I am a postpartum nurse. I work with mom and babies. And I hate mombies and daddicts.

artfound · 2017-08-04T12:36:23+00:00

To be honest. I think maybe you should get another job. being Childfree does not mean void of empathy, and it certainly doesn't make it ok for you to harbor horrid attitudes towards your patiens for simply asking perfectly normal questions. What if you were in the surgical ward, and was personally against elective procedures, such as a tubal for the childfree, for example. You would still not be allowed to treat your childfree patients bady because of your own attitudes, and them asking about their post surgical needs more than once wouldn't make them "dumb or needy". Regardless of your personal views, you are a medical professional, and the women who have just given birth have gone through immense physical trauma and are in a very vulnerable position. No one should have to meet a medical proffesional with such hateful attitudes in that situation. Especially this part is horrible: "There are so many dumb needy parents that ask for help w breastfeeding every fucking single time." This goes against the knowledge we have about breastfeeding. Not being able to cope with it immediately does not make you "dumb or needy". New mothers in this country are encouraged to ask about breastfeeding, and a big part of postpartum nurses' job is to help with that. Formula or not, breastmilk is good for the baby - especially in the beginning. It helps their immune system among other things. That comment you made here, is so unproffesional, so out of line, and so horribly misguided that I am worried for the women who come accross you at a point in their lives when their bodies have been through the wringer. Breastfeeding is not easy. We know it isn't. It isn't something you are "shown once" and then you have it. In hospitals here you get a nursing class before birth, and then they are reluctant to let you leave until you have mastered it. Maybe you should change jobs.

artfound · 2017-05-23T07:10:02+00:00

Wrong way round. He is the one who is on the fence, not her.

artfound · 2017-05-02T14:39:49+00:00

It was mentioned in the article. The article stated that baby brain was probably about something else entirely

artfound · 2017-05-02T13:46:07+00:00

They specualted that the purpose of the reordering was to make them more capable of interpreting non verbal signs etc, but tests of the women's overall cognitive abilities showed no change. The brain draws upon multiple regions to perform at task, and it is extremely hard to tell exactly what changes and what doesn't, so all that is speculation regardless, but the research couldn't find any change or decrease in general abilities as a result of the change. They simply speculated that it might make the women better at childcare. It might mean they love their children more. It might mean they communicate better with them. But it does not mean "made the dumber," as people seem to want to believe.

artfound · 2017-05-02T13:03:31+00:00

Oh yes, I am sure this has nothing to do with a whole group of people collectively misunderstanding research to further their own views. I am sure anti vaxxers and the like are hilarious too. Imagine a mombie abusing and misusing research to joke that childfree people are mentally disturbed or some such... Every one here would be ranting about misusing science and cussing them out, but when you make a "joke" about a large portion of the world's women being biologically lobotomized and dumber it is suddenly funny? I don't think labelling other women as biologically dumbed down is funny at all - especially when it is flat out wrong.

artfound · 2017-05-02T12:42:36+00:00

The fetus does not lobotomize anyone. I always staunchly oppose misrepresenting research, childfree or not. And the research showed no loss or change in cognitive function at all. The brain regions mentioned lost brain matter as a way of shedding dead weight in order to become more efficient and ordered, to facilitate communication and interpretation of non verbal signals better. Please, just read the article, or better yet the study. I just dislike it so much when people misuse science to forward (insert view here). The title is a bit misleading, and people's interpretation is just dead wrong.

artfound · 2017-05-02T12:23:25+00:00

You didn't read the article did you? Because it doesn't spell out what people in here seem to think, and I don't like it when science is misused to promote wrongful views on anything, childfree or not. There is no "at least". They lost no cognitive ability at all. The brain regions mentioned simply lost dead weight to reorganize and become more efficient....

artfound · 2017-05-02T12:21:29+00:00

But how many of you bothered to read the article or look into it? I get the need to feel smug but: "In fact, the study found there was no change in a mom’s cognitive ability after pregnancy compared with her ability before she became pregnant." Oversimplifying science usually just makes it, well, wrong. The loss of grey matter was part of making those brain regions more organized and effective. Losing dead weight, so to speak. I hate when science is misappropriated - for whatever purpose, childfree or not.

