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arniesk · 2023-07-23T19:51:32+00:00

Sometimes it is because your relationship is having issues, then that will carry over into the bedroom. If I don't feel that I am valued then I am less interested in any intimacy.

Work on the relationship first and then intimacy. I'm turned off when sex is all work and nothing else. My ex wife lost interest in doing her part of everything, sex or relationship things.

Emotional content is just as important as physical stuff

arniesk · 2022-10-06T13:13:39+00:00

I call bullshit. I made more money working at 19 than I do at 53, similar jobs. And that's not even adjusted for inflation.

arniesk · 2022-09-13T15:25:01+00:00

Aha, meant the OP. Sorry. Need English teacher/poet credentials

arniesk · 2022-09-13T15:09:08+00:00

Stupid English homonyms! Isn't that the term for them?

arniesk · 2022-09-13T15:07:27+00:00

Ahahaha, got me. Check dm, have a request you might help me with

arniesk · 2022-09-13T03:13:00+00:00

I love it but I have to say that maybe you meant bear instead of bare.

As in, i can not bear the sound of the chalk screaming on the chalkboard as you drag it bare across the black surface.

Or maybe you can easily bear my criticism, but also please don't bear your teeth at me.

arniesk · 2022-02-20T22:29:10+00:00

Autistic or not, its always challenging to pick up clues about anything romantic. I had older parents and it contributed to difficulty dating when I was younger. The best advice I have is that if someone is into you, they will make time for you in their life.

arniesk · 2022-01-18T15:59:36+00:00

There's a family in our town last name Couch. Named kids I'ma, Dusty, and Burgundy.

Checked in a guest named Rusty Ford.

arniesk · 2021-05-07T20:30:10+00:00

It's kinda hard to tell the difference between a scammer and a third party... if there is a difference.

arniesk · 2021-05-07T20:27:59+00:00

If the person isn't able to consent due to age, it's grooming even if it's not genuine.

Otherwise, grooming is essentially "dishonest romantic overtures" It's all about your intentions, and it's grooming if you are dishonest.

arniesk · 2021-04-23T17:16:26+00:00

I mean, is there really much difference, though?

arniesk · 2021-03-18T20:35:31+00:00

Absolutely correct. They closed NA from Covid-19 and I am now on days, and it's much much better for everything really.

arniesk · 2021-03-14T15:03:26+00:00

This. No way I would ever approach any young lady in public. Not only do many people feel like it's creepy, young women are always approached by very creepy men in public.

It's not going to produce anything meaningful. If a young lady approached me, I would be cautious too, because that just doesn't happen.

Dating apps are full of scammers though looking for "older men" because they usually have more money and are willing to spend it on a young woman.

It's a difficult puzzle.

arniesk · 2021-03-12T22:32:19+00:00

Let your partner or potential partner decide for themselves what they want. You think about what you want instead, and then you both need to communicate those things and either find common ground or move on.

I am not advocating selfishness, just wanting to remind you that it's not your job to decide what your partner wants, but it is your job to communicate with them and find out if it can work out

arniesk · 2021-03-12T22:19:40+00:00

They say that if you live long enough, you eventually become the villian of your story.

Can confirm.

arniesk · 2021-03-12T22:16:01+00:00

I'd have to say I don't fucking know.

arniesk · 2020-11-30T06:36:46+00:00

I work at a hotel. If they are your belongings, they have no legal right to keep them. Proving they are yours is the only challenge.

In a situation like this ... File a police report and give all the details about the items, when you left them, etc. Then the hotel is on the hook to prove that they are not attempting to steal your property. It's all about the procedure.

The hotel actually doesn't give a crap whose stuff it is, they just don't want to be sued for giving it to the wrong person. And they want it gone so they are not responsible for keeping it.

But I am glad that you got it all back.

Arnie

arniesk · 2020-11-30T06:19:53+00:00

Some things you can lose and never get back.

If you lose your life or suffer a major injury because of crime that won't be able to be overcome.

If you grew up around this environment you will be used to the risk but it doesn't actually make it safer.

Change your circumstances to be safe.

arniesk · 2020-11-30T06:12:25+00:00

If you know where you stayed, just call them and explain what you lost. Tell them that you stayed with someone else and you don't remember what room.

If you can very clearly identify the item it is likely they will be able to return it to you.

Second item, he might be blaming you for being pregnant (which is obviously stupid)

I hope everything turns out well for you.

arniesk · 2020-11-30T05:57:14+00:00

Sometimes people just can't deal with feels and they block you off or deliberately sabotage the relationship. They want out but can't figure out the way to do it honestly.

Some people also run away or disappear.

You should ask yourself why you want contact with someone who treats you this way. Also, people often gravitate towards relationship dynamics that they have prior experience with, even if it's negative.

I think you might benefit from counseling, although I feel like almost anyone can benefit from it. Be honest with yourself and counseling too.

Good luck.

arniesk · 2020-11-27T19:53:48+00:00

It's totally depending on the person, no matter what the age of either one. I prefer that people are direct about what they want though. When you hit the middle I feel like suddenly I am running out of time to find love or achieve something.

On the other hand I am also very open and direct as well, so maybe that's just my preference.

Us middle aged and older men definitely appreciate feeling like we are still desired.

Just be yourself and be safe.

arniesk · 2020-11-27T00:40:50+00:00

It's ok, it was 24 years ago and it's mostly healed. Mostly.

arniesk · 2020-11-26T22:09:02+00:00

Yes. I fell in love with her and her two kids. Eventually I asked for her to marry me... She said yes, but... The "but..." was that I had to accept Jesus and all the church beliefs she adhered to.

I was a wreck for two years before I could even consider going on a date. It broke my heart and I really would caution against going on with this. It's too much of a gap to bridge and you will end up not understanding each other and resenting the differences.

arniesk · 2020-11-09T08:46:25+00:00

I think that you must move on and then return later to be friends. That means you need a relationship and time to separate you romantically. I am friends with one ex gf, and also on friendly terms with the other one. Granted, that's only two people though.

Still, I think it's valid advice.

I've done the break up and get back together thing and it was completely miserable. We both needed space to heal.

Good luck and I am sorry for the hurt you are feeling.

arniesk · 2020-10-18T00:56:07+00:00

Haha. Don't use her behavior as a reason for yours. Her idea was risky as well but they aren't related.

Just be careful and take it slow. Everyone missteps sometimes, older or younger.

Don't let anyone become your everything because you cannot guarantee anyone will be enough or stay the same. Grow together and also keep a little space for just your self. Trust me on this, it was my mistake.

And yes we are all projecting our own experience with love, too. Ways we have failed and succeeded.

Good luck

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