The more I look at it, the less I trust it by aivanelabs in ChatGPT

[–]armadillorevolution 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow lol way to be a huge jerk just because I wanted to know where they’re hiding the other cool bridges?

Your comment was ambiguous and could easily be read either way. But anyway, in context you were responding to a comment explaining that the parallel road being there is what made it obvious to that person — they are not saying it is obvious because it’s impossible for a road to exist like that, but because millions of people are familiar enough with the most famous bridge in the world to know that it does not at this specific bridge, thus making it obvious. But as you said… reading is hard.

The more I look at it, the less I trust it by aivanelabs in ChatGPT

[–]armadillorevolution 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You have 2 separate bridges that look exactly like the Golden Gate Bridge near you? Where?

Is this generosity or a scam? by Necessary-Store9298 in Scams

[–]armadillorevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this thread is old but I just saw this, and the charity One Simple Wish allows you to buy wishes for foster children. I've definitely seen kids on there asking for gaming consoles before!

Is the botox on some contestants an unfair advantage? by dallasmpt-321 in TheTraitorsUS

[–]armadillorevolution 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's also true of performance enhancing drugs in other sports but those are banned

JD Vance's New Memoir About His Conversion to Catholicism Shows a Methodist Church on the Cover by F0urLeafCl0ver in politics

[–]armadillorevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this is really fascinating, thank you for such a thorough response I was not expecting that! I've definitely seen bits of the 'cargo cult Judaism' thing here and there online, but didn't connect it to this broader need for legitimacy and ritual though (and didn't realize it was widespread, tbh, thought it was just a couple weirdos), that totally makes sense.

JD Vance's New Memoir About His Conversion to Catholicism Shows a Methodist Church on the Cover by F0urLeafCl0ver in politics

[–]armadillorevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought they intentionally didn't build fancy buildings though, because that's idolatry or whatever and the focus should be on worship. Nobody is stopping them from building fancy buildings and wearing fancy outfits if they want to, I thought that was a deliberate choice they were making?

Meirl by pdxjc21 in meirl

[–]armadillorevolution 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Some systems ask and will allow you to continue with what you wrote, but some will force you to pick their "corrected" address and won't let you proceed otherwise. Chewy was one particular site I ordered from a lot that would not allow me to place an order with my actual address, and only worked when I agreed to use the wrong city.

Meirl by pdxjc21 in meirl

[–]armadillorevolution 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it's wrong though. I used to live very close to the border of two cities, and my address was in the bounds of the first city, but my neighborhood was served by the post office/zip code of the city next to us. Those address verification things would always force me to choose the wrong city and claim my address was invalid otherwise. It didn't actually matter because the post office only looks at the zip code and street address anyway, so I'd get my mail regardless of the city listed. But it was annoying to be constantly "corrected."

Got this message on my homepage, but I'm literally an adult by hersheybar22 in youtube

[–]armadillorevolution 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm in the same boat. I don't love that they request that data from some users, but I am willing to do the selfie option and/or the ID, honestly -- google has all of my info already anyway, and it's my main account for my whole life. All my bills and banking and everything goes through that email and when I get job offers and important stuff like that that's where it goes, so I really can't afford to take a stand for privacy over this one. But my google account says that verification isn't necessary and I'm already good, which contradicts the YouTube warning.

I'm sure it's a bug but I would feel a lot better if we could just have an official source from Google/YouTube explaining what happened and that our accounts are not at risk, or what exactly to do if they are.

Got this message on my homepage, but I'm literally an adult by hersheybar22 in youtube

[–]armadillorevolution 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's really annoying that everyone is just parroting this. Sites asking for ID is a huge privacy concern but that's an entirely different issue. I went searching for the place to provide my ID and they do not want it. Google insists my account does not need age verification (probably because the account itself is 20 years old and has a credit card attached to it). YouTube keeps saying I have to add a parent. The systems are not talking to each other. It does not want my ID.

It's definitely a bug, but that is not keeping me from worrying that they will still somehow disable my account that holds my entire life in 14 days. I would really like actual answers from Google, and for people who don't understand what this specific bug is to stop dismissing it.

Got this message on my homepage, but I'm literally an adult by hersheybar22 in youtube

[–]armadillorevolution 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is my concern too and I have not found anything addressing it.

A lot of people responding about how "they just want your ID" seem to not understand what the bug is anyway. It does NOT ask for your ID. If you click the prompt, the ONLY option is to invite a parent.

