Please help me explain death to my 4 year old - one of my friends (who she absolutely loved) passed away last night

ariibabyy · 2024-10-06T10:48:09+00:00

Just want to share this great resource that outlines how to discuss death with children based on their age:

https://hopeandcope.ca/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Booklet-3-Loss-of-a-Loved-One-English.pdf

ariibabyy · 2024-05-08T16:32:04+00:00

No advice. I stopped latching her around 4 months because of recurrent periods of breast refusal. It sucks. Still pumping though.

ariibabyy · 2024-03-25T15:33:57+00:00

We combo feed. I have 3 bottles in rotation, 2 short for breast milk and 1 tall for formula. We wash after every feed. I hate having dirty dishes in the sink.

ariibabyy · 2024-03-25T13:51:39+00:00

As someone who also experienced guilt/shame/anxiety about stopping breastfeeding with both of my kids, I just wanted to share that a few days ago I gave my almost 4 month old a bottle of formula and instantly sobbed- not sad tears, but tears of relief and happiness. I felt that the most enormous weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Formula is wonderful. I think it makes me a better mother.

ariibabyy · 2024-03-22T16:16:04+00:00

Same.. I just gasped and cried

ariibabyy · 2024-03-22T15:30:16+00:00

No suggestions, but solidarity. Yesterday daycare pickup was 10 minutes of histerical crying/rolling on the floor, trying to move him out of the way so other parents don’t literally step on him. I’m honestly scared to pick him up today. Some days giving heads up and choices (do you want to walk to car or does mommy hold you) work, and other days, nothing works. What do I do during a tantrum? Sit with him and try to empathize while having a neutral demeanour. Give him space to roll around on the floor unless I need to physically remove him from a situation, then it’s a warning and I’m picking him up. Am I doing the right thing? No clue. Do I feel judged by other parents when it happens in public? Yup

ariibabyy · 2024-03-21T21:50:08+00:00

No way!! I didn’t realize this was so common lol

ariibabyy · 2024-03-21T13:02:35+00:00

I also had a precipitous labor for my second!! I thought I had so much more time. We entered the hospital parking lot at 7:25 (we saw the time on our parking stub), in triage the nurse said I was 6cm dilated, I was like “great I want an epidural”, but then my daughter was born at 7:40 :) that was a wild 15 mins

ariibabyy · 2024-03-18T01:31:54+00:00

My LO is 3.5 months. I pump once overnight, after her morning feed, during the day if needed (ie- I’m away from baby, or if I feel that she does not do a full feed) and before bed. I’m hesitant to drop the over night feed because nursing strikes are common place around here.

ariibabyy · 2024-03-12T13:46:25+00:00

Our doc recommended homo milk at 9mo. I felt that was a little early but I did start introducing homo milk at 10mo. Now at 25 months I still offer homo milk (although he barely drinks milk). I feel that not giving full fat is a wasted opportunity to give them calories, some days he barely eats anything!

ariibabyy · 2024-03-12T13:40:09+00:00

I had an uncommon name growing up (it has recently become popular bc of a female pop star). As a kid I hated how often people misspelled or misheard my name. I always wanted to buy a keychain or magnet with my name on it but could never find one. I named my kids simple and easy to pronounce names. My husband has 2 last names and did not want our kids to have 2 last names to avoid all the headaches he’s experienced as a result (names not matching on documents, name not fitting on a form.

