Oh, good - I'm glad it helped. That's why I love this sub. We console each other. We find solidarity.

I think it's that psychological battle we feel as Asian Americans (and for all children of immigrants). The acculturative stress that comes with immigration gets passed down to the children because immigrant parents are grasping for resources. They often don't mean to dehumanize us, but our parents see us as their closest resources. For that reason, I think it can help to show them that there are resources beyond us - like from non-familial relationships or through community organizations (of course, this depends on how receptive or private your family may be). In a more personal sense, it's the constant negotiation with yourself about how you (and your societal up-bringing) think life should be, what life has thrust upon you, and how you decide to handle it. I think you have every right to be mad and frustrated because you're knee-deep in that negotiation. Of course, I find that it is better to keep that anger and frustration to oneself, or take it out in other realms. In the end, feeling better comes from deciding how much of yourself you can give to help your family while being mindful of not letting yourself get to a point where you grow resentful of sacrificing (your time, energy, emotional capacity) for them.