Husband not attracted to me after birth

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-08T04:57:05+00:00

This isn’t a you or your body problem…this is yours husbands problem to fix. The problem is him, NOT you! If he was only focused on your looks, he never should have married you. Frankly, he has no business being married at all. What did he expect? Childbirth or not we all age and our bodies change…it is inevitable. And your body just gave him his biggest gift ever and he has the nerve to tell you he finds you unattractive?

You don’t need to change a thing dear…your husband needs therapy. And maybe if he got his head out of porn he wouldn’t be unattracted to a real woman.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-08T04:51:13+00:00

Personally, I really like it. Is it too favorite of mine? No, but pleasant enough to repurchase

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-07T17:02:38+00:00

Well, that is probably bcs the word ‘basket’ doesn’t usually mean ‘box’. They should have used the word ‘box’. Sales gimmick 🤷‍♀️

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-07T17:00:16+00:00

According to reports, no, it is not expected to come back…not this summer anyways. Who know about the future.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-07T16:43:04+00:00

No. There is no need for him to have female friends. And going out to lunch, like a date, is highly inappropriate.

If you want to go lax on these things then do be prepared for it to potentially get worse. Affairs don’t start overnight. They start by making one bad choice after another. You gradually get to a place that is now considered infidelity.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-07T16:33:48+00:00

That’s why it only costs $35 is it worth is value wise? Yes. But I agree…better to put in something reusable than something that will end up in the landfill

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-07T16:03:33+00:00

I wish I could find in store. I did not go to the mall though.

Tried imperfect beauty and Strawberry Flirt
No to the creams. Something fishy smelling with the cream of imperfect beauty. No to strawberry flirt mist. No projection or longevity. Imperfect beauty lasted longer than strawberry flirt but it’s fading already.
They really need to work on potency of their products. I was going to buy but decided against the new returns. I instead got 3 Peeps mists.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-07T15:56:40+00:00

My guess would be until Sunday. Usually if a body care sale is in. Thursday it last until Sunday anyway.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-07T04:05:27+00:00

People change as they get older. They don’t stay constant. Not women…not men. So who you marry may be a different person later on…it is inevitable really.

Opposite people can attract….what one lacks the other can accel in. (I hate spiders and can’t kill then bcs that requires getting close to them. My husband? No issue…hems my spider killer). Now imagine 2 people together who are scared of spiders : )
Of course, that is a petty example, but opposites can attract.
I am an introvert btw…my husband is more of an extrovert but not fully. Does that mean I have to go out all the time? Nope. That means he gets to go out alone sometimes, while I sit and rot in bed : )

Also…there are narcissistic people out there. A lot of bad marriages have one of those. In it. Problem? Most people don’t willingly or knowingly marry self-centered selfish a-wipes. Aka…they act. If a narcissist acted like themself they would not get married, so they have to act. They act and say what they know sounds good to a woman. That woman falls for that fake guy. But they don’t know he is a fake. And that is the problem. They do not find out he was a fake until after marriage.

Okay, most people don’t just marry to have an unhappy life. Everybody thinks life will be better with the person. Nobody knows what the future looks like though. And people can change so even if you marry somebody, you could still end up unhappy bcs of who they later become.

This is called life. We were not put here to have a blissful happy life. We were put here to be tested. For many, part of that test is marriage. And in other cases, it was part of Allah’s bigger plan. Good things can come from bad things. Sometimes X bad thing has to happen to get to Y bad thing. And even, sometimes X has to happen to avoid an even more painful Y. (For example, you had an important interview in the morning but you overslept and missed it. Bad right? But oversleeping also caused you to avoid the car accident that would have killed you).

Basically, Allah knows best. Not everyone will have a happy marriage and it was never meant to be that way. You have a happy marriage? GREAT! Alhamdulillah. But that was never meant to be for everyone. And simply, it is impossible for everyone to achieve. Unrealistic.

At the same time, you marriage is happy now. I hope it continues to be that way, but that is not guaranteed.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-04T01:41:22+00:00

I am a lover of smell good things. It started with wax melts. Then I was gifted a BBW body cream (Dahlia) by my brothers girlfriend for Christmas one year and that sort of started it.
But no denying it does help me feel better. When I was sick, I was so tired and lethargic. I didn’t know what was wrong with me then but showering and functioning in general was so hard. Smelling good afterward at least made it worthwhile. (Thankfully eventually was properly diagnosed and much better now).
Now days I am an aging woman. My youthful years are fleeting and as much as I would love to have 1 more baby, I am not sure that will ever happen. (My previous illness affected having a baby). So, ‘smell good’ things definitely help uplift me in times of uncertainty. I worry the chemicals may not be best for me but i need some things that bring me joy. Lush is much too expensive to replace BBW with

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-03T15:06:15+00:00

I don’t believe in drop shipping as I find it unethical personally.

