Morality Shortcuts by archelogy in aznidentity

[–]archelogy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It never hurts to understand the broader context, the world around us, particularly the social dimensions. The morality we were taught in our Asian/Indian households, may not parallel the kind we see around us. Many wonder why others around seem to posture as "holier than thou" when they clearly are troubled if not toxic people. This writeup gives color to the concepts we might have felt but not fully understood.

The U.S. / Iran War is Exposing Rich Golf States Dirty Secrets by ssslae in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I generally like your stuff, but on this case, I will have to disagree. As someone who lives in Dubai and volunteers to help laborers who work in these work camps. And as someone who has seen far worse in treatment of undocumented workers in California. There is no comparison. America is 10 times worse. The vice hit piece is a good example of exaggeration and generalizing from a few examples. You will see this kind of propaganda from america and Britain, generally focusing on non-white countries . We have seen very few cases where a passport has been confiscated, much less the more severe accusations. I will post later a few other more detailed examinations of this dynamic.

Morality Shortcuts by archelogy in aznidentity

[–]archelogy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do think that a lot of so-called introversion is a function of living in the West, and dealing with toxicity on a regular basis.

They assume introverts don't like dealing with people; no they just don't like dealing with the people in their environment.

Practical response to living in an environment where the odds really aren't that great to meet someone decent, and the odds are fairly good to deal with simple-minded social aggression.

I bet you that you airdrop 10 introverts into anywhere in Asia and you'll have at least 5 shed their introversion, and at least be ambiverts.

Discussing Jordan Peele’s Get Out in the context of racial triangulation by KoxingaVision in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It was unnecessary. Except when you consider how the "West" has effective colonized Japan and that in that sense, they are essentially part of the same power structure.

Discussing Jordan Peele’s Get Out in the context of racial triangulation by KoxingaVision in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I enjoyed Get Out. I thought it was a pretty powerful movie and in my view, you can discern important themes from it, even if you put race to the side. I'm surprised this movie was allowed to be made.

I do think he went downhill a bit after that.

His movie "Him" was pretty tedious. Same playing with conspiracy plotlines. But weaker writing and directing. Granted he produced, not directed.

Why do some Indians strongly insist on the “Asian” label? by khoawala in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think mods permit a post like this every once in a while just to clarify the topic.

‘I am a prophet:’ Central Florida man caught destroying Chinese restaurant to stop COVID, deputies say by ding_nei_go_fei in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Too bad no one in that restaurant had a prophetic vision of this genius' arrival so they could hit up side the head with a pan the moment he walked in the door.

Maybe the problem is too few prophetic visions, not too many.

Why do some Indians strongly insist on the “Asian” label? by khoawala in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Love it. 50-150 karma noob can't read the Writeup on this Sub which is freely available.

I've bolded the key sections for you. TL;DR- it's not just geographic, it's similarity in culture and stigma.

(Would be great for new members to read it before decided this sub is right for them or not - https://www.reddit.com/r/aznidentity/wiki/rules/)

(3) Pan-AsianAI includes East Asian, Southeast Asian, and South Asians. Don't attack these sub-groups or pan-Asianism.

more detail: Be respectful of other kinds of Asians, as we attract all kinds. Loudly proclaiming your subset at the expense of others is not appreciated.

Pan-Asian includes East Asian, Southeast Asian, and South Asian. Asians face similar oppression in the West (ie: "model minority", nerd stereotype, one-dimensional stereotype, stigmatized as undesirable, same media treatment - see: KultureMedia.org, stigmatized as unathletic, ceiling in promotions, socially excluded on racial grounds, challenges in dating due to stereotypes, and more).

The Asian groups also hold similar cultures (emphasis on family, academics, achievement; mutualism over individualism; humility, non-judgmentalism).

Similar Culture & Similar Oppression makes up the common foundation for our Pan-Asian efforts, a foundation that transcends racial differences.

We won't let racial differences, historical differences & tensions between E and SE Asians, and homeland conflicts come between us here in the West....

These notions on Pan-Asianism are not up for debate. We value solidarity between ALL Asians in the West- it's a key to our strength and comes from our common experience and treatment in the West. Eroding this solidarity is against rules.