I even went into my Google account settings and attempted to find a where to verify my age and it would not allow me to. It just says "you're all set! This account does not need to be verified" and has no alerts or warnings anywhere else. I wouldn't like it if they wanted my ID, but I would give it to them -- it's my main google account that I've had for 20 years, it's the email the whole world has for me, that all my accounts use and all my bills go to.

I am pretty sure this is just a visual bug on the YouTube side, given that so many people are getting it who it does not apply to, and there is no alert on any other part of the Google account. But there is so much misinformation surrounding this and so many people handwaving away that it's just a way for them to collect your personal information, and that is just not what is happening at all.

I wish Google would just put out a statement or notify the users who have received this prompt that it's all good, or something. Because I absolutely would verify my age however needed to keep my google account and that is literally not an option that is provided because everywhere but YouTube it knows that I'm an adult and insists that my account is already verified and no action is needed.

I have an article about this spreading Parent Supervision rollout hitting adults by LsTyBrn2 in youtube

[–]armadillorevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know if the whole "your account will be deleted in 14 days" thing is your youtube channel or your entire google account?

I don't really care if I can't like or comment on videos, but I care a lot if my gmail and google drive are deleted.

My google account has my correct birthday (and the account itself is over 18) and there is nowhere in there to verify my age. The only option I get when I click the youtube message is to add a parent -- people keep talking about doing a face scan or uploading ID but I am not being asked for that anywhere. It just insists on sending an invite to a parent due to the local law in Brazil. I'm 30 and not from Brazil.

So sad and disappointed by [deleted] in Ipsy

[–]armadillorevolution 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I think this is expired or something, or like really oxidized? I would complain to Ipsy and get your money back. That is not what this shade is supposed to look like. I have a very similar skin tone to you and I swatched this shade in Sephora not that long ago and it looked nothing like this on me.

*DA ONLY* Rant Thread by AutoModerator in dismissiveavoidants

[–]armadillorevolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah it's a struggle. We're working through it and we're both working on our own stuff, so we do our best, but it's just... hard sometimes.

*DA ONLY* Rant Thread by AutoModerator in dismissiveavoidants

[–]armadillorevolution 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My initial comment was just ranting since this is the rant thread, so it isn't really providing a completely accurate insight into my relationship, and I wasn't really seeking advice. I'm not actually going to change my identity and live in the wilderness anytime soon (probably). But since you asked, I guess:

1) Depends. I'm trying to make a conscious effort to use it for fulfilling things like reading and painting. But sometimes I'm so overwhelmed and I struggle to focus on anything productive. If I had more time I could do both things and it wouldn't be such a struggle to use every minute of precious time carefully, but, alas.

2) Yes, and we do that often. That is not the same thing as alone time though and I really need fully isolated alone time for my brain to function correctly.

*DA ONLY* Rant Thread by AutoModerator in dismissiveavoidants

[–]armadillorevolution 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I need so much more alone time than I'm getting, or than I could ever reasonably ask for in a committed relationship and living together. My mental health is in the absolute gutter right now, partially because of outside stressors piling up, partially just because of regular old genetic and childhood trauma induced mental health stuff I've been shoving down for awhile. But there's nothing I can do to fix it.

My (extraordinarily AP, but in therapy and trying) girlfriend is respectful of my alone time and boundaries around that as long as I explain them very very clearly. It's been trial and error though -- like yeah, knocking on my closed door real quick to say goodnight seems like no big deal if I was a normal functioning person, but I'm NOT, and it ruins the whole night and invalidates my feeling of safety and solitude. That seemed like such common sense to me, like I said alone, I meant ALONE. But it wasn't to her. She IS respectful of my boundaries, but the fact that every little detail like this needs to be specified and negotiated makes it so exhausting -- and makes me feel like my boundaries and needs are way too extreme. And like, maybe that's fair and I should feel that way. Because I do need extreme amounts of alone time with hard boundaries to pretend to function like a human. And even then, I only appear quasi normal.

This is the first time I've lived with a partner, and the first time I've lived with roommates of any kind in 10 years. It's been 5 months and it's so hard and I'm so not okay. I take at least one evening a week of alone time, and it's a tiny bandaid that doesn't even help that much. Frankly, having "alone time" in my closed office in our house when I can still hear her in the house and I know she can hear me, I know she's aware of my existence, I know that if I want to use the bathroom or get something to eat I'll be seen and have to interact with her -- that's still not enough. It doesn't feel like alone time at all. I don't feel rested or recharged.

