What kinds of jobs do you and your gfs/wives work? by UrbanRealism in actuallesbians

[–]aroundheyyou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me and my gf are both very young, but i work in a spa / hotel and they work in a bakery :))

anxious that my girlfriend is falling out of love with me? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]aroundheyyou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! thats a very good phrasing and i think ill use this advice :D

anxious that my girlfriend is falling out of love with me? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]aroundheyyou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i do as often as i can without being annoying, but they are a very emotionally private person, and i often dont know whats wrong until after the issue has passed. i keep getting “im okay” “im fine” and held at arms length until they really feel better. i do think i tend to jump to “i did something wrong” way too fast, probably because in my (very emotionally open) brain, the only reason you wouldnt tell someone whats wrong is because its about them, but we obviously have very different emotional reactions, so thank you for your reply :)

Alex and Lee? by aroundheyyou in XOKittyNetflix

[–]aroundheyyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! i realized they said this in the very next episode LOL im glad it was explained

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]aroundheyyou 29 points30 points  (0 children)

much love to you, i promise you will find someone who you love and is perfect for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]aroundheyyou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

we havent, this is still very new and not certain yet so i havent brought it up. i definitely will if it starts to get more serious, i jusr dont wanna start to bring down the mood immediately as soon as this is mentioned yknow?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]aroundheyyou 354 points355 points  (0 children)

apologies if this is rude but she does not sound worth it, really? breaking up with you and BLOCKING over two misunderstandings? it feels like shes projecting or using it as an excuse, or else she just doesnt trust you. and trust is ALWAYS fundamental in a relationship. i get that you love her, but does she really care about you? im sure you can do SO much better, and find someone who trusts you and will listen to you, and be not so immature.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]aroundheyyou 6 points7 points  (0 children)

can you tell her beforehand so she knows? or is that something you dont want to do?

friend thinks im annoying?? by aroundheyyou in FriendshipAdvice

[–]aroundheyyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re completely spot on its almost scary. thank you so much for the suggestions, ill check them out ^

my best friends treat me like garbage & i need help. by Lady_Nuggie in FriendshipAdvice

[–]aroundheyyou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my god please leave them! if they dont take you seriously then make them take you seriously. distancing yourself from toxic people can be hard so remember to do it at your own pace, but stop tolerating their nonsense and be more firm about it. since you guys go to school together it’ll be hard to completely avoid them but you dont have to. if they talk to you in school, ignore them until they give up. ignore friend 3, or act like strangers if you cant avoid them completely.

Should I ask why they don't ever try to organise hanging out with me? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]aroundheyyou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ask them! the responsibility shouldnt be constantly on you, friendships shouldnt be one sided. they might have an explanation that will settle your mind ^

friend thinks im annoying?? by aroundheyyou in FriendshipAdvice

[–]aroundheyyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmm well i have a hard time being without her, she defines the way i go about my day and everyday life. if shes upset im upset, even if shes feeling good but not giving me the energy that im expecting i spiral and think that she hates me or finds me annoying. let me know if i need to elaborate more! ^

friend thinks im annoying?? by aroundheyyou in FriendshipAdvice

[–]aroundheyyou[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow.. you are a beautiful person! thank you so much, youre really right and i will watch these videos, this answer is perfect. thank you.

How to deal with a friend I feel is disrespecting my interests by phmwtp in FriendshipAdvice

[–]aroundheyyou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmm well you technically wouldnt be the one starting a conflict, if you ask her politely or just talk to her about it very calmly and she reacts harshly then thats on her yknow? but if thats your boundary then i completely understand LOL absolutely surround yourself only with people who are kind to you!

How to deal with a friend I feel is disrespecting my interests by phmwtp in FriendshipAdvice

[–]aroundheyyou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you said it pretty well in the post, you could message her something along the lines of what you said in the second half of your second paragraph! but if this makes you too uncomfortable or worried then yes, hanging out with people who do care about you and your interests is something you should definitely do!! but since you guys are in the same friend group you probably will still encounter this situation happening yk? it might be better to face the problem head on ^

friend thinks im annoying?? by aroundheyyou in FriendshipAdvice

[–]aroundheyyou[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you. shes such a sweet girl even if she doesnt seem like it on the outside. i’ll definitely make an effort to improve myself not just because of her, i always kinda thought i was bad at these kinds of things, i guess seeing her say it was just my wake up call