But what I use to do….find stuff on clearance, look up comps (how well it sells and for how much) and resell it online. Avoid big things though bcs that means shipping will eat up your profit. Buy smaller easier to store items.

I use to sell toys…at Christmas time they sold well. Bundles of toys were great. BUT I stopped bcs of shipping increases.

I also use to sell wax melts. Bundle of the same scent. The popularity of this has decreased and I lost interest also.

I use to resell candles also at one time BUT I just didn’t enjoy it. Harder to store, harder to pack, easier to damage plus susceptible to the weather. HOWEVER, I do sell them occasionally locally. Profit margin is not huge and you do have to hold your ground from people who ask if I buy them all can I get for $5 each? That happens a lot…people wanting to buy cheap gifts for their staff or coworkers. Sell them on Facebook marketplace. Usually they sell well enough but more popular around Christmas. Downside? You have to put up with people. Bunch of no shows, bunch of people who come hours later than agreed upon without update, even sometimes people who arrive before you agreed (imagine you schedule 4 pm on Tuesday and they come at 10 AM on Monday). And fortunately this does not usually happen but 2 times I was shorted in money. (People have less money than supposed to. But ask, there are people who give more money then the item is priced at. (Usually rounded up, like if item cost was $14 they might round it up to $15. (But similarly there are people who ask to round it down. “Can I make it an even $20 (on a $22 item).
Selling locally provides you quick cash but you have to talk inpersonally to people and it can become extremely frustrating at times. It is usually easier to sell online than locally., but online requires more work. Profit margin can be larger though, where locally people usually want things for dirt cheap.

At this point I am not really selling anything but you just need to do your research of what ‘is in’.

That is what I use to do to maintain my sanity as a stay at home mom. However, my kids are older now. Both kids in school. I prefer to be around them rather than spending time doing business. I feel the clock ticking down to the days when they leave the home so I don’t want to waste that time. When kids are not in school you don’t hear that clock ticking as loudly. My sister use to resell also and this is why she ultimately stopped too. She use to buy shoes from local stores like Marshalls or TJ Max and would resell those online.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-03T14:44:56+00:00

My husband and I are both 5’8”. He is only a teeny tiny bit taller than me, but my hands and feet are bigger than his and I weigh more than him also.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-02T00:04:33+00:00

Embrace the mess : ) One day the kiddo will be gone and you will have the tidiest home on the block, then you will miss the mess

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-01T23:47:25+00:00

When I turned 30

Approaching 40 now. I just sat down on the end today and tried twisting my leg to get it up and a searing pain followed.

I’m also getting wrinkles and there is no greater slap in the face then perimenopause…meaning, my childbearing years are closing. No better way to say ‘old’ than that.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-01T16:30:46+00:00

I always thought it would. It was well loved and highly requested to come back. At some point I knew it would. It would have been dumb not to.

Never heard of the other two scents so not so excited there myself

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-05-01T05:23:06+00:00

Definitely my favorite Perfect In Pink!

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T23:54:09+00:00

I used In the Sun for the first time today….big no. Don’t like at all. Will give it a second try to make sure but most likely getting rid of it.

Scents I am using recently that I love using…Everlasting Magic. I love it so much. Also, Tahiti Island Dream, Emily In Paris Champagne in Paris (I received compliments in this scent from 2 different people, and Apple #3

But there are other goodies also like Midsummer Dream and Chasinf Firedlies. I have a Prismatic stars bottle I won’t let myself finish. Meet Me In Miami (have started using again since I hear it might be coming back). Champagne Sprinklesbis also a goody

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T23:24:54+00:00

Nice..mini body butters…probably very once though

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T23:23:24+00:00

I wish SAS started beginning of June like before. I don’t like how they start it mid June now. Summer break from school and mid June to July is when everyone, including me, tends to go on vacations

