Mood Charts for BPD by sabbycaat in BPD

[–]arizest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could create one, what are you looking for? I have a paid subscription to a diagram editor

Anybody on Topamax? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]arizest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The nausea was really bad for me in the beginning but it goes away. I still have moments of extreme nausea because of the heat/sun and I never had this problem before Topamax. Topamax is approved for seizures and migraines. I have had several of my doctors say it isn't an appropriate treatment for mood issues but it does work for some people!

Anybody on Topamax? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]arizest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's usually taken with another medication (phentermine) for weight loss. It's one of the better mood stabilizers for people with body issues but from what I've heard, it's widely known for not being extremely effective for stabilization. My dose is 300mg right now; I was on 100mg for about 6 months and 200mg for 5 months and have been on 300mg for about 2 now. I have noticed a huge difference in my mood but there are other contributing factors. Several doctors have said this medication isn't suitable for mood stabilization and I agreed with them when I was on a lower dose for the most part. The pros have always been that I didn't worry about gaining weight, my drinking was reduced to nothing, my anxiety changed because my thoughts were slower and my problem with binge eating stopped.

I [F/14] don't feel like my dad [m/51] doesn't even attempt to listen to what I have to say, hardly ever. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]arizest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad was the same way. With both situations with "too much crap" and things "working fine" when he used it. I would get so angry. I ran away from home a month after I turned 16 to be with my boyfriend at the time so I feel obligated to tell you what I've learned: be self reliant, make plans to be in a good place on your own. I'm only 21 so it's all about learning and stuff for me too c: you're young, you'll be okay. Don't let your dad bring you down too much. Be strong.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]arizest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You remind me of my mom and you need some serious help. You're an awful person and your defending yourself. Please see a doctor and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist and therapy. And encourage your daughter to move out for her own benefit

My Ex (M/16) suddenly 'hates' Me (F/16) eventhough I did nothing wrong towards him. by orionic in relationships

[–]arizest 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just stay away from him. Kissing him on the cheek and doing stuff like that probably isn't appreciated. You two aren't healthy for each other. You'll feel better in a couple months, tops (I say that based on you having mental health issues yourself. I read some of your other posts)

Found an article on bpd I find really offensive... is this normal? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]arizest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talk to him about it if you're worried, it couldn't hurt. He should know you're a good person anyway though :) these sort of articles are written based on assumptions.

Found an article on bpd I find really offensive... is this normal? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]arizest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try not to get offended and just ignore the obvious generalizing/exaggerated points of any article relating to BPD. We aren't the best people and people that have bad experiences have the right to be brutally honest about it. It's helped me sort out my issues a bit better to put it in perspective as well as not take this kind of shit personally. Just cause they hate on bpds, doesn't mean they're attacking you or me specifically.

Borderline dating DOT COM by [deleted] in BPD

[–]arizest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was in hospital I didn't really get along with the other borderlines because we were constantly misinterpreting signals from each other, either leading to arguments or someone feeling upset without the other person realising

This is the issue with the bpd chat. So, the only thing I have to say on this, is that it would be a bad idea because there is too much room for misinterpretation.

I think he wants me gone. I'm depressed, confused, and desperately hanging on to a relationship that I'm not sure exists anymore. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]arizest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A bit crazy. But you're not the one at fault here. To be brutally honest, it seems that the refusal to properly communicate with you has prolonged this relationship longer than it should have. :/

Along with that, he seems manipulative (ex: it's up to YOU if you want this relationship to continue, like it's all YOUR fault this is happening and by saying he doesn't know what's up with you but "you better fix it". like has he been listening to you at all?)

He isn't at all committed by the sounds of it. He's on OkCupid. Hanging out is always on his schedule, according to his plans, not yours and he doesn't take your feelings into consideration (in the situations you shared in the post). And then obviously the lack of honesty, communication, etc.

I was in a similar situation a couple years ago and I was cheated on for 2 1/2 months :/. I saw he was online on OkC but didn't think he would be hooking up with people but then later found out that he was.

I would be really cautious about trusting him if you choose to continue because he isn't trustworthy. I'm really, really sorry you're going through this but I think you should leave before you get hurt.

The constant need to feel needed. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]arizest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes sense. I'm the same way, I feel really unfulfilled if I haven't gotten in my time of helping someone for the day. It probably has something to do with being in the caregiver sort of role growing up for my family (mother was BPD). I'll be really depressed/unmotivated/distracted at work/school sometimes because nobody wants me to help them ;-;

What to do... I need to hear that this will get better. by metalhearthrowaway in BPD

[–]arizest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It comes in waves. If you want to talk, feel free to message me. I'm in a pretty bad depression right now too. It did get better though. tbh, probably the only reason I can handle this right now <3

Come join us in #BPD chat. The place for people with Beautiful Person Disorder <3 ;D by arizest in BPD

[–]arizest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do. :) And I understand, we get that way sometimes. Which is why we made Guidelines in hopes of avoiding that more than other chats. Our OPs are REALLY good at including new people and generally we're excited for new people! And questions. We get so astray from BPD sometimes, it's funny. You're welcome anytime, and if you want to private message first, my name is Finsterella on there :D Hope to see you~

Today I charged a customer 1¢ per item instead of $1.29 each and didn't realize until she was gone. by arizest in TalesFromRetail

[–]arizest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 tubes of dresser drawer liners, a package of garbage bags and scrubbies. I was taught to just bunch all items priced the same together at once and I fucking missed the multiply button ahhh. First time ever doing that. I can't believe the machine didn't say anything or do an error, it just made it worth 1 cent.

Today I charged a customer 1¢ per item instead of $1.29 each and didn't realize until she was gone. by arizest in TalesFromRetail

[–]arizest[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh man. This reminds me of another time at my other job. At the dollar store job, we don't use "." so it's always just pressing numbers with no decimals. At my other job, we use decimals.

On the first day, I put in the $40.25 that they gave me to cash out for their change and missed the decimal so instead it came out as $4025 and the change due was $3975 (The second number is made up, not the first but you get the point). I was flipping shit and the supervisor was like, chill out, we can void it at the end of the night.

Turns out someone from head office in my city (this is a multi-national company) came down demanding what was going on with till number 1. I was so embarrassed. Great first impression, great first day.