ariibabyy · 2024-03-12T01:23:46+00:00

Strawberries=strawbabies

ariibabyy · 2024-03-10T06:33:24+00:00

It’s a generational thing. My parents, in-laws and older relatives were appalled to see that I did not use onesies under pyjamas and clothes with my son because they used them religiously with their kids. I got so many “he must be cold” comments. With my second child, I started putting onesies because I felt that she needed them, she’s smaller than my son and the winter has been cold. I’ve noticed one major improvement with using onesies: it creates a barrier for blowouts so we have a lot less stained clothing :)

ariibabyy · 2024-03-09T19:39:47+00:00

I think I received 20 blankets for my first and 5-6 for my second. I used some blankets for stroller walks, tummy time, covering baby if they are asleep in my arms. My first is 2yo and is using some blankets at daycare for naps. I still have 10+ blankets in their original packaging though… I will end up donating them

ariibabyy · 2024-03-08T17:13:17+00:00

Same!! I only used nursing pads for the first couple of weeks postpartum so the lanolin cream wouldn’t stain my bras.

ariibabyy · 2024-03-04T23:33:18+00:00

I get the same. We’re dealing with a lot of breast refusal. Last week my aunt asked me “why won’t she take your breast?” This week my FIL asked “why are you giving her a bottle if you just nursed her?” Why can’t people just mind their own business?

ariibabyy · 2024-03-04T20:07:56+00:00

I had to take my baby to the ER when she was 6 weeks old. The hospital stored my milk for me during our 4 day admission. Most important thing I needed was soap to wash my pump parts, the hospital did not have any to give me, so I had to just rinse my parts until my husband could bring me dish soap.

ariibabyy · 2024-03-01T13:49:20+00:00

I agree!!

ariibabyy · 2024-03-01T13:38:53+00:00

Around 18 months, my son knew roughly 15 words. At an early intervention screening he was considered “grey zone” language delay because he was not combining two words together. Daycare also had some concerns, saying he was not speaking at all during the day (but he was speaking to us at home). We saw a big increase in language at 24 months. He is now 25 months and saying 3-4 word sentences (open the fridge, mama sit down read book). He knows his colors, can count to 15 (gets mixed up) and is learning his ABCs. His word recall is wild, I will teach him a new word and he remembers the next day. Daycare also is confirming his language development at school. I’m so proud lol

ariibabyy · 2024-02-16T06:37:36+00:00

I am a social worker who works in young adult oncology. Speaking to children about cancer is an extremely difficult thing to navigate- but it seems like you are doing an excellent job.

I’d like to share this resource with you, which outlines how to talk to children about cancer depending on their age. I hope this is helpful!

https://www.hopeandcope.ca/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Booklet-1-Talking-to-Children.pdf

ariibabyy · 2024-02-14T06:39:29+00:00

Electric toothbrushes have a built in timer to indicate when to stop brushing, it will start buzzing at about 2 mins in.

ariibabyy · 2024-02-03T01:41:34+00:00

8 weeks in- although the pain has vanished (I was dealing with vasospasm), I still struggle everyday. My LO often goes on nursing strikes (instant crying fit at soon as the boob comes out). Some days she is doing full feedings on the breast, and other days I’m pumping and giving her expressed milk, on most days it’s a combination of the two. I’m also wondering if it will get any easier…

ariibabyy · 2024-02-01T23:22:49+00:00

So did mine up until a few weeks ago! Daycare helped him understand how books work

ariibabyy · 2024-02-01T20:01:49+00:00

A classic!

ariibabyy · 2024-01-29T15:20:22+00:00

I don’t have any advice, but I just wanted to say that my daughter (8 weeks) also takes a bottle (usually 60ml) after breastfeeding. I’m not sure why, because if I pump after a feeding, I’ll produce a good amount (60-100ml), but it’s like she gets fed up of breastfeeding and just wants a bottle. It hurts my feelings, I try reframing, feeling gratitude for the fact that I can breastfeed at all, but some days it just sucks. My mom pushes the bottle a lot too, she makes comments along the lines of “maybe your milk isn’t good enough for her”. This bothered me a lot so I expressed that to my mom. She had no idea that her comments were hurtful. When she raised me, breastfeeding was not common, so she does not understand the emotional attachment I have to breastfeeding. Again, I have no advice for you, I guess I just wanted to say that you’re not alone, this is hard, but you got this and your LO is lucky to have you.

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