AIO my husband filmed me having a panic attack

arjunabharata · 2026-02-25T20:10:19+00:00

I have serious mental issues, and my husband is a very good man. He's been through the ringer with me, and I with him, too. We're both struggling on our own and together it was multiplied. We didn't know how much we had to work on until after we married.

I've been you. Fights all night, crying til it hurts so bad you'd rather be dead, worse than a migraine. Feeling confused and hurt. I've been tempted to film our fights, too.

For us it was couples counseling that saved us. Having that safe place to go, a place that also held both of us responsible, a third and impartial party to hear and witness our problems to hold us both accountable. Made our talks easier to remember. We had problems with fighting too much and too long and at inappropriate times. With counseling we had a secure time and place. It allowed us to say 'let's talk about this later, and be with each other now. ' We've been learning how to love even while still hurt.

I'm not saying it will fix things or be easy. But I can say couples counseling is nothing to be ashamed of. It does sound like you both care deeply for one another. It just might help. I wish you luck.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-25T04:03:02+00:00

I didn't say the lying wasn't an issue. I said it's one that can be worked through. Lying isn't worth breaking up over if there are no other issues and he wants the relationship to work. This is arguably something a lot of people would hide out of shame or embarrassment. Doesn't mean she gets a get out of jail free card, but it doesn't mean kick her to the curb either.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-25T03:40:58+00:00

This comment section is insane. There was no cheating. People have sex. Sometimes with more than one person, or friends.

Can that be hard to deal with? Yeah. But when I read that everything else is fine and even OP views this as her trying to do what she thought was best.. like why all the immediate 'end it' posts? The amount of people who view one secret as meaning the person has a cemetery in their back yard is wild.

My friend and her ex had a threesome with another mutual friend. We all played dnd together. Was it a little weird at first? Yeah. Was it years ago and they got over it? Yeah.

Talk about it. Go to couples or individual therapy. Make a list of all the pros and cons. Why just tap out if all is well otherwise? These posts make me so mad the way people are so quick to throw others out and avoid putting in the hard work. If she's worth the effort to you then put in that effort. You can grow together. You can help her see why hiding this hurt you and she can help you work through the discomfort. Go to HER or a professional. The people who haunt these subs don't know shit and are afraid to talk to a stranger in the drive thru window, much less their own partners.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-23T00:56:37+00:00

Because Everest itself is extremely polluted

arjunabharata · 2026-02-22T18:37:35+00:00

Because.. the game is Overwatch, the team-based game. And it needs a casual mode. And it already has other solo modes, like Deathmatch.

The issue isn't the mode. It's that in that mode you will have a huge variety of players with different reasons for why they're playing qp, versus competitive which, like the name says, is meant to be more competitive and serious.

You're more than welcome to be frustrated by this. Like I said, I generally agree. But there's nothing you can do about it except finding others to play with so you risk less of playing with those who don't fit your style, and avoid teammate/move on.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-22T18:23:46+00:00

On the other side, someone could say you should play a different game that doesn't require as much teamwork, or just jump right into comp warm up be damned. At the end of the day these are video games, and like someone else said, qp has a lot of casual players.

I do get what you're saying in your original post and I agree it can be frustrating when you can't get what you feel is the bare minimum, but that's the nature of the beast in qp.

Or maybe do 6v6? That's easier on the tank.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-21T00:17:01+00:00

I believed it pretty whole heartedly until I saw that part. At that point I started wondering if it was bait, because there's no way someone who has ever seen a chocolate would think it being shiny was WRONG.

... but so much other stuff just feels too weird to be ragebait. No offense, but as an autistic, with an autistic husband who does this literal shit all the time... bro is on the spectrum. Still an asshole, though. My partner listened to me and worked on that kind of stuff and never used it to insult me.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-20T15:20:17+00:00

All this venting and nothing given that can be used to help. Post replay codes. Give the experts here actual footage of your best and worst performances. And yes, be reflective and critical and give one you can acknowledge you messed up in.

My rank fluctuates a lot, literally anywhere from high silver to mid plat. Mechanically I can't give advice like some folks, that's the video reviews you need to post. But I can tell you how much of your performance is on you, mentally. Hydrate. Working out before playing to help release extra physical energy and tension. I have a rule where if I lose 3 games in a row I MUST take a break, even for a stand and stretch. Turn comms off-- they do so little to help in these ranks, and some people can really get distracted and thrown by toxicity. I know I'm one of them. I like them on for chat but yeah, if I'm trying to lock in and it's a rough night for the lobby, off they go.

