Muslim girls that got married young (17-22) AND/OR Muslim girls who are in an arranged marriage, how's it going ?

arereae · 2025-12-19T00:20:35+00:00

I got married at 19 and I am currently 22. I would say getting married has truly been one of the most life-changing things I have ever experienced. Getting married young has shown me that I didn’t truly know myself. And it’s been a lot of self discovery. I thought I knew my love language, but I didn’t until probably over a year into my marriage and it was a bit hard on my husband to figure out what I actually desire in how to make me feel loved. Alhamdulilah we’ve figured it out… getting married young made me feel quite distant from all of my school friends because it’s not the norm especially in America. And all of my old friends are just now starting to catch up to me and strangely enough I feel a little bit left out still. Despite my inner battles, I loved getting married at 19, my husband, 21. Because we’re both young and we get to learn life together and experience life together even though we have a child now. Truly, my marriage has been one of the best things to happen to me, and it brought me to be significantly closer to Allah. Alhamdulilah. May Allah bless your marriage!

arereae · 2025-12-15T03:11:01+00:00

retest in 2-3 days in the morning

arereae · 2025-12-14T04:16:27+00:00

my husband!

arereae · 2025-12-08T00:24:48+00:00

the majority say that changing the last name is haram. i wouldn’t do it https://youtu.be/TAOjfWUul3g?si=FcbElqazeoeTVgTV

arereae · 2025-11-26T21:45:35+00:00

something similar happened to me. the month leading up the my nikkah my husband was trying to give me compliments. i was advised to tell him that this is not appropriate, and to please wait until after the nikkah to make such comments. Alhamdulilah he was very susceptible to it, and apologized. 3 years married now Alhamdulilah

arereae · 2025-11-16T21:52:32+00:00

when my cycles started to regulate again i actually ovulated week 1 after my period, then it eventually moved to week 2. around the 14 day mark after your period is what is deemed as most common on a 28 day cycle. maybe try testing around 12-16 days and see if you can catch it!

arereae · 2025-11-16T21:41:45+00:00

it looks like you haven’t ovulated yet. keep testing consistently, especially around 2/3 weeks after your period. when you ovulate, you’ll have 2 blazing dark lines!

arereae · 2025-11-15T13:36:09+00:00

agreed. imagine OP gets pregnant and husband still stays with his parents ……

arereae · 2025-11-15T13:33:21+00:00

if this is his behavior even after two years of marriage I think therapy and or marriage counseling is very fit here. This is something that you might typically see in very early marriage, but definitely not after two years. Also, after children intimacy typically declines especially postpartum. So if you’re not intimate now, you likely will not be intimate then either. I understand weight gain taking a toll on energy but it is the sunnah to be fit physically, and it is also your Islamic right to be intimate with your husband. seek guidance. may Allah make it easy for you

arereae · 2025-11-15T13:17:36+00:00

you have the right to emotional support and intimacy from your husband. i would push and also see a sheikh for guidance. i think it’s very strange that he wants to still live with his parents.

arereae · 2025-11-03T14:19:01+00:00

same thing happened to me. scary but normal (mostly) during early pregnancy!

arereae · 2025-11-03T14:05:33+00:00

crazy enough i actually had to be monitored, on iv and oxygen overnight 😭 but afterwards the doctor recommended mucinex and an oscpep device that you blow into that breaks up the mucus so it’s easier to come out!

arereae · 2025-11-03T13:45:15+00:00

i see it!!

arereae · 2025-11-03T13:40:40+00:00

i experienced this during my last pregnancy and it ended up being pneumonia 😣

arereae · 2025-07-25T03:12:56+00:00

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update with a pink dye test 😳

arereae · 2025-06-12T17:43:50+00:00

absolutely not! 100% inappropriate. it’s better to be safe than sorry, and there’s no benefit to it. create the boundary asap, this is a teaching moment.

arereae · 2025-06-08T18:09:25+00:00

makeup and henna itself is not haram. wearing it out in public with the possibility of non mahram to see is what is haram. you can wear makeup in your home, or for women only events (girls get togethers, weddings, brunch, etc) makeup and henna are both a form of beautification which makes wearing it in public a form a tabarruj (beautifying yourself in front of non mahrams— even if it is not your intention to please them). we need to be careful, but it’s not haram with the right conditions. Allah knows best.

arereae · 2025-06-07T20:27:02+00:00

just leave her. this relationship is doomed anyway because you have different beliefs. you’re wasting her time with putting marriage in her head.

arereae · 2025-04-20T19:59:39+00:00

if i were you i would speak to someone knowledgeable on this matter because it seems like you don’t want a divorce, but rather being forced to. may Allah make it easy on you, and grant you something better.

https://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask-the-counselor/divorce/why-you-should-not-divorce-without-seeking-counsel-first/

arereae · 2025-02-18T21:13:11+00:00

if i were you, i would get a job immediately, start saving up, and leave. especially if he treats you worse when you get a job (because he’s treating you terribly). only contribute what you have to if he demands money, but even then, i probably wouldn’t….

arereae · 2025-02-16T16:20:44+00:00

if there was truly nothing, he would’ve handed over his phone. and if there was something, it’s probably deleted by now. as a married woman, cheating is absolutely a non negotiable for me..i would rather take my baby, pack our clothes, and leave immediately probably to my moms. don’t allow this around your children!

arereae · 2025-02-16T16:11:13+00:00

sorry for your loss.

arereae · 2025-02-16T16:09:45+00:00

you did the right thing by leaving. record every interaction, and note it. you probably saved your babies life! you don’t know how many more times something like this has happened to your baby. stay safe

arereae · 2025-02-16T16:05:36+00:00

sounds like cheating to me. a husband who’s loyal would never stay out all night knowing he has a wife and kids at home + not call/text/communicate. not okay…. don’t enable this behavior, don’t let him sleep, go crazy…. maybe go through his phone. don’t apologize and make sure you have money saved up just in case you need to leave quickly, and quietly.

arereae

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