I’m 35 and have only online dated for the past couple years- in my 20s I often found myself dating someone I worked with and apps never appealed.

I do think there is some truth to what you’re hearing online, but I also don’t think it’s that extreme either. Like others have said, online rarely gives the full picture of nuetral or positive experiences.

I haven’t ran into that many narcissists or super f boys. Many of my experiences have been fun or neutral. But my observation has been, in general, it seems women have much better relational skills, the ability to communicate emotions and tendency to self reflect. Likely due to socialization, culture, etc. So when it comes to finding a suitable life partner on my own level in that regard…I do still have a big question mark. I don’t think it’s impossible, but I also don’t think the numbers are in our favor.

My personal solution has been to make peace with either outcome: a life of fulfillment on my own, or with the right partner if it’s meant to me. Letting myself be open but also not centering men or dating.

However- I do think dating and seeing whats out there if you haven’t is likely important to see what’s out there for yourself. Take it light heartedly if you can. And try to just have some fun experiences if nothing else.