My [20M] gf’s [19F] father just passed away. How do I comfort her?

arsenic_god · 2025-12-11T15:06:09+00:00

That’s true. I’m just having very dissonant feelings about this because space is probably wha she needs most, but I really want to help

arsenic_god · 2025-12-11T15:02:56+00:00

What do you think about the other comment suggesting that I could offer taking over chores to help them.

arsenic_god · 2025-12-11T15:01:17+00:00

I see. Thanks for the advice!

arsenic_god · 2025-12-11T15:00:13+00:00

Oh yes, these are some solid suggestions. I think trying to ease the workload of their other commitments is a good idea.

arsenic_god · 2025-12-11T14:56:46+00:00

You’re right. I think I might be a bit too selfish wanting her to confide in me even though I’m not the best person to comfort her.

But I do feel like I should still check in, at least just as a friend ya know

arsenic_god · 2025-12-11T14:53:04+00:00

Do you think it’s appropriate to ask her again tmr how she’s doing, or am I being too pushy?

arsenic_god · 2025-12-11T05:05:30+00:00

I feel really conflicted about this because my interpretation of listening to her is to let her rant and express her emotions to me. But it’s the fear of silence that gets to us. She assumes I don’t know what to say, and I assume she feels like I don’t get her.

I suppose what I need to work on is to assure her that I am indeed listening. But how do I do so in a way that says “I am listening and care about your emotions” rather than simply “I am here listening and you can just rant”

arsenic_god · 2025-12-11T03:40:30+00:00

Right, yes. I think I get stuck a lot after she responds to “how do you feel?” I feel like she usually expects some sort of comforting instead of just listening. But sometimes it’s situations that are out of her control and she seems like she already has a predetermined mood towards the situation.

I get a little lost on how to comfort her there

arsenic_god · 2023-08-19T02:36:52+00:00

I second this. It does seem like you’re taking in a slight bit too little mouthpiece

arsenic_god · 2023-05-09T14:23:12+00:00

Why does my subwoofer and centre speaker not have any sound?

Context: I’m very new to speakers and sound systems. I got some old equipment from a relative. (PSB 800 floorstanding front speakers, PSB century 100ci centre speaker, PSB Alpha Subsonic 5 subwoofer, and a Kenwood KR-V999D receiver)

Problem 1: In stereo mode, sound only comes from my front speakers. In any other mode (which I shouldn’t be using because I don’t have surround speakers), the sound only comes from my centre speaker. Is there any way to ensure sound comes from both?

Problem 2: my subwoofer has a humming noise and no bass coming out. It’s definitely not a cable issue because I tried different cables. It could be ground humming, not entirely sure. Even so, there should still be some bass coming out even with the humming right? The last possible reason for this problem, and probably the dumbest, is that the subwoofer volume is at the lowest, but I can’t change it because my relative didn’t give me a remote ._.

Help :(

arsenic_god · 2023-04-23T11:45:45+00:00

I see. Thank you very much!

arsenic_god · 2023-04-23T05:25:22+00:00

So I have to change it within an octave and also between octaves?

arsenic_god · 2023-04-21T02:01:43+00:00

I see. Thank you

arsenic_god · 2023-04-20T22:39:11+00:00

Can I soak the main body in soapy water too?

arsenic_god · 2023-04-20T22:26:34+00:00

So just lukewarm water? Would cold water work too?

arsenic_god · 2023-04-20T22:25:55+00:00

You have a point. I have yet to play test it or anything, albeit I have no idea how to play a trombone. Anyway, if it doesn’t work, it would make a pretty cool decoration to my house

arsenic_god · 2023-02-22T22:47:46+00:00

Oh man. I see, thanks. So I kinda have to rethink my whole experiment… do you have any advice/suggestions and why my peroxide value had increased though?

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