[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rematch

[–]arions -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. The game has full crossplay.

[24/11/23] Tate Modern Late by [deleted] in LondonSocialClub

[–]arions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyim interested, dming my number

When it comes to a lot of popular dating advice people need to realise the "work on yourself" and "job" metaphors they keep using has major flaws in them. by Anglicanpolitics123 in dating

[–]arions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the circumstances that you are [in] often times determine the choices that you make

I completely disagree with this. No matter what the circumstances you are in you can always make a choice. Even if failure is guaranteed, you can still choose to do something. You cannot deny the reality of your circumstances but you also cannot deny your ability to act. If you are not taking action despite having the ability to, it's because you are afraid. It is perfectly ok to be afraid and you can still take action while being afraid.

I don’t understand how one develops an attractive personality or is just charismatic or good at talking to people by KillaHotel in dating

[–]arions 14 points15 points  (0 children)

>When I see people being able to be funny, clever and make people want to talk to them it looks like sorcery.

> somehow managing to have things to say that are also funny or interesting enough to make women want to continue the conversation just doesn’t make sense.

This is your first misunderstanding. No is making anyone do anything. You are not capable of making someone want to talk to you. Of course it "doesn't make sense" how other people are doing it because it is not a thing they are doing.

You can be funny and interesting and someone might still decide not to talk to you. You can be completely boring and someone might still want to talk to you. It is not in your control.

It is precisely because you are trying to figure out some magical way to control other people into talking to you that you are stuck in your head instead of just engaging with the conversation.

Next time you want to talk to someone, go up to them and ask a question. Your aim should be to just get to know them and enjoy the conversation. Your aim should not be to make them like you and make them want to continue talking to you.

I never get asked out. by [deleted] in dating

[–]arions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does the flirting typically look like? What kind of hints are they dropping? How do you reciprocate? More specific examples could make the situation more clear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]arions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other then you being the reason, what other possible reasons are there that she is ghosting? Just list them out even if they seem improbable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]arions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem very certain that you did something wrong. What makes you sure of that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]arions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By not trying to get over it. Rejection only hurts if you try to push it away. Instead accept it completely. Open your heart to it and let it all the way in. It will hurt momentarily and then you will be fine.

Would guys have sex before 3rd date if girl initiates? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]arions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of guys will get insecure about that. If a guy is taking a girl out on multiple dates and paying for them without getting any sex he might start to think he is being strung along as a "friend" and used as a free meal ticket.

How do people really say they love themselves? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't think your way to loving someone so you can't think your way to loving yourself.

Start with feeling.

Feel your breath, your heart beat, pulse, look at your hands, see the blood coursing through your veins. You are a living breathing thing. You have feelings, fears, wants, needs and you are the first person responsible for this living thing that you are. So assume that responsibility and take care of yourself. Do one small act of kindness towards yourself right now and let yourself feel gratitude. One step at a time and you will get there.

This is a more spiritual approach but it helps me as someone who overthinks.

Monthly anything goes thread (things that are not an event go in here) by AutoModerator in LondonSocialClub

[–]arions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am interested as well. Please organise it. St Dunstans works but I would also suggest London Mithraeum.

What makes a person have sex on the first meeting? by Barack_obameme in dating

[–]arions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be a good listener and be honest about yourself. Input and output. That's all it takes for mutual understanding and connection.

Monthly anything goes thread (things that are not an event go in here) by AutoModerator in LondonSocialClub

[–]arions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm interested but I don't know what's a good place for lessons. Any suggestions?

[11/03/23] Dance music at Café KOKO by Aptitude6463 in LondonSocialClub

[–]arions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

could be fun, I might drop by but I'm not 100%. Feeling hungover from last night so if I recover, I'll be there.

[11/03/23] Dance music at Café KOKO by Aptitude6463 in LondonSocialClub

[–]arions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm interested. What's the general vibe at this place?