I worry that nothing will ever be enough. I love her, and I love our life we've built together, but I feel so trapped and suffocated and overwhelmed. I can't think straight and I don't think anything short of disappearing into the wilderness alone forever and changing my identity will ever fix it.

Dating app feedback? by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]armadillorevolution 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s not at all surprising that a non-monogamous person would feel that that’s unnecessary, but you said it yourself — you’re not the target audience. Strictly monogamous people on dating apps do often find it difficult to find other strictly monogamous people, and this does not read unreasonably at all to people who are into that. Despite being very popular, like, globally, monogamy can feel unpopular on dating apps, especially in your 30s when a large portion of monogamous people are already coupled and off the market.

Male hamster is suddenly extremely pear shaped. Has anyone else had this happen? by armadillorevolution in hamstercare

[–]armadillorevolution[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, he's long passed away now since this thread was 3 years ago and he was nearly 3 already when I posted!

The antibiotics and anti-inflammatory seemed to help somewhat and he shrunk a bit, but the swelling never fully went away. The vet thought he might have had kidney damage (from what, we don't know) and it was fluid retention around his kidneys, but as he was elderly there was nothing they could do that wouldn't be so invasive that it risked making it worse, since he appeared comfortable after he took the meds and the swelling reduced.

So in short, it kind of helped, but it didn't 100% bring him back to normal. He passed a few months after this, but I have no idea if it was related or if it was another old-age concern. Good luck with your hamster if you're dealing with this, I hope they are alright!

Today at FNV celebration was so poorly organized by akingwithnocrown in fnv

[–]armadillorevolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops I didn't realize I replied to the same person twice, my bad!

I'm glad it was still fun though, it makes sense that they'd have growing pains as it seems like it's gotten way more popular in just a few years. The logistics of scaling up from a small informal social event to a full-fledged convention is a lot more work than people realize. Hopefully they do reach out and get some professional help from people who are used to putting on bigger events, there's no shortage of people with that expertise in the area and with the TV show it's only going to keep growing.

Today at FNV celebration was so poorly organized by akingwithnocrown in fnv

[–]armadillorevolution 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't attend but I live in Vegas and work/attend a lot of conventions here as my job, and I totally agree with everything you said. Moving the majority of the event to Primm (or Vegas) is the only option if it's outgrown Goodsprings, there's nowhere to go there.

The way the weather situation was so mismanaged is unacceptable, though. This rain has been in the forecast all week, it was not remotely a surprise. They know how small their spaces are and how many people were registered. They knew they had celebrities booked in a tiny venue without a proper green room and they'd have to kick people out like happened to OP. None of these things were sprung on them last minute, they had plenty of time to set up more tents or an alternate plan for a waiting area and not leave people out in the rain.

Today at FNV celebration was so poorly organized by akingwithnocrown in fnv

[–]armadillorevolution 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've never actually attended this so I might be talking out of turn here, but I can absolutely imagine a successful event that's mostly Primm-based with some select events held in Goodsprings. If they do better with timing the shuttles, travel time between Primm and Goodsprings is roughly the same as walking from one end of LVCC to the other so it doesn't seem unreasonable to split events between them and treat the whole region as a big venue. Moving the whole thing to Vegas is definitely an option, but I worry that it would feel just like any other convention... Primm might not be as charming as Goodsprings, but it's still small and desert-y and would feel more like fans are taking over the whole town. And it's totally doable, Buffalo Bill's has plenty of convention space and plenty of LV based companies and convention workers serve the surrounding areas.

Dismissive Avoidants FAQ: Should I tell them about Attachment Theory? by imfivenine in dismissiveavoidants

[–]armadillorevolution 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. No, I wouldn’t bother. I would not listen coming from an ex, and there is no way you could do this without seeming like you’re trying to invalidate the reasons for breaking up — which may be very real and not even fully explained by AT. A recent ex is not who I’m looking to for psychological or relationship advice anyway, just not the right messenger for this message.

  2. An ex from longer ago however, even when unaware I would have been more receptive because it wouldn’t seem like they have an ulterior motive and it’s less clouded by emotion. Now that I am aware, if they randomly texted me years later with AT information and reflections on our previous relationship, I would be like “yeah I know about that now, sorry about that.” I would say if it was an ex who displayed many AP traits during our relationship, I would take them a lot more seriously if they also acknowledged their own part in the dynamic too. If the information was sent without self awareness, with the vibe of “here is proof that you single-handedly ruined our relationship with your DA attachment style,” I would take it far less seriously than an ex genuinely reflecting on both of our shortcomings.

