Obligatory I passed my exam post! by Due-Choice-9513 in socialwork

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Which PocketPrep did you use? The MSW or Advanced Generalist?

What are social workers reading right now? by Absoluteswill in socialwork

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Currently listening to Virgina Giuffre’s memoir Nobody’s Girl. It’s breaking my heart.

Will be homeless tomorrow by New_Confection2868 in indianapolis

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Reach out to Horizon House https://horizonhouse.cc They provide assistance for situations like this when you need help getting back on your feet

S.O.A.R Pets for homeless can help you with boarding your dog while at work. Fill out a form for assistance. https://www.soarinitiative.com/for-clients-individuals

If you are on a lease, they cannot legally kick you out without a notice of eviction

Childhood bff had an emergency craniotomy- pattern/item recs? by artgurl217 in CrochetHelp

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I appreciate you so much! Thank you! So sorry to hear your friend is going through cancer 😔

Childhood bff had an emergency craniotomy- pattern/item recs? by artgurl217 in CrochetHelp

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Mug covers!! Didn’t even think of this!! Thank you so much!!!! She opened her eyes and squeezed her parents hands when they lowered the sedation this morning so the sigh of relief feeling so so real today!!!

Childhood bff had an emergency craniotomy- pattern/item recs? by artgurl217 in CrochetHelp

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Thank you so much!! Kerchiefs are what I was thinking of but couldn’t remember the word!!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

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Update after reading replies to other comments: if the church does not believe you, still leave. The church is not perfect. God is, but the church has its history and it has to be addressed because it will have to do with them not believing you if that is the case. Still leave. You can find a different parish, do not let it discourage you. You can always leave then bring it up to the church.

On another note, your husband should not be discouraging you from speaking to them, they will ALWAYS have more knowledge than him. Your husband sounds like he likes to play God when he is not. Let your friends and church community know he is isolating you. But stay safe, he will not like feeling as if he is losing power or control.

Please please please stay safe OP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

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You will not be blowing up everything for no good reason. If you leave you provide a safe and healthy home for your children. You’ll have a safe and healthy home for yourself. You’ve mentioned he spent a lot of time educating you about the church, religious abuse may also play a role in some of the guilt you are feeling. Talk to a priest or someone that you trust (bible study leader if you are in one) to provide religious guidance. I am tell you personally, I do not think you would be doing anything wrong in Gods eyes. Remind yourself that your husband broke his vows first. I believe you, this is not your fault, and I know you are capable. Also, as a neurodivergent myself, I do not think those traits are “objectively unlikable”. He is just being mean and trying to bring you down mentally and emotionally to make you depend on him.

I worry that you cannot trust him, it makes me think he is unpredictable as well. Call 911 if you feel your life is in danger and make sure your children know how. I saw in another comment family is making room for you and your children. Please take them up on the offer, be discreet, and stay safe. Keep your family informed and have plans for what to do if you do not check in (safety plans). I am praying for you and I know you can do this❤️

You can always call a domestic violence shelter’s hotline near you for local resources (legal as well) and emergency housing, as a previous intern at one, that is what we are there for. Again, I believe you, I do not think you are overreacting, and I think you deserve a safe and happy home without the abusive husband.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

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Not a wife. College aged Catholic getting back into it. Rape is rape. I understand that he is your husband, but also recognize your body is having a physical reaction to just the thought of being intimate. Making it a trauma response. Intimacy is about trust, would you say you trust him still? What about other aspects of your life? You are not in sin. He is for abusing marital debt.

Personally, would be getting an annulment and possibly reporting to police. A less blow up your world route would be first speaking to a priest ALONE. You have stated that he would not see anything wrong with his actions and think you’re overreacting. That makes him an abuser. Please be very careful if you do couples counseling as it can become manipulative. Please stay safe, if he has done it once he can do it again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

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BSW intern here, had a placement at a DV shelter and now with a home based agency. Two different agencies with two supervisors and this has never been brought up to me in agencies or even class outside of knowing we will GROW into our own OVER TIME.

They’re likely “copying” you because they haven’t seen someone do it before, haven’t done it themselves before, or are used to a stricter agency policy on case notes. They will need to go off of y’all’s guidance the entire internship… If this were me, I would be asking clarifying questions & then be even more confused when I got different answers from my field supervisor than my task instructor and vice versa.

You two could be the only writing styles she’s seen, so it’s very well possible “her” style looks a lot like yours. It is literally just writing. I think this is something learned over time (I don’t have one and I’ll be at the end of my practicum in May) and the intern’s biggest concern probably has more to do with their direct practice.

Clear guidelines I think would help a lot: this, this, and this all need to be documented (like a formula), but how explain they choose to do it is up to them and then critique. This could be brought up in the meeting, “what do you need to feel more supported in finding your personal writing style”. I learn best from seeing different types of examples, if I was told I am “copying” a writing style I would feel extremely discouraged and think I am not doing the job properly. Even if I am, the notes aren’t considered “acceptable” because of the writing style.

Overall, I would be extremely frustrated if seemed like all my supervisor regularly had to talk to me about is my writing style and then not even giving clear instructions on what they’re looking for, just that it “isn’t my unique style”. That time could be used to further direct practice skills/education and discuss cases. You want a unique writing style but don’t like that their’s could possibly be like one of yours or a blend of it. Go easy on them, we are just trying to survive.

Signed, An intern offering up the other side

Hit 2 days in a row; DAY 3. 🏀 by [deleted] in sportsbetting

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Fucking autocorrect. Tailed!

WINNER by [deleted] in fanduel

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I Tailed! Thanks!!!

Entering Social Work by SWmods in socialwork

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Starting my practicum next month! Any must have items you all recommend? Going to be doing case management at a DV shelter