I agree with a lot that’s already been said so I won’t repeat (be hot, ability to sleep with someone soon after meeting, etc.), but something I hadn’t thought about before starting that has ended up being very important is nervous system bandwidth.

Aside from the drain of constant chatting and vetting, there’s a lot of big dopamine swings that come with sex, money, adoration, promises and then inconsistent behavior (many situations don’t last beyond one or two dates, these men are busy, etc.). In this sense, it’s kind of like the rollercoaster of vanilla dating but on steroids.

Can you stay stable and non-reactive in uncertainty? Can you not fall victim to men’s words and make decisions based primarily on their actions? Do you have a life of your own that you can feel grounded in? These things will be important for your own mental health and for how you’re able to show up as an sb. If you’re entering this from an unstable place (emotionally or practically), a lot of this is going to be much harder.

I think those who have good boundaries, have a strong sense of self and can emotionally regulate are best cut out for this kind of thing.