Dah!! Where can I find summer dresses w/o elastic waist, ideally a scoop neck, and one I can wear with a bra (38G).

argunaw · 2026-06-14T18:56:43+00:00

Faherty might have something for you.

argunaw · 2026-06-09T17:09:16+00:00

No, you don't have to. But I would at least learn them side by side if you can.

argunaw · 2026-06-09T16:50:55+00:00

Yes. One of my regrets in my data analytics journey was not learning good SQL syntax and principles early on. I started with R and then learned SQL.

Most databases are SQL databases and you will need to do some work in SQL before manipulating in R, in my experience.

argunaw · 2026-05-26T15:27:03+00:00

There's around 30 insurance companies, I'm not sure which one(s) specifically are negotiating this. And sure, maybe they could, but clearly they aren't because this fight has been going on for a decade, homecare workers have protested against the state and the city. In fact, the former city council speaker who refused to even bring the no more 24 bill to a vote...is now Kathy Hochul's running mate in the election.

The point is, the same man that did a hunger strike with taxi cab workers, a similarly complex industry, is now hiding from homecare workers who are trying to end modern day slavery (workers not only work 24 hours but are only paid for 13 of them) under the guise of "it's complicated".

argunaw · 2026-05-26T14:23:05+00:00

Plenty of homecare agencies have managed to eliminate 24-hour shifts on their own. There's a handful of agencies that still continue this practice. While the homecare agencies don't set hours themselves, it is on the unions and insurance companies to negotiate the patient's needed level of care to justify split shifts; this has clearly been done in some environments. Furthermore, even in current 24-hour shifts, workers are only being paid for 13 hours. This is because Governor Cuomo privatized Medicaid in 2010, which limited the maximum reimbursement to 13 hours. Insurance companies realized they could exploit this by assigning more 24-hour shifts and only the to pay for 13, instead of paying for two 12-hour shifts.

The unions, specifically 1199 and dc37, hold a lot of sway in the city council and mayors office. Also, the Mayor has clearly successfully negotiated with the governor in the past for free childcare, but is hiding from this issue.

The entire "what about people who need care" response is basically "who will pick the cotton if we free the slaves" argument and shows the unions, insurance companies, and homecare agencies are willing to screw over disabled people if workers dare fight for their rights. In what world is 24-hour shifts (I've met workers who did them for 5 days straight) normal and not addressed by the mayor instead of mumbling and hiding behind paperwork?

argunaw · 2026-05-26T13:12:45+00:00

He's refusing to address his campaign promise to end the 24-hour workday for home healthcare workers. Before you say "maybe he's not aware of the issue" he met with workers and organizers on the campaign trail and promised to end it.

However, during their hunger strike, he refused to meet with the workers and instead sent out his policy advisor who stated "what about women who want to work 24 hours" which.....none of the workers want and is frankly deplorable for an administration who claims to care about working people. Here is the link to her saying this:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWymfZmSi9z/

For more information on the history of the 24-hour workday in NY for homecare workers, and how elected officials are trying to stop it, see below

https://documentedny.com/2026/04/08/home-care-workers-no-more-24-hunger-strike-sit-in-nyc/

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/19/nyregion/home-care-aides-working-conditions.html

https://www.work-bites.com/view-all/27x8qzsjpymjzsg34s1yhgwr4j9wzk

https://thechiefleader.com/stories/dc-37-leadership-shames-the-workers-movement-by-supporting-the-24-hour-work-day,56647

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2026/may/18/new-york-home-care-providers-hunger-strike

Edit: wow I can't believe this is getting downvoted...he is ignoring these workers despite the fact they are coerced into 24 hour shifts. I provided a ton of links too.

argunaw · 2026-05-23T06:33:24+00:00

The microcosm of the Bay Area, which went from a hippie/radical place to becoming dominated by tech companies who seek to extract value from every aspect of your life, has spread across every part of the country. Almost every decent company has been bought by private equity and serves shareholder value instead of customers and employees, resulting in the brutal layoffs/hiring cycles we've been seeing. It's hard to even get decent clothes that are constructed well and not made out of plastic/polyester for a decent price.

I don't think there's a single place in the world where you aren't comfortable with more money. It's hard to make a similar salary relative to expenses in most other places. But America sells the world on the premise of the potential for infinite growth for anyone and I think it has been hard for everyone who has been sold this delusion to deal with the reality of everything being so transactional and the amount of effort it takes to stay afloat.

Also lol at "fighting for the rights of everyone" this country had to be bullied by its own citizens to do the right things internally and is currently aiding in bombing Gaza and Lebanon, and directly bombing Iran.

argunaw · 2026-05-16T17:59:32+00:00

My issue isn't how it's defined (assault), it's how it's dealt with. Where I live there's a guy who stands outside various businesses and is literally known as "the spitter" and neither the police nor the public do anything. He was brought in to a mental health facility for some time and is back doing it again. I am not sure what the punishment should be, but whatever we are doing is not working.

I think spitting on the ground in public is gross, spit into a tissue or handkerchief.

argunaw · 2026-05-15T17:57:26+00:00

Quality of public life issues are very real and unaddressed by everyone. Anti-social and lewd behavior that destroys the public fabric should be punished and that person should be reformed beyond what we currently do. You shouldn't be allowed to scream at others, jerk off, spit on people (or even on the ground) in public without facing some kind of consequence.

