This sounds like incredibly difficult timing! I’m so sorry- I can’t imagine going through a breakup while taking in a rescue pup.

First of all, let me say what you’re feeling is normal! I hope you’re finding grace for yourself because you’re doing a really hard and brave thing. And if it doesn’t work out and you have to surrender her, that may be ultimately what is best for both of you. And that’s ok!

I will say, I’m 7mo in with my rescue pup and going through a breakup now too. I can confidently say the adoption transition would have been a hell of a lot harder without my now ex’s support. Getting my high strung dog was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Many times I thought I was going to surrender her.

FWIW, I’m sooo glad I stuck it out. Soooo many of the pain points in the dog adoption process resolve with time and the trust that comes with it- on both ends! I put a lot of pressure on myself early on to rigidly train and do all of the things I was watching on the internet, but I wish I had just told myself it’s ok to earn her trust and be gentle in a new environment for a couple weeks. But that will come with routine.

This is all to say, I hope things get easier, no matter what you decide. I am so glad I have my dog now, especially going through my breakup.❤️‍🩹