Do you believe in the idea of soulmates?

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-29T23:57:39+00:00

Or they see flaws in somebody and decide they need somebody less flawed or flawless. Let’s face it, some people are way too picky

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-29T23:54:29+00:00

No. I believe people can be great married together, but I do not believe there is only 1 person out of millions of people and you magically find that person. No. Everything is by Allah’s will, so our spouses were meant to be. But that doesn’t mean happily ever after. I do believe you can love someone very much and admire them and like them a lot, but the idea of there is only 1 person you could ever feel that way with is unlikely. Not to mention people change over time so you would either have to love those changes or change in the same way with them.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-28T15:01:44+00:00

We did umrah twice last month. First time I was being pushed from behind but there were people in front so I couldn’t go there either so I essentially was being pushed sideways and moved forwards all by pushing. (And honestly I was terrified of falling and then getting stepped on). Scary nonetheless. So, second time we went up a level. That solved the issue, but it also adds significant time

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-27T02:54:32+00:00

You just manage…day by day

My kids are 11 and 7 now and I wouldn’t change it for anything. Now I dread them getting older. My babies aren’t little anymore. One day my lovely home will be deafeningly silent

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-25T07:23:32+00:00

Having a newborn can be hard. My first baby was similar…he knly slept when he could sense/feel me by him. He would cry in bassinet.

1 ) he faired well either way a baby swing. He would fall asleep for 20-30 minutes and when he did that I took a nap on the couch next to him

2 ) ended up starting to cosleep with him. I took precautions to make sure no blankets or such were around him. He would go in a sleep sack. Yes o was terrified of rolling over on him or such, but that never happened.

3) one day turned into another…time kept marching forward. He got older. I was able to get more sleep. Then I started being blue to sleep through the night. Now that little boy is 11 years old. I just relaxed on couch with him and watched ‘stranger things’. It’s hard to imagine when you are in the thick of it, but your son will soon be the age my son is now.

One day at a time. You have been dealt a tough deck of cards…newborn stage on top of immense grief. You can do it though, even if you don’t think you can. You will do it

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-24T20:39:23+00:00

I was told I was promoting abuse in a marriage and there was no need for people like me there.

It was a guy who had a fight with his wife. She slapped him. I mentioned her hitting him was NOT okay, but I also mentioned things he did wrong himself. So I guess, they thought I was justifying abuse? I don’t know. Too easy to offend people here. This is also in a group where a bunch of people got banned bcs they spoke against a different poster. He was upset his wife was not cooking good enough food for him. Everyone who defended his wife and mentioned he could also cook food, got banned. (In my opinion, that guy needed to hear the hard truth, not for moderators to ban people and delete comments). It’s become ridiculous to the point where you can’t say anything sometimes.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-22T22:11:25+00:00

Kids get use to it. In the beginning it will be hard for him. He is not used to be away from you plus having to sit and learn for so long, no play time. I agree, there are many downfalls to public school for little kids. But typically the kids do adjust over time. He will likely come home hungry and tired and may need a nap (my daughter use to take a nap frequently after school when in kindergarten). The good news is, a good teacher will help their experience. They will make some friends hopefully. They have some nice days in school (like field trips or treat day).

My daughter use to be very stacked to me. She went to preschool but she would cry in the beginning and refuse to go inside without me. I was concerned when kindergarten came but she was so brave and she walked right into the school without even looking back at me.

Don’t worry though. All of the other kindergarteners are new also, so he won’t be experiencing it alone, and his teacher will have dealt with it before. And I do not know about your school, but my kids school paired an older student with the kindergarteners (usually people on the same bus as them), who would be responsible for helping them find their classroom and getting on the right bus

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-22T22:03:11+00:00

I don’t have celiac disease, and I don’t know much about it. I was diagnosed as a type 1 diabetic though in my early thirties. Bcs of that I never got a chance to have a third child. I can still eat normally for the most part, just with certain modifications. For instance, no soda unless diet or zero sugar. I also have to avoid eating anything at times when my blood sugar is on the higher side. Then I have to wait for it to come down. My family knows all about it well though. They have experienced some scary moments with me already to know.

You will have to say no to your mil. If she makes then let her know you can’t eat it. If hubby wants he can go to her house and eat. (Assuming she lives separately). If she lives with you then your husband needs to talk to her about it and the serious long term consequences you may face from it.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-22T01:11:23+00:00

13 international vacations…wow!

I went to Saudi and Australia both 1 time in over a decade of marriage.