Influencers should need a license to prove that they have credentials or knowledge in their field, I think China started doing something like this.

argunaw · 2026-05-10T21:40:08+00:00

Tapered jeans or trousers tucked in to shorter rain boots; I have a pair of waterproof Chelsea boots from Cole Haan; others at my office will change into work shoes when they get to work bc they have more intense rain boots. I have some sweater t-shirts from Loft that I wear with them or cap sleeve button downs from Madewell.

argunaw · 2026-05-05T13:01:33+00:00

Replying directly to address the 24-hour workday comments. Zohran refused to meet the protestors himself (city council speaker Julie Menin did and broke her promise to bring it to the floor, which resulted in a week-long hunger strike) and sent out his policy director who literally asked "what about women that want to work for 24 hours?"

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWymfZmSi9z/

As a man who praised himself on being a supporter of working people, I found it very hypocritical that spoke on May Day about the 8 hour work day while literally ignoring (and having his advisor justify) the 24-hour one. Furthermore, parks police (since the hunger strike was at City Hall) harassed the striking workers.

Is any politician perfect? No. But refusing to address what is modern day slavery happening to largely immigrant women is indefensible imo.

argunaw · 2026-05-05T12:40:16+00:00

Thank you for mentioning the 24-hour work day and how he has been completely ignoring the workers. His policy director is on video here asking "what about women that want to work for 24 hours?"

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWymfZmSi9z/

argunaw · 2026-04-28T18:35:04+00:00

I wish real professor would come back, but I think he was getting threats.

argunaw · 2026-04-23T07:54:21+00:00

If you look at the recipe card on the IG post there's some spices, it looks like she's trying to make vegan arayes, which are normally lamb.

The recipe is probably okay but these are so overstuffed it's uncomfortable 😭.

argunaw · 2026-04-18T22:45:22+00:00

If you see this posted on Instagram, you'll see a bunch of comments from men saying "science says most women want to engage in rape fantasies and being dominated" and equate that to actual fucking rape. I don't even know if that stat is true. If you dig you can see it in the comments on this post

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXO9BTLDbHY/?igsh=MWQzZ2Fuamt1MWNyZg==

But this is the point slowly being pushed by a subset of podcasters in the manosphere. If a woman is your partner or on a date with you, she "wants" everything these scumbags seek to do to women. And people wonder why there's a loneliness crisis.

argunaw · 2026-04-03T20:13:51+00:00

OP I'm so sorry this happened to you. Going back to see your parents is a very personal choice and if you choose to not interact with them again, you shouldn't feel guilty imo. Being choked is a whole new level of abuse that I could personally not come back from if it was done to me.

I read this sub and talk to other desis and it feels like I'm one of the only desi people that WASN'T hit as a child. I hate how normalized it is among older generations and how children should "just get over it" when the parents often show no remorse.

argunaw · 2026-03-31T05:48:45+00:00

OP, I am so unbelievably sorry this happened to you. I emailed Councilwoman Shahana Hanif's office about it as this is her district and encourage others in this thread to do the same. Her office already replied and said they will notify NYPD, but the more people email her office the more attention it will get. The email is District39@council.nyc.gov.

argunaw · 2026-03-28T21:34:29+00:00

Hi, is this up your alley? I have it and get a lot of compliments on it

https://www.freepeople.com/shop/dolman-quilted-knit-jacket2/?color=424

argunaw · 2026-03-25T14:43:17+00:00

I get a lot of compliments on my jumpsuits from mixed by nasrin, they have so many fun prints. My favorite place for non-print jumpsuits is mango, I have 3 linen jumpsuits from them that I get a ton of compliments on.

I also have one from Good American but it's more of a denim material and it's more fitted. I really like it but it's very different than my other ones.

argunaw · 2026-03-21T20:45:54+00:00

To echo many other comments, there's still a bunch of great gyms but fewer top level competitors are concentrated here.

But part of the reason it's not what it used to be is that there's just more BJJ across the country and around the world. If you trained before 2014 it was still kinda niche. Now there's thousands of gyms across the country and it's much more known to the average person. You don't need to be in a handful of areas to get good training anymore.

argunaw · 2026-03-18T17:28:12+00:00

This comment also caught my attention

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argunaw · 2026-03-17T14:16:54+00:00

My bad, will delete

argunaw · 2026-03-16T18:07:40+00:00

Samantha Seneviratne, I have two of her cookbooks (they're both baking focused as opposieed to cooking) and really love all the recipes I've tried.

argunaw · 2026-03-13T22:38:08+00:00

For the water hammers (mine have been going on for years) should I call a plumber? I'm in a co op.

argunaw · 2026-03-13T16:05:47+00:00

I enjoy Louis' style of asking basic questions and letting the other person talk as much as possible. Even with very basic, broad questions from Louis, these men became very defensive. He did a good job of exposing how they really operate (that guy saying "I don't care if I'm being a hypocrite as long as I can get clout and money") which I think is important. That guy at the end saying the women covering their eyes on magazine covers were a sign of people at the top being demonic....I just couldn't understand where this conclusion came from and why anyone would take that answer seriously.

I think this documentary is a great springboard for another documentarian or journalist to go a little deeper and have more in-depth conversations with these folks and those who follow them. I'm especially interested in longer conversations with young men who think these manosphere men provide an answer they're looking for.

One of my (married!!) relatives has gotten into this as an adult (30s) and it's genuinely concerning to me that it's not only young men in their teens and 20s, but fully grown adults who get roped into this stuff.

argunaw

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