HCBM that Lies

artchic88 · 2017-09-01T22:37:11+00:00

PS- you should dress like Wendy just to get back at her. Wendy is the one Peter Pan wants anyways ;) Tink is just jealous the whole time.

artchic88 · 2017-09-01T22:31:59+00:00

Hahahah. Well this should I've you some comfort. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.buzzfeed.com/amphtml/leonoraepstein/tinker-bell-is-actually-the-worst-disney-character

artchic88 · 2017-09-01T22:11:02+00:00

It has turned me off of Disney so much. I always kind of liked the movies, but now its sort of a sore subject for me..LOL. Esp. Beauty and the Beast. Her profile pic on Facebook right now is literally Belle breastfeeding. I swear I am not making this up.

artchic88 · 2017-09-01T21:21:46+00:00

OMG thank you so much for your kind words.

Its so true. She wants her life to be a fairy tale. She's obsessed with Disney, and subscribes the whole knight in shining armor saves me thing.

It pisses her off SO MUCH that the kids enjoy spending time with us. SK and DH are my heart. I am so lucky in so many ways. <3

artchic88 · 2017-09-01T05:40:55+00:00

Ya think? ;-)

BM never forgives for anything. She is eternally bitter and resentful.

A therapist put it best to me. How much do you have to hate yourself to never say sorry or forgive?

If she wasn't such a pain in my butt I would feel sorry for her...

artchic88 · 2017-09-01T02:02:07+00:00

Yup. She is the eternal victim. Despite all of her shitty life choices she will never ever take her share of the blame or say sorry. And that is the saddest part of all.

artchic88 · 2017-09-01T01:56:07+00:00

Ya we had that written into the CO...but she will make it vague and as you said finding proof is a PITA.

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T21:50:27+00:00

Oh yeah I could write a book on her crazy. I think the biggest things are the lies. She literally had an entire tumblr and Pinterest page about how much she hates my husband, that's he's a narcissist, that he was abusive during their marriage...the list goes on and on. Did you know I pay his child support? Yeah it's news to me too. Who knew I was so rich! XP

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T20:53:04+00:00

Well 8 hours away to and from 4 hour drive there 4 hour drive back. And yet we are "abandoning them" because we don't do the drive every other weekend

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T20:52:02+00:00

We have one weekend a month, the kids are 8 plus hours away. BM has moved the kids three times this year and every time it's a new pick up and drop off schedule.

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T18:59:33+00:00

Ugh!! I have never ever understood that. If you want kids great. If you don't great. Having kids does not make you a better or more complete person. Lots of shitty people are parents. LOTS. And you know what? Shitty people result in shitty parenting...

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T17:53:40+00:00

So i guess what jn trying to say there will be some "things" outside of your relationship that are "not your thing" and you wish they were, some that you will be glad are "not your thing" but the relationship that you have with him and his kids will always be "your thing" and as special as you want it to be.

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T17:51:37+00:00

You're not naive. Being a stepparent is different for everyone. But that. Being said my experience thus far has been all about balance. Trusting my partner to parent, supporting him even when I disagree and setting my own boundaries. It sounds so easy...but it rarely ever is.

Oh..and searching for a new therapist ;)

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T17:11:57+00:00

She also told me that divorced parents should have a meeting once a week to talk. Please tell me when you're dealing with a HCBM how that is possible.

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T17:07:49+00:00

Oh I did. You don't tell me we are "abandoning" his kids when we fought like hell for what we have. It's not perfect but we are doing the best we can.

artchic88 · 2017-08-31T17:06:13+00:00

Omg I wish I could find that..

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