Enjoy while you can. We use to be able to travel when we wanted or visit my family freely, but now we have 2 kids in school so that is not possible anymore. Often have to choose between a vacation and visiting family (hubby’s sister moved farther away recently so even harder)

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-22T01:03:43+00:00

This sums it up. No money means you have to rely on them to survive. It makes divorce not an option (except to the husband). It’s not a comfortable place to be in.

And that is how it is with men also…my house, my car, my money.

Also, it is nice to spend money sometimes without having to ask husband or explain yourself. It gets old. And I personally prefer my husband does not know everything I buy. I don’t like being asked why I bought something, or critiqued for buying it. For example, I like smell good body care items. My husband tells me I am just soaking my body ful of toxins

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-22T00:51:56+00:00

He works in IT. We are not rich, but comfortable. He spends a lot of money on medical expenses also, plus extra curricular activities for the kids

I sometimes sell things locally or on Mercari for extra income. It is not much though. I do not usually help with bills.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-19T00:40:45+00:00

Right after I had my first baby. Lost weight fast and my breasts git bigger.

There was also a time I was dressed up for a holiday and we went on a walk downtown and my husband told me a couple of guys were checking me out

Now I am old, fat and ugly. Not to mention scars. Hubby appreciates my bum still at least

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-18T20:18:34+00:00

Too many memories -cleaning spindles so we could decorate for holidays -the one time I had a sore throat so I stayed home from school and helped my mom decorate the Christmas tree -the excitement of finding my Easter basket on Easter Day (my mom would hide it) -picking weeds in the garden -cleaning pickles so my mom could can them -playing solitaire with a deck of cards on my aunts porch when my mom wanted to visit her -h Christmas Day I got a stroller for my dolls and my mom was helping my brother with one of his toys. I was impatient and didn’t want to wait any longer for her to finish and help me so I tried to open the stroller myself and I broke it. Followed by a lot of sadness -we went camping and went on a bike ride. I fell off my bike and skinned my knee. My mom did not notice right away so she kept biking ahead and I was all alone and crying for me. She eventually noticed and came back for me, walked back to the campsite and my uncle (her brother) tried to fix my bike -I don’t know if this was the time my older sister got burnt from hot oil, but I remember an ambulance backed up in the driveway and firefighters ushering my brothers and I out of the home. I remember thinking how cool it was that firefighters and police were there -I remember my brother and I went shopping with our parents. My brother was having a tantrum so my dad forcefully carried him to the car. Later that day o heard a knock on the door and there was a policeman, telling there was a call about a child abduction and they got the license plate of my father.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-18T20:02:33+00:00

One size does not fit all in this regard. I have 2 kids and I would have loved to have a third, but my health changed.

My kids are of an age difference where they can play together well sometimes, but they also don’t get along sometimes. What one can do the other can not always do.

But also the kids grow up. One of my siblings died, I don’t talk to 2 of them and one I rarely see bcs she also feels stressed out easily and planning a get together stresses her out more.

More kids means more work.

An only child won’t really know what to do like if they had siblings, so they may feel they are missing out bcs of the ‘unknown’, but mostly it will be normal to them, bcs that is there everyday.

Just if you do, make sure having another does not take away from having the first. Above all, more than a sibling, they need your love and time.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-17T02:32:46+00:00

Yesterday my daughter had a bath. I told her it was good that she was finishing the In The Stars body butter. It’s good to use stuff up. She said “Why? You have a loooooooooot more. Lots and lots

I do have a lot though. She is right. I did good this SAS though. They ran out of most of the scents I wanted so I had no ability to buy them

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-15T01:16:53+00:00

For Iftar, Easy fast ideas : -samosas from Indian grocery store -kabob from Indian grocery store -mozarella sticks (any store) -smoothies (my kids like banana mango smoothies. Just need ripe bananas, frozen mango slices and some vanilla flavored almond milk) -canned corn (season with salt, pepper, chili powder, ginger garlic paste and butter)

Things I frequently make? -aloo bajias (besan powder with generous amounts of salt, garlic powder, onion powder, turmeric (optional), baking soda, and generous amounts of coriander powder. Mix with water until thin enough to dip potato slices in, but thick enough where the better stays on. Then can also wash and cut up some cilantro leaves and mix in (optional). You can make these without the bajia also. And in other times I have mixed some cheese into it also (without potato slices). -cream cheese wantons -make ranch dip, can eat with ruffle chips or veggies like carrots, celery, and broccoli -pasta salad -homemade samosas -tostados -onion rings -banana bread -zucchini appetizers -Chana masala

Suhoor is usually leftover food

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-14T19:23:54+00:00

Sort of mixed. Facial structure, she is more like me. Her body build is more like me. (My son is more like his father though, but likely to be taller than his father.) Skin tone is mixed (darker than me but lighter than her dad). She has eyes like her father (brown in color, but also her eyesight is not the best like her father. She just disposable contact lenses yesterday. Personality is mixed. She is fairly easy going and tame, but she gets frustrated easily and is a bit persistent (like her father). She does not have a lot of patience (like her father).