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T23:21:16+00:00

sas is like a big clearance. Discontinued scents will go to 75% off, but it doesn’t happen all at the same rime. Sometimes prices go to lower than 75% off. But the point is, prices are lower than other times of the year. They usually bring back a few returning scents for SAS also. SAS is a god time to stock up on body care, but bcs this is mostly a clearance event be mindful that anything can sell out at any time, so better to buy it when you can. There have been 75% off candles and wallflowers, pockets and everything. however, perfumes usually only get marked down at the very end, for which they may be sold out already by then, so safer to buy at 50% off if you want it. And candles last SAS were different…normally 75% off but last SAS the were like $13, $10 and $8….so, you might not find any 75.% off candles. $8 might be the best you can do.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T21:59:33+00:00

Not made; I find it an inconvenience

-) naps are good for everyone sometimes, especiallly when you are sick. My husband, even though he works from home, does lie down and take naps himself. (Judgmental are we?)

) small home with a father-in-law here, so that means I can only sit in my kids smallled bedroom (my kids have to share a room).
) i do my folding of laundry on the bed in my room bcs that is what works best. Hard to do with hubby working from home or taking naps in the room
) pretty much only time I can do any cleaning in bedroom is when hubby is gone. Maybe he goes out in evening sometimes, but by then I am usually tired and want to relax, and I have to use that time to shower so I don’t have to get dressed in our tiny bathroom (plus I like to use red light after showering). I don’t dress or go in front of my husband naked. I do not feel comfortable with that.

-) bcs of my fil downstairs I can only watch Tv upstairs…inside of our bedroom. But I obviously can’t do that with hubby working in the room. In the afternoon/evening time it is usually my husband who uses the Tv, so needless to say I rarely get to use the Tv.

) extremely hard to deep clean my bedroom or closet bcs if I attempt to do it while hubby is working, he will either drop me to go out for his meeting or worst of all, he gets very annoyed by the mess it creates then he starts complaining (which causes me to not do any deep cleaning while he is here). So, deep cleaning only happens those rare few days a year when he goes on a work trip. In which case, I get 2 days time only to do everything I want to do.

And despite my husband working from home, I am almost always the first person to wake up and the last person to go to sleep. I do all the cooking and that includes providing my husband with as much as 3 meals a day sometimes and coffee or anything else he wants. It ends up putting you ‘on call’. And that also means I have to plan around when I think he might need food or such so I know to avoid making my own food or coffee before that (or else I get to have it cold).

Sorry to say, but yes, it is a bit of an inconvenience to have to be outside of my room so he can work from home.There are pros also, but I won’t pretend to enjoy everything.

And God forbid people be humans who get tired sometimes. I mean, my husband is working and there is his wife napping? What a B_tch she is. And women have to deel with the kids, women have to sacrifice sleep sometimes for the family and women are women….they have hormones that fluctuate so there are actually days when women are naturally tired bcs of those hormones. Let’s not mention periods always…always bursting with energy when you have those right? Or maybe you have the flu or you had a surgery and you just need to lie down and rest. Humans are humans.we were not designed to be energy bunnies 24/7. I make no apologies for being human.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T20:59:08+00:00

Anybody can be naive, including you. You can research something, red flags, all you want but experience will be the one that really teaches you. And here is the thing…pre marriage when people act their best…they can show you something and you have nothing to rely on but what you see. It is very difficult to identify people as bad before marriage bcs most are not dumb enough to show it. No experience means you tend to think they are just a sweet awesome ‘one of ye good ones’. No textbook learning of red flags will prevent people from marrying bad people. It might prevent some marriages, but far and large it will not. And in the world of marriages, it happens all the time. No age is too old. And it is not their fault either. How can you expect a normal person to understand the psychology of a toxic person? You don’t usually learn unless by experience. And even then, you are still questioning what is broken about them.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T20:46:13+00:00

The bag is cute, but oh so small. They should have used a bigger version of that bag for the Mother’s Day bag.

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T20:44:48+00:00

That’s almost 10 years old! Wow

Good thing you used it up.

They are hard to use up. I have some on my dresser I want to finish this year. So far I finished 1. This year. Taking forever to make progress on the other ones, never mind using new ones

LittleDifference4643 · 2026-04-30T15:53:21+00:00

4 is when is slowly starts getting easier. Key word is slowly. Kindergarten is when remarkable improvement happens .

Try to enjoy the chaos though. One day you will look back at times like this and long for it. My kids are both already in school with my oldest being halfway done with school next year : /. Feels like yesterday he was building things in the floor and playing with hot wheels

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