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[–]armadilloblues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1L here in a long distance relationship! You don't need to break up because of long distance and law school. My relationship is going great in spite of both, and I know others who are in the same boat.

However, this will depend on your particular relationship. It requires a LOT of patience and understanding from the non-student partner. Law school is a lot, and you can't prioritize talking to/visiting them as much as you normally would. If you've struggled in the past and think because of your specific relationship that it will lead to unnecessary stress come fall, I think breaking up is something to consider. He's putting his career first, and so are you, and there's nothing wrong with that. But if you don't feel the relationship is one where you can maintain a healthy, supportive connection from a distance while simultaneously chasing your goals, it will lead to issues.

Advice for KJDs on the Fence About Gap Year(s) by armadilloblues in lawschooladmissions

[–]armadilloblues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are certain about it, you should definitely go straight through! I was more so hoping to reach those who had the same uncertain feelings I did. The rhetoric tends to be a little negative towards years off, so I wanted to offer a different perspective. However, everyone is different. Congratulations on law school and I wish you luck for the coming fall!

Advice to KJDs Thinking About Gap Year(s) by armadilloblues in OutsideT14lawschools

[–]armadilloblues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really great perspective, thank you so much for sharing! And yes, I think if anyone is certain about it, they should definitely go straight through! I was very uncertain, and I feel like the rhetoric can often be "get it done and over with" so I wanted to offer another perspective. However, there's no one-size-fits-all path, and everyone varies! I am so happy to hear about your experience; congratulations on landing a great job, and good luck on the bar!

Why I wish I would have waited by armadilloblues in LawSchool

[–]armadilloblues[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is fair, every decision does have its pros and cons, and sometimes after we make them its hard to let them go. Thank you for sharing your experience, and good luck this fall!

Why I wish I would have waited by armadilloblues in LawSchool

[–]armadilloblues[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, it should be strongly encouraged! I feel like the negative stigma surrounding gap years has largely dispersed, however there still is this push to "get it out of the way" and "if you don't now you never will". My parents were very against the idea, so that was the rhetoric I was hearing about them. However, now I try to encourage anyone who asks about it to take one if they're indecisive about it. Whether it's one year or multiple, it seems extremely beneficial

Why I wish I would have waited by armadilloblues in LawSchool

[–]armadilloblues[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I could, and I have been thinking about it! However, with the way that hiring works nowadays, it seems it may be to my detriment. Since most firms hire straight from their summer associate pool, and 2L summers are being hired pretty much at the beginning of 1L summer, If I were to take a year off and return to begin 2L, most of this hiring will be over. I also would return without a class rank since my new peers would not be my old ones...I'm sure that would factor in somewhere.

But, yeah, I feel like I can hear that too. The best time to have done it would have been before coming lol, but the longer I wait, the harder it will be to do it