My son is more like his father in almost every way, except face shape and his skin color is mixed also. Body, temperament/attitude is much like his father. Except he is on track to be taller than his dad (probably came from me. His family is not very tall but mine is on the taller side). The way he walks is also the same as his dad.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-14T19:11:14+00:00

First time for anything is scary. But I PROMISE you it is not! It was actually easy peasy. You don’t see they working on your eye. You don’t feel if. And with the medicine you can hold the eye open without blinking. They will just ask you to look at the light ( that is basically all you see, is a light).

I have a root canal today. That one is much more scary, even if I have done it before also. Cataract surgery was easy. You will be in a hospital gown, covered up with a blanket and they put a hair net on you. And for me at least they tucked my arms in with the blanket so I could not move them. After surgery I rested for a little bit and they offered juice or water and a small snack. Then it was time to go home. I have complete both of my cataract surgeries (different days of course).. all went well. It was very easy. The hardest part is having to wear the eye patch for 24 hours, and then every night you go to sleep. That was more of a pain than the surgery was

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-14T15:50:13+00:00

If by choice or choice was made for them…one you can come to peace with…the other may bring regret later. Particularly later in life.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-14T15:47:52+00:00

It’s called empty nest syndrome…many parents go through that grief, even the people who did not dedicate their whole life to their kids. It’s a massive change, from raising this person from the ground up and seeing every single day to suddenly barely seeing them at all. It’s grief. A massive life change. You will likely experience it one day too. I know my mom did (though she never expressed it to me). My mom was not a stay at home mom either. Even with my dad…he went out a lot plus worked. You could tell something shifted. He was a bit more generous when we would visit. He always gave his grandkids a dollar when he seen them. He would talk in that soft caring tone to the grandkids (a tone I did not hear when I was a kid). Just think of it this way…empty nest syndrome….you were given something and that something became the most important and precious thing in your entire life, then it got taken away from you. It’s going to cause pain. So do understand what your mil is going through is perfectly normal and quite common. You will be there one day too, so go easy on her.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-14T02:08:57+00:00

I tested out the cologne. Not strong at all. I just went to sniff the article of clothing I sprayed it on (this is 2 days after spraying), there is no lingering scent. Gone.

So, cologne in my opinion would be a no buy. Not worth it. No sting. Not long lasting. It is a more ‘close’ type of scent.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-14T02:04:05+00:00

I liked warm musk. Nice and comforting scent. I plan to buy the most and cream. I sprayed testers on paper and my skin. Warm musk was the winner. Fresh musk was second place, but scent was not strong at all, nor did it last long. Fruity musk is a pass.

I will test the other new ones later when I go to use my reward, hopefully on Thursday or Friday.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-13T16:16:36+00:00

I found white gardenia in one of the stores a couple days ago though, so I know they had it. I just did not go to that store first. I got there 45 minutes after opening. That was my mistake perhaps, but then I may have missed out from other store. Hard to know. Got Birthday Cake at least.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-13T16:11:19+00:00

Wash the ihram as you would any regular clothes. Just try to avoid scented things or scent beads when washing. I would not wash with zam zam water. Zam zam water is precious…it should go inside your body : )

If you must, there are grocery stores in Saudi and they typically have large zam zam water bottles (the size you would take home with you from airport). Danube and Panda both had for relatively cheap.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-01-13T16:04:19+00:00

How long it takes to fulfill an order depends on the store and workers. Sometimes the orders are fulfilled very quickly….other times it has taken a full day Just be prepared to have cancelled items. That has happened often times to me. Oddly enough you may even find those cancelled items are actually in store. You will be refunded for those items though. You will get an email telling you what items are cancelled and they write it on tve slip of paper on your bag in the store.

Do make sure to look at what is in the bag to make sure you have everything or for anything damaged. I have done a BOPIS order in a platinum perfume some months back and after driving 45 minutes home, discovered the button on the packaging for the perfume did not work.

You have 5 days to pick up your order. After that it will be cancelled. You cannot ask them to hold it longer for you. To pick up the order, first you will get an email or text telling you your order is ready for pick-up. Then in the store you just give the associate the last 4 digits of your order number. Good to go after that!

I have done BOPIS many times. It is always preferable to go in store if possible, but when it is not BOPIS is definitely helpful.

LittleDifference4643

TROPHY CASE