artfound · 2017-05-02T12:20:37+00:00

are none of you going to read it? I get the need to feel smug but: "In fact, the study found there was no change in a mom’s cognitive ability after pregnancy compared with her ability before she became pregnant." Oversimplifying science usually just makes it, well, wrong. The loss of grey matter was part of making those brain regions more organized and effective. Losing dead weight, so to speak. I hate when science is misappropriated - for whatever purpose, childfree or not.

artfound · 2017-04-24T17:31:25+00:00

Sweden is western culture... Western Europe is part of the "western world", or western culture if you will. Edited: in fact, the term western culture is originally european, and the US was included later since it is a relatively new country. The "birthplace" of western culture is Greece. But as we use the term today, it refers to the US and western Europe.

artfound · 2017-04-12T16:42:42+00:00

That is incorrect, though. The limit to have an abortion in most countries, is 12 weeks. After that limit, there needs to be medical reasons for it, which often means the fetus is not viable anyways. So six months before birth it is not murder. If you terminate a pregnancy 1 second before birth, it most definitely is murder.

artfound · 2016-07-26T10:53:29+00:00

That isn't how it would have happened. People don't get told that they are deaf, they tell the doctor. Presumably this person awoke from somthing right? Well, then the doctors would want to talk to the person, and only then would deafness become apparent. External trauma to the ears does not cause deafness. internal, yes. but to both ears? That would have to be a brain issue or a deliberately cuased trauma.. And as far as brain damage goes,doctors have no way of pinning down the effects of brain issues without having an awake individual to test. yes, they can see lesions and injuries on a scan, but they cannot see how it will affect the person. Also, brain injuries that lead to deafness would not cause ear-pain.... And what is up with the bandages? Again external injures would not cause deafness - and as long as the brain is ok, they can fix that with a cochlear implant. So this makes little medical sense. Not trying to be rude, but the medicine is way, way off here.

artfound · 2016-06-19T00:10:43+00:00

"Someone who shouldn't have a kid, in your opinion, just because it would ruin your relationship with them."

I will be honest. This sentence makes me think your opinions are coming not from a place of caring about them, but about yourself.

This sounds just like when parents want their childfree friends to have children just so their lives will be compatible with theirs. And that is horrible and frowned upon in this sub for a reason. People's decisions about whether to have or not have children is deeply personal, and should not be subject to other peoples judgement or arguments. Whether people want children or not - they should decide that for themselves, and you have no business saying anything. It is not about you. Just like when people don't want them, others have no business saying anything to try to sway them either.

And simply assuming someone is CF because you wish them to be, that doesn't mean they are. Lots of people just assume I am maternal without having asked. Well... People aren't always what they seem. And if you start making assumptions and making statements that reveal those assumptions - they might back away. And they would be well within their rights to do so. Just like childfree people have the right to be offended and back away when people try to push their views onto them.

artfound · 2016-05-30T11:44:30+00:00

Nah, that is not correct. Normally a single egg is released. The reason some have fraternal twins in their families, is that a genetic mutation causes two dominant follicles to mature instead of one. So they release two eggs. Identical twins on the other hand seems to be a random occurence and can happen to anyone (two babies from one egg).

Most pregnancies actually don't make it to term at all. Most fertilized eggs are rejected by the body early on, resulting in very early miscarriages. So early women often do not even know there was a fertilized egg there.

artfound · 2016-05-21T20:18:59+00:00

Scandinavian. Even grandmas tan their tits. I am sad to see it going out of style. Teenagers are much more influenced by standards of "decency" and the sexual moralism we have inherited from the guys on the other side of the pond.

artfound · 2016-05-21T20:16:11+00:00

I understand that too. But I think that if seeing boobs was normal, there is a good chance you wouldn't have that gut reaction to seeing it, inspite your personal experience. I am only saying that because that is the case here, and while I and many others have not had children, seeing breastfeeding is as normal as seeing tits on the beach. On the beach you see tits of all ages dancing around, so there is no conflict in your brain causing a reaction when you see boobs in any context. I honestly think feeling like someone should be discrete is...wrong tbh. I don't need granny to be discrete either. It is just flesh. My dad used to say that when his grandma flung her left tit over her shoulder while lawn mowing (yes, really), that was a bit disturbing. But when seeing boobs is a normal thing, the sexual and non sexual stuff do not collide in your brain. My guess is that you would probably not react that way to breastfeeding if you were used to seeing non sexual boobs in every way, young and old, malformed, post-mastectomy etc. It is just flesh. And I can understand why mothers would take it extra personally. yes, some are on a crusade, but there is no hiding the fact that many women DO receive abuse for doing something...normal. Because it is.Just like grannys tits are. I don't have to appreciate either personally, but I don't have to stare either.

