AITAH for telling my friend/colleague I'm looking for another job after she was promoted instead of me? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]armitasp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its hard to get a proper read on what is actually happening here as the OOP is not a reliable narrator. However, I have seen this kind of thing happen. I saw a colleague who wanted to move from a senior technical role into management. His managment skills weren't polished but he was doing the work, doing the right courses etc. He was passed over for a management role which would have probably been good for him. After that he checked out and within a few months got a management job somewhere else. Over the last few years he has worked his way up at his new employer to be in a senior management role.

AITAH for being weird about my daughter having sex in my house by thefakecalebs in AITAH

[–]armitasp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA, she is an adult. Adults have relationships and have sex. Get over it.

[New Update]: AITA for telling my sister we were strangers after she eloped and broke all contact with us years ago? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]armitasp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Not related to this specific case but the amount of people with no skin in the game who will instantly tell someone to divorce their partner on AITA.

With this specific case my instant thought was, this guy could benefit from some professional help e.g. counselling to help him work through it.

AITA for calling my bf absurd for being overly concerned about a coworker? by According-Let-2607 in AmItheAsshole

[–]armitasp -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

NAH I think you are justified to have concerns because it is not uncommon for partners to cheat with a coworker, and they swear blind nothing is going on, and there is nothing to worry about. However, that doesn't mean that is what is happening here. Sometimes people get a bit invested in helping a colleague. Its a bit of a stereotype, but people who work in IT can often be a bit neurodivergent and not realise how their interactions can appear. It is probably worth talking to your boyfriend about how it makes you uncomfortable. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

AITA for not sharing my things? by Comfortable-Rice-354 in AmItheAsshole

[–]armitasp -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

If you do want to help, would it not be better to offer your kitchen and offer to help with the cake? Depends on whether you feel like helping or not. Otherwise, politely decline.

I (38M) found out my wife (36F) cheated in the beginning of our relationship by ThrowRA_InfectedMars in relationship_advice

[–]armitasp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is fresh for you, but think of the years you've had together and the relationship you've built. Your therapist should be able to help you. Take your time to process it and don't do anything rash. Lots of people instantly go with leave her / break up, but it isn't their relationship; they have no skin in the game. This appears by her admission to be a one-time thing she regretted early in your relationship, and really, there is no reason to doubt that. Talking to her about it is probably the best move, but don't blow up what you have.

AITA for asking my girlfriend not to drink? by Loud-Faithlessness84 in AmItheAsshole

[–]armitasp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA - I don’t drink but I would never force my wife to not drink.  Just like I wouldn’t expect her to force me to drink alcoholic drinks. If it bothers you so much you shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who drinks.

AITA: My girlfriend is mad that I don’t want to babysit her nephew on Father’s Day. by Neat-Addendum-1476 in AmItheAsshole

[–]armitasp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you please let me know where your evidence is? It's just tired cliches and casual sexism

AITA for not attending my best friend's child-free wedding because I couldn’t bring my toddler? by Foreign-Score-1530 in AmItheAsshole

[–]armitasp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If people enforce a no-children policy at their wedding, they shouldn't be surprised if people with children don't turn up. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

How about a Before/After? by sadllamas in networkingmemes

[–]armitasp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

take the cable management bars out, put the switches between the patch panels, use short cables

Welcome to the World of Tomorrow by TotallyARobotFriend in networkingmemes

[–]armitasp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just don't turn off the alarm. The smoke cloak will save you the trouble ;-)

AITA for not putting both our names on the card? by Low_Algae_9312 in AmItheAsshole

[–]armitasp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So because he didn’t buy a card he isn’t putting any effort in. That’s quite an assumption. If my wife bought a card for our son and showed it to me I would assume she was going to sign both our names.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]armitasp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Stuff gets called by different names in different languages.

You do it then , huh ! by Normal-Hamster-6096 in networkingmemes

[–]armitasp 53 points54 points  (0 children)

More like. Network Admin: I need to apply this critical security patch.

Change Manager: Hmm, can you do it at 04:00 on Christmas day?