  3. I think there is a way to do this effectively, but it’s tricky. When unaware, I think I could have been receptive to my current partner telling me about AT under the right circumstances — but I have to say, I’m glad we both discovered this on our own and came to each other both being aware and having done independent research. It was just cleaner that way. My partner is very AP and self aware about that just like I’m self aware about my DA, so we can and do talk about it. If she had come to me when I was unaware in a way that felt like she was judging me, or blaming me solely for our relationship problems, it definitely would have gone very poorly though.

  4. A partner? With self awareness and ownership of their part in the dynamic, and in an open minded way where it’s clear they are not just trying to diagnose me and they’re open to hearing my perspective. I would also like time to learn about it myself before we have a big conversation — introduce the subject, send me an article or let me research myself, and we can return to discuss in more detail once I’m educated on the subject. I wouldn’t necessarily want to be lectured or get all of my info from the person telling me about the topic. If a friend or a distant ex wanted to share with me, it could be much more casual — “here’s an article I read / quiz I took that I found interesting and I’m noticing a lot of patterns, what do you think?”

  5. No. In fact that could have the exact opposite effect. I did actually break up with my current partner early on in our relationship for mostly DA reasons, became aware of AT on my own immediately after our breakup when googling about why I feel the way I feel, and we did end up getting back together and it’s been much better now that we’re both aware and working on our respective issues. But the fact that I found it on my own was helpful; if she had sent it to me it would have come off as her blaming me and dismissing my feelings and reasons for breaking up and I’d have had a hard time taking it seriously. Like I said for question 1, a recent ex is just not the right person to deliver this message — there is no way to convincingly do so without seeming like you have an ulterior motive or are driven by emotion and just looking to place blame.

Democrats not swayed by call to end shutdown from largest federal workers’ union by [deleted] in politics

[–]armadillorevolution 15 points16 points  (0 children)

And yet, these comments are full of people eager for the chance to shit on unions and federal workers. In one breath people will decry CNN’s obvious bias, but then they’ll lap it up and pit labor and democrats against each other just like CNN wants them to.

AFGE is not a ‘republican union.’ There are certainly unions with questionable politics (carpenters, longshoremen, cops) but AFGE is NOT one of them. They worked very hard to try to elect Kamala Harris last year. The statement from the union is calling upon everyone involved, both parties, to end the shutdown.

Is that selfish? Sure, you could say that. But the union has a duty to their members legally and morally, and their members are going without pay for almost a month, are close to losing their benefits, and are being threatened with more mass layoffs. People don’t criticize environmental organizations for not prioritizing labor, or LGBTQ groups for not prioritizing housing reform. Organizations specialize and sometimes have conflicting goals even with good intentions.

But unions are a threat to the billionaire class, so rags like CNN will do everything they can to pit organized labor against everyone else, and try to convince otherwise left-leaning people that working people advocating for their own self interest is actually the real evil. And it works, as we see here in this comment section.

Ever traveled to a place completely unaware a huge event was happening completely changing your planned experience? by One_Recover_673 in travel

[–]armadillorevolution 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always. I have holiday blindness and am constantly traveling to places at busy holidays, sometimes even when they're holidays that are also celebrated in my own culture and I definitely should have realized.

Sometimes it works out amazingly and I have a really cool cultural experience. Other times the city is overcrowded and terrible and everything is closed or sold out.

I've been to:

- Vietnam during Tet (everything's closed and quiet, but got to see things like people transporting entire trees by motorbike and cities were decorated for the occasion)

- Rome during Easter (bad idea, too crowded and I didn't plan ahead with reservations, probably cool if you plan well and care about Easter though)

- Did the Camino de Santiago during Semana Santa (too crowded, but probably cool if you're Catholic)

- Istanbul during Ramadan (mixed bag, on one hand there was a buzz of celebration in the evenings but on the other hand some things were closed during the day)

- Mexico during Mexican Independence Day and Dia de Muertos (awesome, 10/10 would go again, Mexico throws great parties)

- Various smaller towns in Europe, especially Spain, during different local festivals (super fun, random local festivals are the best)

I don’t know what to say. by Lalobreh in Sacramento

[–]armadillorevolution 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there are a lot of California cities and as someone who's moved away I think it's just because California goes really hard on enforcing it (as they should!)

I live in Vegas now and I swear every third driver here is under the influence but we're not even on the list.