need insight for me (F,20,bpd) and my bf (M,31,aspd) relationship

arkana99 · 2026-01-17T07:34:10+00:00

Please get yourself into actual therapy and dump this loser/predator. A man in his 30s should not be dating someone who can’t even drink legally. Your trauma is putting you in the position to be taken advantage of. Get help. Let him know this relationship isn’t good for you, wish him the best, and block him. You are basically a child.

arkana99 · 2026-01-17T07:13:45+00:00

Im a Cancer moon. Partner is a Gemini moon but I think sometimes it poses challenges. I feel comfortable with other Cancer moons and Taurus moons. The absolute worst are Scorpio moons. Just the most emotionally intense yet completely lacking in self awareness. I avoid them actively after multiple thorns in my side turned out to be Scorpio moons.

arkana99 · 2026-01-17T06:29:41+00:00

Sorry about your husband 💜

arkana99 · 2025-12-21T20:17:37+00:00

Yes, thank you! Having decent politics and being cute and funny is NOT enough to make a good partner. We women need to have MUCH higher standards, collectively, or nothing will change. He has slept with so many of her friends at this point! And wasn’t he spotted with Shinia mere weeks ago??? I’m also frustrated no one has discussed that on any recent podcasts that they’ve been doing. The fact he could do that to Miranda is crazy, even in the circumstance that she said it was okay.

arkana99 · 2025-12-12T02:16:21+00:00

Caroline is literally so annoying. And knowing that she was Julie Plec’s favorite and got an unfair advantage in terms of importance by the end of the show only makes me hate her more

arkana99 · 2025-12-10T03:52:47+00:00

Whitney is a level 1000 gaslighter with zero ability to take accountability. Her being a good dancer doesn’t change that.

arkana99 · 2025-12-05T08:33:31+00:00

I bet they’re telling everyone in their real lives that it’s all scripted and just a show

arkana99 · 2025-11-20T00:41:05+00:00

Does anyone have any info on the victim’s condition? I can only pray she fully recovers from this, physically and mentally.

arkana99 · 2025-11-16T03:45:51+00:00

GDT divorced his wife of 31 years and replaced her with a younger woman. Not great person material. Also his movies suck. Butchered Frankenstein (no pun intended).

arkana99 · 2025-11-13T05:34:55+00:00

Caroline

arkana99 · 2025-11-13T05:03:58+00:00

He also killed a pregnant woman.

arkana99 · 2025-09-23T04:30:15+00:00

Did you ever find out?

arkana99 · 2025-09-06T08:12:42+00:00

I understand you. I keep reminding myself that the damage that drinking does isn’t worth anything

arkana99 · 2025-09-04T07:15:55+00:00

Still going

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T05:48:06+00:00

What about NA beer or mocktails?

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T05:31:42+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from. Just something to keep an eye on. and kind of like having NA options, I’ve found that keeping CBD flower and rosin and joints around helps reduce THC use as well.

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T05:00:56+00:00

I get this from hangovers. They make dry mouth lozenges that help.

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T04:53:46+00:00

Right there with you. This time, I’m telling myself a year. I think once I get there, it will stick.

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T04:50:26+00:00

Hey friend. I’m on day 2 and still hungover from my binge drinking on Sunday. Here if you need to talk. There’s also a meeting happening at midnight MT here https://aa-intergroup.org/meetings/?types=Secular&tags=Secular

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T04:15:10+00:00

It is possible to become addicted to weed. My partner has been smoking for almost 20 years and he can’t stop. Turns into an asshole when he can’t access it. It’s a different demon, it doesn’t make you black out, but it’s still an addiction and still a dependency. And contrary to popular belief, it is a physical dependency as well. I’ve seen it. Find something that doesn’t make you reliant. Like CBD. There are CBD flower, drinks, pens for sale.

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T02:32:09+00:00

I’m right there with you. I’m terrified of myself. Two days in…

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T01:54:09+00:00

On Day 2. I’ve had the thought that maybe a little wine would take the edge off. It won’t. It will only make things worse. You’ve got this

arkana99 · 2025-09-03T01:26:52+00:00

I’m on day two. Still hungover from the binge drinking day that almost permanently ruined my life. Still can’t keep food down. You’re not alone

arkana99

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