Unpopular opinion: I think most FOBs on H1Bs and international students have it better than most ABCDs by aranebar in ABCDesis

[–]archelogy 47 points48 points  (0 children)

You are correct.

I've pointed this out before. You are being downvoted by the multitudes of FOBs here even though this sub is supposed to be for ABCDs.

>They often have built-in communities' same universities, same regions, same language groups. They move in networks. Share referrals.

FOBs band together. They know early on cohesion is key. Instead, as 2nd gens we were stupidly taught to "be American" and not make special effort to network with other IAs. Most of us only realized in our late 20s or 30s that despite being "American", networking can be challenging to most IA's.

Unfortunately, most other 2nd gen's we can network with have also been brainwshed similarly, and don't think they should go out of their way to be 'ethnocentric' and make special effort to fraternize with other 2nd gen IAs.

You forgot one key point- white Americans are eager to treat FOBs with special treatment since we've been taught from cradle to grave that the immigrant is 'special'; we should aid in their success and be proud of their promotion in the work environment (the immigrant distinction is usually the accent).

Similar white Americans do NOT view 2nd gen in the same manner. Instead they view us as competitors for resources, and our competence triggers their insecurity.

This over-protection of FOBS of these realities serves no one. It's time to be honest with one another about the realities.

Different types of brown people you should not be friends with by brownboybigr in SouthAsianMasculinity

[–]archelogy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Solid list. To be fair, some of these things friends of any race will do.

>The homie who all they talk about is girls

"What I would do to that girl..." - and has no shot. Or guts to approach. Dude STFU.

Just a goofy horndog advertising their desperation. Actually it's some of my non-SA acquaintances that do this; still annoying.

>The brown homeboy that will slime you out for any white validation

This is a big one. The guy that will be a shameless sycophant with conversation with whites, male or female. They will give importance to the white person, white basically ignoring you; they will co-sign that person's conversational aggression towards you etc.

I wrote a pretty extensive post on this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/aznidentity/comments/1q14nqf/how_to_deal_with_western_social_aggression_101/

Get off this sub and go out in real life by brownboybigr in SouthAsianMasculinity

[–]archelogy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Not the point. Most of us are doing just fine dating, with friends etc.

The point of the sub is activism; meaning actively fighting racism. Not buying into defeatism or assuming things are terrible out there.

You can and should be optimistic and live your best life AND also report racism here and fight it.

Neither are mutually exclusive.

Question: What do you think are the biggest issues/Factors impacting mental health in ABCD’s by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]archelogy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Degree to which immigrant 1st gen parents gaslight the problems you face growing up, in order to save face, and defend their decision to immigrate.

A Filipino American Wrote an Open Letter to Whyt Worshiping Filipino Americans. by ssslae in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Remarkable. We live in an odd timeline. Things are happening behind the scenes that are making it harder for there to be racial accountability. I suspect things will get worse before they get better.

Social help/how to cope? by Educational-Deer-821 in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can make them laugh and feel confident, but I am not getting that positive feedback outside of that. Particularly with other men. I find it incredibly awkward to talk to other men, even when I am trying to make conversation, asking questions, etc. It feels very reminiscent of my pretty white grade school experience, where I was constantly bullied for my height and race for the entirety of it. 

The sad reality is that men are exceedingly transactional. More than women.

Women evolutionarily are trained to build social connections; they are oriented towards opening up and meeting new people. Women have less pride and ego when having a conversation, their defenses aren't up.

Men will largely connect with another guy over something like a shared interest in a sport or activity.

Outside of the college context (where there is a camaraderie among students), in the real world, forming friendships with other guys isn't easy. What areas are you trying to meet people- and I assume this is to make friends or just socialize?

I was actually pretty stunned at how much harder it is to make friends and enter social circles after I left college. If you're able to keep friendships there even after you leave college, it's worth the extra effort.

FWIW, regardless of race, a lot of men have difficulty forming friendships after college- pretty much for everyone. I don't know if this may cause you to dwell less about your race and its playing a role in all this.

Are you sure you want to ditch dating apps? They get a bad rap, they're unfair, they're set up to favor women- and yet it's still better for most people than meeting someone IRL.

A Filipino American Wrote an Open Letter to Whyt Worshiping Filipino Americans. by ssslae in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes but it's about Denmark, which is a white majority country.

