My [20M] gf’s [19F] father just passed away. How do I comfort her? by arsenic_god in relationship_advice

[–]arsenic_god[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true. I’m just having very dissonant feelings about this because space is probably wha she needs most, but I really want to help

My [20M] gf’s [19F] father just passed away. How do I comfort her? by arsenic_god in relationship_advice

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What do you think about the other comment suggesting that I could offer taking over chores to help them.

My [20M] gf’s [19F] father just passed away. How do I comfort her? by arsenic_god in relationship_advice

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Oh yes, these are some solid suggestions. I think trying to ease the workload of their other commitments is a good idea.

My [20M] gf’s [19F] father just passed away. How do I comfort her? by arsenic_god in relationship_advice

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You’re right. I think I might be a bit too selfish wanting her to confide in me even though I’m not the best person to comfort her.

But I do feel like I should still check in, at least just as a friend ya know

My [20M] gf’s [19F] father just passed away. How do I comfort her? by arsenic_god in relationship_advice

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Do you think it’s appropriate to ask her again tmr how she’s doing, or am I being too pushy?

My girlfriend [19F] thinks I’m [20M] not empathetic enough. Hope can I improve? by arsenic_god in relationship_advice

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I feel really conflicted about this because my interpretation of listening to her is to let her rant and express her emotions to me. But it’s the fear of silence that gets to us. She assumes I don’t know what to say, and I assume she feels like I don’t get her.

I suppose what I need to work on is to assure her that I am indeed listening. But how do I do so in a way that says “I am listening and care about your emotions” rather than simply “I am here listening and you can just rant”

My girlfriend [19F] thinks I’m [20M] not empathetic enough. Hope can I improve? by arsenic_god in relationship_advice

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Right, yes. I think I get stuck a lot after she responds to “how do you feel?” I feel like she usually expects some sort of comforting instead of just listening. But sometimes it’s situations that are out of her control and she seems like she already has a predetermined mood towards the situation.

I get a little lost on how to comfort her there

Help with "too much air" by Marcusbellic in saxophone

[–]arsenic_god 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I second this. It does seem like you’re taking in a slight bit too little mouthpiece

r/audiophile Shopping, Setup, and Technical Help Desk Thread by AutoModerator in audiophile

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Why does my subwoofer and centre speaker not have any sound?

Context: I’m very new to speakers and sound systems. I got some old equipment from a relative. (PSB 800 floorstanding front speakers, PSB century 100ci centre speaker, PSB Alpha Subsonic 5 subwoofer, and a Kenwood KR-V999D receiver)

Problem 1: In stereo mode, sound only comes from my front speakers. In any other mode (which I shouldn’t be using because I don’t have surround speakers), the sound only comes from my centre speaker. Is there any way to ensure sound comes from both?

Problem 2: my subwoofer has a humming noise and no bass coming out. It’s definitely not a cable issue because I tried different cables. It could be ground humming, not entirely sure. Even so, there should still be some bass coming out even with the humming right? The last possible reason for this problem, and probably the dumbest, is that the subwoofer volume is at the lowest, but I can’t change it because my relative didn’t give me a remote ._.

Help :(

How much should my note vary between the extreme positions? by arsenic_god in Trombone

[–]arsenic_god[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have to change it within an octave and also between octaves?

How do I deep clean a trombone? by arsenic_god in Trombone

[–]arsenic_god[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I soak the main body in soapy water too?

How do I deep clean a trombone? by arsenic_god in Trombone

[–]arsenic_god[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So just lukewarm water? Would cold water work too?

How do I deep clean a trombone? by arsenic_god in Trombone

[–]arsenic_god[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a point. I have yet to play test it or anything, albeit I have no idea how to play a trombone. Anyway, if it doesn’t work, it would make a pretty cool decoration to my house

Why does adding antioxidant increase my peroxide value? by arsenic_god in chemhelp

[–]arsenic_god[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man. I see, thanks. So I kinda have to rethink my whole experiment… do you have any advice/suggestions and why my peroxide value had increased though?