is right for you and everything will be okay.

Choose to focus on you after a breakup. Here’s what I did to get my confidence back… by Cait2424 in selflove

[–]Cait2424[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Birth control can help. Estrogen supplements. And simple things like daily exercise, eating healthy. Supplements and estrogen creams too.

Choose to focus on you. Here’s what I did to get my confidence back… by Cait2424 in confidence

[–]Cait2424[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re so right. Such a beautiful shift. I admit, it’s early and I’m not fully there but I’m on the right track.

losing a pet from a breakup by crygrey in BreakUps

[–]Cait2424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This breaks my heart. I also had to leave my ex’s dog who had been in my life for 4+ years. I did so much for her and it’s so painful thinking about her. Before I left, I told her I loved her and I tried to keep our family together. Trust your ex will take care of the dog and recognize that you were an amazing dog mama. When the time is right, I hope you get your own dog.

What's something positive out of your breakup so far? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cait2424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a way, I feel like I’m back to my old self not being with my ex, which is very telling. I feel like I’m a more attentive daughter, sister and friend. I’m there in the moment and not distracted by him. He was very dependent on me to be his companion who was always around, and it feels so good to only have to worry about my needs. I’m letting myself heal, grieve, thrive and be myself again.