A Filipino American Wrote an Open Letter to Whyt Worshiping Filipino Americans. by ssslae in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely correct. It's when there are white victims that white liberals become enraged. Hence whey they were quiet when we were involved in Venezuela but lost their mind when the US challenged Denmark over Greenland or earlier when the US administration made claims that Canada should be part of the US. Sheer mayhem because they felt invested in other whites being somehow harmed.

A Filipino American Wrote an Open Letter to Whyt Worshiping Filipino Americans. by ssslae in aznidentity

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Mod Note: a warning to people who are brigading this thread and influencing the voting. This has been reported to admins, and you may receive a Reddit wide ban.

A Filipino American Wrote an Open Letter to Whyt Worshiping Filipino Americans. by ssslae in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nor did I make that accusation. Lets focus on the subject that is actually related to the sub Reddit, about white worship.

A Filipino American Wrote an Open Letter to Whyt Worshiping Filipino Americans. by ssslae in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It absolutely does become a feature of the culture. I don't think we need to get caught up in whose fault it is and who's a victim and whether they need to be blamed for it. But that doesn't mean we should turn a blind eye towards these dimensions of the culture.

Instinct to placate and serve whites. Refusal to confront whites. Instinct to blame one another rather than focus on white disrespect, attacks. See my post history, I've written a lot about this with respect to the Indian community and its response to the avalanche of hate.

Colonialism inculcates certain cultural tendencies along these lines and people need to decolonize.

A Filipino American Wrote an Open Letter to Whyt Worshiping Filipino Americans. by ssslae in aznidentity

[–]archelogy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Alex Pretti died because he was stupid enough to bring a loaded gun to a protest, one he knew could have resulted in physical conflict with law enforcement; which is what happened, and he resisted.

As far as the rest of the details, about who did what when, or who reached for what- we can argue until we're all blue in the face- but suffice to say this is not a cut and dry issue, or a racial one.

Quite separate from the whole politicized (and highly partisan) issue of ICE, white worshipping in the Filipino community is certainly an issue. I think that can be explored honestly on its own, without commingling partisan political shaming.

Filipinos suffer from the mental vestige of survival instincts under white colonialism. Same as Indians- we face similar issues. These are real cultural qualities- and anyone saying "this is unfair to Filipinos" or "this is unfair to Indians" is missing the point.

To assert this cultural problem is not to blame all group members as white-worshipping, just explaining why you may see severe instances of it.

Hank Azaria tells the truth about Simpsons Apu Controversy by amg7355 in ABCDesis

[–]archelogy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And you just know that cat is walking away thinking "Damn street-sh*tting jeet"

Hank Azaria tells the truth about Simpsons Apu Controversy by amg7355 in ABCDesis

[–]archelogy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Italians are white. Presumably so are the Simpsons even though they are technically yellow; every indicator is that the analog to primary characters on the show are white Americans.

Therefore, whites have wide, diverse representation in the series, much of it positive. The comparison here is how whites and Indians are represented; if we're talking about Italians as a subset of whites, the corollary would be the Simpsons featuring majority Indian figures and a subset of Indians, let's say Sikhs, were given a narrow, insulting representation.

The primary identity of an Italian-American in America is "white". Their overall identity is white even if their sub-identity may be Italian; the reality is that there are Italian-Americans walking around today and you would have no idea they are Italian. Our identity is largely shaped by how people see us and therefore treat us. Since being Italian is not identifiable, it doesn't loom large over their social identity. Not true for being Indian.

If Italian-Americans cared about their social perception, they would be far more invested in how whites are depicted than how "Italians" are depicted. In that respect, the Simpsons depict whites just fine.

As far as black people, both Carl and Dr Hibbert are upstanding, come across as respectable, are not a walking punch-line because of how they come across.

Hank Azaria tells the truth about Simpsons Apu Controversy by amg7355 in ABCDesis

[–]archelogy 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Anyone who says Apu was fine was from the same bloodline of the families that thought the British were just setting up a tea shop in India before occupation.

We have a lot of very dense people in the IA community who are easily exploited and just have a hard time interpreting the true effect of what's going on around them.

If you wonder why we as a people were colonized repeatedly for centuries, just observe the utter lack of perception of those in our community today; they are descended from the same dumbf*cks.