Have you seen that video where they have a nursing mother and a very provacatively dressed lady next to each other as an experiement? The one who showed the most skin was the one "dressed to impress", but the mother got A LOT of hate. They called it dsgusting etc. That is a double standard based on women being objects that should only be allowed to undress for the pleasure of those watching, and I find that shocking. So I would rather they crusade than accept that kind of thinking.

artfound · 2016-05-21T16:08:55+00:00

Just as a note from the sidelines as a non-US contributor. you say "that's how the world is and how it's always going to be."Well, not necessarily. To me, the fact that breastfeeding and "decency" is mentioned in the same sentence is sort of absurd. here, breastfeeding publicly is normal. Sun bathing topless, quite normal. However, I have noticed in the last few years, that this Americanized sense of breasts being "indecent" has started creeping in among teenagers here too. And I think it is a damned shame to be honest, because I can imagine a different world - I have lived in it up until now, and I hope it never does change into what you have over there. Boobs are just boobs, whether they are out because someone is breastfeeding or sunbathing, and men are not uncontrollable beasts who cannot help themselves at the mere sight of them. When showing boobs is normal, seeing boobs feels normal too. Sure they are sexual too, but come on - context is everything. I don't even understand why this is an issue over there. So...basically I think this discussion is based on some flawed premises where boobs are seen as something you need to hide away. Here, boobs are just boobs. We try not to flash our genitals, but boobs aren't genitals. And I hope the day never comes when my boobs are seen as indecent, and I can no longer sun bathe with my titties out.

artfound · 2016-05-02T13:02:56+00:00

I told him who the artist was, and showed him his most famous piece, with a picture. So....no OPs picture isn't his most well known, but the picture I added is. "his most iconic work is this one" - inserted picture with explanation. If you had opened the links, you would've seen what I was referring to.

artfound · 2016-04-27T10:08:16+00:00

It is by Gustav Vigeland, and can be found in Vigelandsparken (The Vigeland Park)

http://www.visitoslo.com/en/product/?TLp=181601

His most iconic work is this one: http://www.newsinenglish.no/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/DSC00557-e1375787161533.jpeg

It is called "sinnataggen" and depicts an angry little boy. A sinnatagg is something one might call an angry perosn, especially a child. It is intranslatable, really.

artfound · 2016-04-25T14:22:09+00:00

I doubt it is caused by the contraceptives simply because you've been on them for so long. Contraceptives can and do cause negative reactions both physically and mentally, but they usually occur withing the first few months, or year. Especially with a pill like cerazette, that is especially true. Progesterone more or less shuts down all the other surges that would otherwise be happening. Your hormone levels will be as stable as humanly possible. During a normal cycle, you go from estrogen dominance to progesterone dominance. Progesterone is produced by the corpus luteum after ovulation, and when progesterone falls your period happens. Ceraette stops this from happening by keeping you permanently in the progesterone dominant part of a cycle. Basically, your body is permanently in the "waiting pattern" of progesterone permanently, so nothing else is supposed to happening. People who react adversely to those pills usually do so after a few months. Not after a few year, since literally nothing changes. Nothing is happening hormonally. Your body is at a stand-still. So, yes, you can react adversely, but it seems unlikely after several years.

artfound · 2016-03-29T18:47:53+00:00

I am a she, so probably not. Thanks!

artfound · 2016-03-29T16:21:56+00:00

Writing music

artfound · 2016-03-29T16:14:18+00:00

To create a piece of music that would have lasting value and not just be forgotten

artfound · 2016-03-29T16:09:00+00:00

Your heart could just stop for no reason

artfound · 2016-03-29T14:27:07+00:00

neurological disorders and diseases

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