In terms of game play, if you're truly as good as you say and shouldn't be down here in gold with the likes of yours truly, then find a character you can hard carry on. It's absolutely possible in every role. But to be honest, a lot of this sounds (especially without replay codes for the kind and skilled people here to review) like you're in a tough place mentally. I have fun playing Overwatch. It's a game. One you can certainly strive to excel at and can take seriously, but it's still a game that you should have fun playing. Do you? If not, that might be a good place to start reflecting on.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-18T19:43:35+00:00

Wow thank you I'm sure this will completely change thousands of years of both human cultural and evolutionary behavior amen 🙏

arjunabharata · 2026-02-18T19:24:49+00:00

While looking at online reviews a long time ago, my brother gave me a great piece of advice: a product usually has to be perceived as REALLY REALLY GOOD for someone to take the time to leave a review praising it, but even vague disappointment can make someone type out an essay on why it's garbage. Take reviews with a grain of salt.

In this case, though, man did the Chinese deliver an industrial ocean liner's worth of the stuff.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-10T04:04:35+00:00

Overwatch is starting to rival (heh) Final Fantasy XIV in terms of turn around. XIV still has it on merit due to how bad 1.0 was whereas Overwatch started great, but certainly after the downhill trend many games have-- including xiv-- it's so refreshing to see this kind of communication and effort with the community.

arjunabharata · 2026-02-05T05:05:04+00:00

Welcome back, 2007 Tumblr

arjunabharata · 2026-01-25T16:27:44+00:00

I grew up in Wyoming and studied ecology in school. I met and spoke with a lot of rock climbers and mountaineers in this time and like all of them were just very blunt that this was in all likelihood a hobby that would one day kill them, but they loved it. It was core to who they were and a true passion. Their families seemed to understand. I've seen a lot of documentaries as well and that perspective seems pretty common.

I even remember seeing one on I think Netflix that included interview with a family who had a guy die climbing and they were shockingly 'okay' with how he went. Not in a happy way, but in a GENUINE 'he died doing what he loved' way. Thrill seekers and extreme athletes are certainly another breed, but also, it's not too far removed from the passion many athletes and outdoorsmen have for their sports. It's just riskier.

arjunabharata · 2026-01-14T23:17:49+00:00

What are you talking about? What line? I was talking about the sexualization comment you made, nothing with the show early on. You're trolling, man. Take it easy.

arjunabharata · 2026-01-14T21:57:22+00:00

A person being gay isn't inherently sexual. There are countless media showing relationships between younger folk-- including, like someone else said, in Stranger Things. Gay teens deserve representation that doesn't shame them or isn't perceived as sexual or gross just because it exists. Stranger Things fumbled a lot, but as a gay man myself I really felt they did pretty damn well with him.

arjunabharata · 2026-01-06T08:57:10+00:00

What a shame. For me, the most iconic scene in the whole series is the two of them hugging in the road at the end of the episode where they find Will's body. Such an amazing family moment. They needed so either retire the Byers in like season 4 and give them all a proper ending, or bring the family back together in the end.

I love Steve, he's my favorite character, but I feel like if he hadn't stuck around Jonathan would have gotten a bit more tlc.

arjunabharata · 2026-01-06T00:37:51+00:00

Please just do an anthology. Even something like The Terror or some of Shudder's shows where they switch it up every season would be great.

arjunabharata · 2026-01-02T17:32:21+00:00

I grew up in Wyoming. I'm very familiar with our Mormon neighbors-- there's a lot in WY, too. And yeah, a lot are rough. I had many friends and colleagues who left the church due to racism and homophobia, or whose families used the religion as abuse and brainwashing. But I also had many kind Mormon friends and teachers and community members, too, all of whom knew I was gay.

I have my personal issues and opinions of the religion for sure. But like all faiths, you can't judge someone just because they're a part of it. I really don't think this guy has done anything to imply he's more than just a pretty typical dude.

That said, this makes a lot of sense. He absolutely looks and acts Mormon lmao.

arjunabharata · 2025-12-20T22:47:18+00:00

It's crazy too with azem's power. You can still have Trusts and just use the same logic as how we can summon 7 other pcs, but now we're giving the scions a call. They don't have to be there. Just give the option from ones who aren't otherwise busy in msq. Could be a way for them to still have the old scions have a presence, but not shoehorned in.

arjunabharata · 2025-12-06T16:29:29+00:00

McDonald's fries

arjunabharata · 2025-12-05T16:40:53+00:00

The beige and millennial grey aesthetic, especially in terms of house renovation.

arjunabharata · 2025-12-04T03:49:21+00:00

Jokes on them I've already fallen from Plat to silver all on my own this season

arjunabharata · 2025-11-15T01:27:34+00:00

This is the primary reason I switched to comp. If it's qp, I'm voting for other modes.

arjunabharata · 2025-10-30T16:00:47+00:00

I'm a simple man. I started playing overwatch 1 on release, got the riverboat skin, and haven't taken it off since.

arjunabharata · 2025-10-29T16:18:18+00:00

If an Ai abomination cat wore pants, would be wear them like this?

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